Why are there so many books about getting into relationships, maintaining them and improving them? About how to impress, how to seduce, how to have sex… We find only a few books, maybe no book at all, about how to end a relationship… True, there are heaps of books about the causes and the statistics of divorces, lots of legal advice, hundreds of tips about how to avoid a divorce and how to get over its consequences. But no one has written about the event, the actual break-up. There are no common nor general solutions. People are different, and their relationships are different. But this small book can perhaps be of some help to everyone. If there is nothing left to try, learn to say ‘good-bye’.
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Tõnn Sarv. Learn to say Good-Bye
Preface
Introduction
Five needs
Three spheres
Two wise things
Beginnings and ends
Is sex a human need?
Relationships of couples
Other possible relationships
Relationships involving three people
Swinging
Free relationships
A half-dead relationship
Blind rage
Why have you not divorced?
Children
Economic considerations
Public opinion, friends and relatives
Habit, indecision and fear of change
Responsibility, empathy and feelings of guilt
Who will start?
Methods of successful break up
Vanishing
Extinguishing
Marriage vacation
Offering bait
Distancing
“We have to talk”
Summary
Complications
Getting over it
Afterword: from a grateful reader
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We talk here about the true end of a relationship. Concerning problems of the official drawing up the document, registering the divorce and the juridical questions in connection with, other sources, such as lawyers and advisers should be consulted.
Marriage and human relations are not derogated here. Every relationship has its sunny side, but unfortunately also a darker one. And as relations come to an end due to this darker side, let us take a glimpse at it. Nothing, neither living together nor getting divorced, is completely good or bad.
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There are no common nor general solutions. People are different, and their relationships are different. But this small book can perhaps be of some help to everyone.
If there is nothing left to try, learn to say ‘good-bye’.
