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Elizabeth K. Englander. 25 Myths about Bullying and Cyberbullying
Table of Contents
Guide
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25 Myths About Bullying and Cyberbullying
About the Author
Preface
Chapter 1 Why Talk About Myths Instead of Facts?
Notes
Chapter 2 Myth #1: Bullying is usually about a big kid beating up a smaller kid
To‐Do for Myth #1: Bullying is usually about a big kid beating up a smaller kid
Notes
Chapter 3 Myth #2: Bullying causes suicide and homicide
3.1 Question #1: Can being bullied cause a child to begin thinking about suicide?
3.2 Question #2: When should a parent be most worried about bullying leading to suicidal thoughts or actions?
To‐Do for Myth #2: Bullying causes suicide and homicide
Notes
Chapter 4 Myth #3: Bullying is a normal part of childhood
To‐Do for Myth #3: Bullying is a normal part of childhood
Notes
Chapter 5 Myth #4: Kids who are small and physically weak are targeted for bullying
To‐Do for Myth #4: Kids who are small and physically weak are targeted for bullying
Notes
Chapter 6 Myth #5: The most important thing is what they did to you
To‐Do for Myth #5: The most important thing is what they did to you
Chapter 7 Myth #6: Cyberbullying is just like bullying, only on the computer
To‐Do for Myth #6: Cyberbullying is just like bullying, only on the computer
Notes
Chapter 8 Myth #7: Bullying and cyberbullying are separate problems
To‐Do for Myth #7: Bullying and cyberbullying are separate problems
Note
Chapter 9 Myth #8: Most adults cannot help kids with computer or Internet issues, since kids typically know more than they do
To‐Do for Myth #8: Most adults cannot help kids with computer or Internet issues, since kids typically know more than they do
Chapter 10 Myth #9: Bullying and cyberbullying stop after high school
To‐Do for Myth #9: Bullying and cyberbullying stop after high school
Notes
Chapter 11 Myth #10: Cyberbullying is usually anonymous
To‐Do for Myth #10: Cyberbullying is usually anonymous
Notes
Chapter 12 Myth #11: Cyberbullying is the most emotionally devastating form of bullying
To‐Do for Myth #11: Cyberbullying is the most emotionally devastating form of bullying
Notes
Chapter 13 Myth #12: Bullies have emotional problems
To‐Do for Myth #12: Bullies have emotional problems
Chapter 14 Myth #13: All children all equally vulnerable to bullying
To‐Do for Myth #13: All children all equally vulnerable to bullying
Notes
Chapter 15 Myth #14: Bullies are raised in dysfunctional families by parents who are bullies themselves
To‐Do for Myth #14: Bullies are raised in dysfunctional families by parents who are bullies themselves
Notes
Chapter 16 Myth #15: Revenge is an effective way to handle bullies
To‐Do for Myth #15: Revenge is an effective way to handle bullies
Chapter 17 Myth #16: Bullies don't understand how much they're hurting the target
To‐Do for Myth #16: Bullies don't understand how much they're hurting the target
Note
Chapter 18 Myth #17: Schools don't do anything about bullying
To‐Do for Myth #17: Schools don't do anything about bullying
Chapter 19 Myth #18: Schools can't take any action in cyberbullying cases
To‐Do for Myth #18: Schools can't take any action in cyberbullying cases
Note
Chapter 20 Myth #19: Schools could absolutely stop bullying if they wanted to
To‐Do for Myth #19: Schools could absolutely stop bullying if they wanted to
Notes
Chapter 21 Myth #20: When kids shake hands and make up, the bullying stops
To‐Do for Myth #20: When kids shake hands and make up, the bullying stops
Note
Chapter 22 Myth #21: There’s no point in forcing kids to be nicer to each other, because they’ll just be mean again when the adults aren’t there
To‐Do for Myth #21: There’s no point in forcing kids to be nicer to each other, because they’ll just be mean again when the adults aren’t there
Note
Chapter 23 Myth #22: If only kids would report to adults, the problem would be solved
To‐Do for Myth #22: If only kids would report to adults, the problem would be solved
Note
Chapter 24 Myth #23: The best way to stop bullying is for bystanders to confront bullies and stop bullying episodes
To‐Do for Myth #23: The best way to stop bullying is for bystanders to confront bullies and stop bullying episodes
Note
Chapter 25 Myth #24: The best way to deal with cyberbullying is to keep kids off their phones and computers
To‐Do for Myth #24: The best way to deal with cyberbullying is to keep kids off their phones and computers
Notes
Chapter 26 Myth #25: Just ignore them, and they'll leave you alone. That's the best strategy for dealing with bullies
To‐Do for Myth #25: Just ignore them, and they'll leave you alone. That's the best strategy for dealing with bullies
Notes
Conclusion The Good, the Bad, and Why It Usually Isn't Ugly
Index. A
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Elizabeth K. Englander
If you're lucky enough to have missed it, the Momo Challenge was a widely hyped Internet panic. The idea was that an intensely scary character could, unprovoked, pop up on the screen while any child was using any website and urge that user to hurt themselves. The chatter was frightening, but once you stepped back, the assumptions were a little bizarre: sure, maybe the scary character could pop up on any website; but could it really be true that even a healthy, well‐adjusted child could take the “challenge” and end up committing suicide?
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So maybe it worked for you. Will it work for your child? Even a cursory search will quickly show you that many experts – including myself – don't encourage this as a tactic that's likely to work. The point here isn't whether or not to hit; it's that the advice you read may directly contradict your own (admittedly powerful) experience. Clarifying explanations would be helpful, but they aren't always there, or aren't always clear. (The reason, by the way, that I personally don't recommend hitting back is that in the current climate, this strategy is likely to backfire. The first thing a bully may do is go tell an authority figure that he's been hit, and now the original target will be the one in trouble. Not only that, the bully can easily take revenge online.)
Faced with all this – the contradictions, the inapplicability of your own experiences, and the lack of traditional parenting support (read: your own parents) – you could easily end up fruitlessly debating the situation in your own mind. Your own experiences matter, but maybe they were more relevant in a bygone world; one expert says one thing, another has entirely different advice. Maybe if your child hits back, it'll just worsen the entire situation. On the other hand, if he succeeds, perhaps the experience will increase his self‐confidence immensely. This back‐and‐forth is all well and good in academic circles; but in real life, faced with a crisis, it can add to the frustration instead of helping resolve the problem.
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