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Craig Cashwell. Shadows of the Cross
Preface. Getting the Most from This Book
The Blessings of Recovery—Psychological and Spiritual
Going Deep—One Task at a Time
Walking the Path with Support and Guidance
Chapter One. Understanding Sex Addiction
Meditation: Samantha's Story
Samantha and the Prodigal Son
Quote for Today
Prayer for Today
Journal
A Christian "Lens" on Sex Addiction
Can I Be a Christian and a Sex Addict?
The God-Shaped Hole
Emptying
Filling
Attachment to God
Doctrinal Representations of God
Experiential Representations of God
"Progress Not Perfection"
A Self-Directed Vision of Maturity
Collaboration with God
Serenity Prayer
Hope for Recovery
The Samaritan Woman
The Parable of the Prodigal Son
Chapter Two. The Importance of Spiritual Disciplines
Beliefs, Practices, and Experiences
Preliminary Plan
Prayer
Speaking Prayers
Listening Prayers
Ten Steps in the Examination of Consciousness
Meditation
Palms Down, Palms Up
Concentration on Breathing
Meditation on Scriptures ("Divine Reading")
Watchful Meditation
Study
Simplicity
Confession
Solitude
Forgiveness
Service
Committing to Action
Chapter Three. Jesus and the Twelve Steps
Step One
Step Two
Step Three
Step Four
Step Five
Step Six
Step Seven
Step Eight
Step Nine
Step Ten
Step Eleven
Step Twelve
Grace and Effort
One, Two, Three . . . Twelve
Spiritual Disciplines
Chapter Four. Who Am I in Christ?
Meditation
Blessed Are the Humble: A Modern Parable
Justifying Addictive Behavior. Reflection on Scripture
"I cannot really trust God."
Fear of abandonment:
Fear of being unlovable:
Fear of saying/doing the wrong thing:
Fear that previous actions are unforgivable:
Fear that recovery will always be difficult:
Fear that you cannot remain in recovery from your addiction:
"I am God."
"I deserve it."
"I work really hard. I deserve to have some fun."
"My spouse just isn't as sexual as I am."
"God made me a highly sexual person and I need outlets for that."
"I do a lot of good for other people. Looking at pornography doesn't hurt anyone and it makes me relax. It's just me doing something for me."
"I am different/special."
"Being 'found out' would be terrible."
Prayer of Gratitude
"No one is being hurt."
"I can handle it."
"God will deliver me from my addiction ... so I don't need to do anything."
"Reality is unbearable."
"I can do just a little of my old behavior and be okay."
"It's not my fault."
Religious and Spiritual Consequences
The Highest Self
The Mask You Wear
Cultivating Humility
God Has an Answer
Beyond Recovery? Not at All
Spiritual Disciplines
Chapter Five. What Is an Addiction?
The Parable of the Rich Fool
Addiction as Spiritual Bondage
Sex Addiction in the Church
Shame: Fuel for Addiction
Acting Out and Acting In: Shame, Religion, and Sexual Anorexia
Experiencing Freedom from Bondage
Known of God
Spiritual Disciplines
Prayer of Continued Deliverance
Prayers of Thanksgiving
Meditation on Scripture
Chapter Six. What is a First Step?
Modern-Day Parable—The Tale of Two Gardens
Elements of a First Step
The Four Pillars of Addiction
Religion and Sexuality History
Worst Religious or Spiritual Moments
Sharing Your First Step
Nothing New under the Sun
Heartful Confession
Passion and Compassion
Thorn in the Flesh
While He Was Still a Long Way Off
Compassion and Self-Compassion
Spiritual Disciplines. Prayers of Petition
Prayers of Intercession
Meditation on Scripture
Chapter Seven. What Damage Has Been Done?
Modern-Day Parable: The Unmerciful CFO
Damage Control
Minimizing Ongoing Damage
There Is a Time for Everything
Healing the Spiritual-Sexual Split
Spiritual Disciplines
Prayers of Petition
Prayers of Repentance
Modified Jesus Prayer
Contemplative Reading
Chapter Eight. What is Sobriety?
A Modern-Day Parable: Pete and the High Street SA Group
Three Facets of Spiritual Health
Serenity, Security, and Sobriety
Fruits of the Spirit
Simplicity: The Antidote to Chaos
Spiritual Disciplines
Prayers of Petition
Affirmations
Meditation on Rock Bottom
Chapter Nine. What Has Happened to Your Body?
The Temple
Thieves in the Temple
A Modern-Day Parable Based on Matthew 13:44
Thoughts behind Addictive Processes
Feelings behind Addictive Processes
Layers of Emotions ... And the Truth Will Set You Free
Locating Emotions in the Body
Faith and the Addiction Neuropathways
Arousal
Numbing
Fantasy
Deprivation
Spiritual Disciplines
Breath Prayer
Chapter Ten. Where is Your Support?
A Modern-Day Parable: The Good Samaritan
The Biggest Lie?
Twelve Step Programs
Privacy versus Secrecy
A Moral Imperative
Committing to Use Your Support Network
Spiritual Disciplines
Eleventh Step Prayer
Daily Examination of Consciousness
Service
Submission
Chapter Eleven. Where Do I Go from Here?
Strengthening the Spiritual Life. Modern-Day Parable—The Lost Musician
Press On
A Lamp, Not a Flashlight
Watch and Pray
Goal Setting
Spiritual Disciplines
Prayer of Thanksgiving and Petition
Breath Prayer
Eleventh Step Prayer
Divine Reading
Conclusion
Appendix A. Twelve Steps, Biblical Text, Recovery Principles, and Spiritual Disciplines
Appendix B. First Seven Tasks of the Thirty Task Recovery Model
Appendix C. The Twelve Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous
Appendix D. The Twelve Steps of Sexaholics Anonymous
Appendix E. Activity Checklist
Endnotes
Acknowledgements
