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Agnes H. Morton. Etiquette
Etiquette
Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION. I. ETHICS OF ETIQUETTE. II. VISITING CARDS
III. CEREMONIOUS CARDS AND INVITATIONS. ETIQUETTE OF REPLIES. THE "HIGH TEA," OR MUSICALE, ETC. WEDDING INVITATIONS. DINNER INVITATIONS. LUNCHEON AND BREAKFAST INVITATIONS. IV. THE CONDUCT OF A CHURCH WEDDING. V. ENTERTAINING. VI. AFTERNOON RECEPTIONS AND TEAS. VII. THE DINNER SERVICE. REQUISITES FOR THE DINING-TABLE. THE FORMAL ARRANGEMENT OF THE DINNER-TABLE. THE ARRIVAL OF GUESTS, MEANWHILE. THE ANNOUNCEMENT OF DINNER. THE SERVING OF THE DINNER. MISCELLANEOUS POINTS. DINNER-TABLE TALK. INFORMAL DINNERS. VIII. LUNCHEONS. IX. SUPPERS. X. BREAKFASTS. XI. EVENING PARTIES. XII. THE TWENTIETH CENTURY. XIII. "THE STRANGER THAT IS WITHIN THY GATES" XIV. "MAKE YOURSELF AT HOME" XV. "AS THE TWIG IS BENT" XVI. SOCIAL YOUNG AMERICA. XVII. THE AMERICAN CHAPERONE. XVIII. GREETINGS. RECOGNITIONS. INTRODUCTIONS. XIX. BEHAVIOR IN PUBLIC THOROUGHFARES. XX. IN PUBLIC ASSEMBLIES. XXI. BEARING AND SPEECH. XXII. SELF-COMMAND. XXIII. A FEW POINTS ON DRESS. XXIV. PERSONAL HABITS. XXV. SOCIAL CO-OPERATION. XXVI. ON THE WING. XXVII. ETIQUETTE OF GIFTS. XXVIII. GALLANTRY AND COQUETRY. XXIX. IN CONCLUSION. INTRODUCTION
ETIQUETTE
ETHICS OF ETIQUETTE
VISITING CARDS
THE OFFICE OF THE VISITING CARD
STYLE OF CARDS
THE ENGRAVING OF VISITING CARDS
CARDS FOR MEN
CARDS FOR WOMEN
CARDS FOR YOUNG WOMEN
AFTER MARRIAGE CARDS
THE USE OF THE VISITING-CARD
CALLING IN PERSON
CARD-LEAVING IS LIEU OF PERSONAL CALLS
CASES IN WHICH PERSONAL CARD-LEAVING IS REQUIRED
CARDS BY MESSENGER, OR BY POST
CARD-LEAVING BY PROXY
SOME FURTHER ILLUSTRATIONS OF CARD USAGE
THE "HIGH TEA," MUSICALE, ETC
THE CONDUCT OF A CHURCH WEDDING
THE ETHICS OF HOSPITALITY
AFTERNOON RECEPTIONS AND TEAS
THE DINNER SERVICE
REQUISITES FOR THE DINING-TABLE
THE FORMAL ARRANGEMENT OF THE DINNER-TABLE
THE ARRIVAL OF GUESTS—MEANWHILE
THE ANNOUNCEMENT OF DINNER
THE SERVING OF THE DINNER
MISCELLANEOUS POINTS
DINNER-TABLE TALK
INFORMAL DINNERS
LUNCHEONS
SUPPERS
BREAKFASTS
EVENING PARTIES
THE TWENTIETH CENTURY
"THE STRANGER THAT IS WITHIN THY GATES"
"MAKE YOURSELF AT HOME"
"AS THE TWIG IS BENT"
SOCIAL YOUNG AMERICA
THE AMERICAN CHAPERONE
GREETINGS. RECOGNITIONS. INTRODUCTIONS
BEHAVIOR IN PUBLIC THOROUGHFARES
IN PUBLIC ASSEMBLIES
BEARING AND SPEECH
SELF-COMMAND
A FEW POINTS ON DRESS
PERSONAL HABITS
SOCIAL CO-OPERATION
ON THE WING
ETIQUETTE OF GIFTS
GALLANTRY AND COQUETRY
IN CONCLUSION
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Agnes H. Morton
Published by Good Press, 2019
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In this country, where most society men—certainly the better element—are "business men," whose days are filled with earnest work and crowned with the achievements of industry, it is not to be expected that men of affairs will always be ready to respond to social invitations, or to pay all the calls of civility which fashion decrees shall be paid during the hours usually devoted to business. In theory, each man and woman in society is supposed to attend to his or her own social duties. While it is expected that a man will make all reasonable effort to do this, and that he will not altogether neglect it, still, so long as he occasionally appears personally, with a genial demeanor that proves the sincerity of his "good intentions," it will be accepted in good part if, in a large number of instances, his card, instead of himself, appears, brought by another hand. But let men remember that the "good excuse" must be obvious. Any suspicion of indifference robs the proxy card-leaving of all effect as a compliment.
In case a man is legitimately prevented, by business cares, from paying calls or leaving his cards in person, it is proper for his wife or mother or sister, or other near relative, to leave or send his card with her own. When a woman calls upon another woman she leaves her husband's card. If the hostess is married, a second card is left for the host. She may leave the cards of a son, a brother, or other relative, if such responsibility rests upon her. This formality should be observed when paying the first call of the season.
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