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Marie Bergström. The New Laws of Love
Table of Contents
List of Illustrations
Guide
Pages
Dedication
The New Laws of Love. Online Dating and the Privatization of Intimacy
Copyright Page
Acknowledgments
Figures
Sources. Surveys
Big Data
Interviews
Introduction
Dominant discourses on online dating
The privatization of dating
Disembedded matchmaking
The transformation of social life
Dating under the microscope
Empirical sources and methods
Book outline
1 The History of Matchmaking
Marriage brokerage and personal ads
The old commodification debate
BBS and Minitel networks: praise and prejudice
Old and new on the internet
Notes
2 Dating Technicians
Copy and paste
Market segmentation
A clean, well-lighted place
Gender stereotyping
It’s a man’s world
Notes
3 The Keys to Success
How big is online dating?
Who seeks love and sex online?
Juvenile use: generational and age effects
A hookup culture?
Tense thirties
Back in the game: midlife dating
Notes
4 Time for Sex and Love
A sexual revolution or recession?
The acceleration of dating
No strings attached
The new shapes of love
Notes
5 Class at First Sight
Online homogamy
Segregation and algorithms
Distinctive profiles: photos and wordplay
Cultural prerequisites
Codes of conduct
Social bodies
Notes
6 The Age of Singles
Sex ratios and little white lies about age
Waiting young men, pickup artists, and incels
The new bachelors’ ball
Gender inequalities in aging
Social class and couple norms
Notes
7 Digital Double Standards
Female gaze and sexual objects
The “bastard” and the “slut”
Male initiative and female modesty
Under the threat of sexual violence
Terms of consent
Notes
Conclusion Private Matters
The machinery of matching
Private versus public
A history of privatized life
Dating as an island
Domesticity and discretion
Notes
Bibliography
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I believe the major change to be a privatization of social life. By this term I refer on the one hand to a shift from outdoor to indoor activities, as many practices that previously occurred in public space have migrated to the domestic sphere, and on the other hand to a tightening of social networks, which have become more centered around close intimate relationships. This means that mingling with strangers in public settings has become rarer, while domestic and private socializing has expanded. This evolution is palpable among adults, who spend less time with neighbors and more time with close kin and friends at home, for example (Wellman, 1999), but also in youth culture, where the advent of computers and digital leisure has contributed to a switch from “street culture” to a genuine “bedroom culture” (Bovill and Livingstone, 2001; Livingstone, 2002).
As Michael Rosenfeld and his colleagues have stressed, this means “disintermediating your friends” in dating (Rosenfeld et al., 2019). But the historical movement at work here is much broader. More than just circumventing family and friends, these platforms operate a sharp distinction between dating and all forms of sociability, turning the former into a specific social activity, with its own space and time. This is not a mere displacement of other meeting venues, it is a radical shift in the way we approach intimate relationships and organize social life.
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