Emotional Confidence: Simple Steps to Build Your Confidence
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Gael Lindenfield. Emotional Confidence: Simple Steps to Build Your Confidence
Contents
Acknowledgements
Note to 2014 Edition
Introduction
What Is Emotional Confidence?
PORTRAIT OF A PARAGON
How to Use this Book
A Quick Tour through the Book. WHY WE NEED EMOTIONAL CONFIDENCE
PART 1: THREE KEYS TO BUILDING EMOTIONAL CONFIDENCE
PART 2
To Read On or Not to Read On – Is that Your Question?
Why We Need Emotional Confidence
25 Compelling Reasons for Building and Maintaining Emotional Confidence
KEY 1. Tame Your Temperament
Understanding How Feelings Work
WHAT IS AN EMOTION?
WHY DO WE HAVE EMOTIONS?
WHAT IS HAPPENING IN OUR BODIES WHEN WE FEEL AN EMOTION?
Instant Exercise
WHAT IS THE NEOCORTEX AND WHAT EXACTLY DOES IT DO?
Instant Exercise
WHAT IS THE AMYGDALA AND WHAT IS ITS FUNCTION?
Why Do We Still Sometimes Respond So Primitively?
Instant Exercise
Instant Exercise
An Embarrassing Tale
Instant Exercise
HOW LONG DOES AN EMOTION LAST?
WHAT IS A MOOD?
Instant Exercise
WHAT IS TEMPERAMENT?
Instant Exercise
HOW DO EMOTION, MOOD AND TEMPERAMENT RELATE TO EACH OTHER?
Instant Exercise
DOES EACH EMOTION HAVE ITS OWN NEUROLOGICAL RESPONSE?
WHAT ROLE DOES ‘NURTURE’ PLAY IN SHAPING OUR EMOTIONAL RESPONSES?
Instant Exercise
2. Nurture Defines What We Expect from Emotions
Instant Exercise
3. Nurture Helps Shape the Style We Use to Express Emotion
Instant Exercise
4. Nurture Influences the Way We Make Use of Emotion
Instant Exercise
CAN WE HAVE AN EMOTION WITHOUT REALIZING WE ARE EXPERIENCING IT?
Instant Exercise
WHAT HAPPENS IF WE DO NOT PHYSICALLY RELEASE AN EMOTION?
ARE EMOTIONS CONTAGIOUS?
Instant Exercise
DO WE ALL HAVE THE SAME EXPERIENCE OF A PARTICULAR EMOTION?
Skills for Taking Control
CHECKLIST 1: HOW GOOD IS YOUR CONTROL OVER YOUR PHYSICAL RESPONSES? Breathing
Muscle Tension
Diet
Catharsis
Professional Help
CHECKLIST 2: HOW GOOD IS YOUR CONTROL OVER YOUR MIND’S RESPONSES?
CHECKLIST 3: HOW GOOD IS YOUR CONTROL OVER YOUR BEHAVIOURAL RESPONSES?
KEY 2. Soothe Your Sensitivity
Why We Need to Heal Emotional Wounds Promptly and Efficiently
1. WE HAVE LESS RESISTANCE TO OTHER HURTS
2. WE ARE LIKELY TO BE MORE FEARFUL OF POTENTIALLY GOOD OPPORTUNITIES WHICH COULD BE EMOTIONALLY STRENGTHENING
3. WE CAN EXPERIENCE EMOTIONAL CONFUSION, CAUSED BY INAPPROPRIATE FEELINGS LEAKING INTO A CURRENT SITUATION
4. WE ARE IN DANGER OF LOSING CONTROL IF A FEELING FROM AN UNHEALED WOUND IS ECHOED AND INAPPROPRIATELY AMPLIFIED
5. WE ENDANGER OUR ABILITY TO FEEL AND EXPRESS POSITIVE EMOTIONS SUCH AS JOY, EXCITEMENT, LOVE AND COMPASSION
Can We Heal Every Emotional Wound?
Why Are Some People More Adept at Emotional Healing than Others?
How Can this Strategy Help Build Emotional Confidence?
The Emotional Healing Strategy
THE FIVE ESSENTIAL STEPS
THE TWO BONUS STEPS
STEP 1 – EXPLORATION
STEP 2 – EXPRESSION
STEP 3 – COMFORT
HOW TO MAKE AN ASSERTIVE REQUEST FOR COMFORT
STEP 4 – COMPENSATION
STEP 5 – PERSPECTIVE
(BONUS) STEP 6 – CHANNELLING
(BONUS) STEP 7 – FORGIVENESS
KEY 3. Harness Your Habits
REMINDER
GUILT. PROTECTIVE MESSAGE
RELATED EMOTIONS
COMMON HURTFUL HABITS
DISCUSSION
CHILDHOOD FACTORS
ADULT HABITS
TIPS FOR BETTER MANAGEMENT
BALM
REMINDER
SHAME. PROTECTIVE MESSAGE
RELATED EMOTIONS
COMMON HURTFUL HABITS
DISCUSSION
CHILDHOOD FACTORS
ADULT HABITS
TIPS FOR BETTER MANAGEMENT
BALM
REMINDER
ANGER. PROTECTIVE MESSAGE
RELATED EMOTIONS
COMMON HURTFUL HABITS
CHILDHOOD FACTORS
ADULT HABITS
TIPS FOR BETTER MANAGEMENT
BALM
REMINDER
FEAR. PROTECTIVE MESSAGE
RELATED EMOTIONS
COMMON HURTFUL HABITS
DISCUSSION
CHILDHOOD FACTORS
ADULT HABITS
TIPS FOR BETTER MANAGEMENT
BALM
REMINDER
JEALOUSY. PROTECTIVE MESSAGE
RELATED EMOTIONS
COMMON HURTFUL HABITS
DISCUSSION
CHILDHOOD FACTORS
ADULT HABITS
TIPS FOR BETTER MANAGEMENT
BALM
REMINDER
ENVY. PROTECTIVE MESSAGE
RELATED EMOTIONS
COMMON HURTFUL HABITS
DISCUSSION
CHILDHOOD FACTORS
ADULT HABITS
TIPS FOR BETTER MANAGEMENT
BALM
REMINDER
APATHY. PROTECTIVE MESSAGE
RELATED EMOTIONS
COMMON HURTFUL HABITS
DISCUSSION
CHILDHOOD FACTORS
ADULT HABITS
TIPS FOR BETTER MANAGEMENT
BALM
REMINDER
UNBRIDLED LOVE. PROTECTIVE MESSAGE
RELATED EMOTIONS
COMMON HURTFUL HABITS
DISCUSSION
CHILDHOOD FACTORS
ADULT HABITS
TIPS FOR BETTER MANAGEMENT
BALM
REMINDER
Maintaining Emotional Confidence
Further Reading and Resources. Books. SUMMARIES OF RESEARCH ON EMOTION
SOURCES OF QUOTATIONS
HANDLING AND UNDERSTANDING SPECIFIC FEELINGS
TITLES BY GAEL LINDENFIELD
Courses and Seminars Led by Gael Lindenfield
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List of Searchable Terms
Other Titles in this Series
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Copyright
About the Publisher
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To Kathryn Edwards
– to whom I shall be everlastingly grateful for underpinning my own emotional confidence with so much practical and emotional support during those testing few weeks following the death of my daughter Laura
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2. a number of quickly repeated emotional experiences (e.g. a series of frustratingly ineffective phone calls leading to a despairing mood; meeting a succession of inspiring people at a conference or party leading to a motivated mood)
3. changes in internal chemistry due to, for example, lack of sleep, menstruation, food deprivation, weather conditions, etc.
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