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Gisela Preuschoff. Raising Girls: Why girls are different – and how to help them grow up happy and confident
CONTENTS
Foreword by Steve Biddulph
Introduction
ONE WHY GIRLS ARE DIFFERENT
We’re all individuals…
The biological part of the story
Between the ears
Developmental differences and their consequences
Parents’ expectations and behaviour
Who you are is crucial
Your ideas of femininity
The types of girls
What makes girls the way they are?
My own view
TWO DEVELOPING YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR NEW DAUGHTER
The first step
True bonding – the prerequisite for healthy development
The ‘positive mother/father complex’
Making her feel ‘uplifted’
The importance of the father
Don’t give her everything she wants
Set a good example
Be a good role model
Eating with pleasure
Limiting sweets
Food and power
She can help you cook
Mealtime behaviour
THREE HER EARLY YEARS
Language development
What do sport, music and mud have to do with intelligence?
Steps in physical skills
Goodbye nappies, hello potty
Girls learn earlier
Sexual curiosity
Fathers and daughters – what’s okay?
Do you want to return to work?
Childcare options
Choosing to stay at home
Money isn’t the only factor
FOUR HER EMOTIONAL WORLD
The importance of self-esteem
Fathers and self-esteem
Encourage her early and often
Let her imagine and create
Dealing with fear
Accepting feelings
How to reduce fear
Parents’ fears
Fears that are specific to girls
The problem of ‘learned helplessness’
Thinking can make it so
Girls and pets – a great combination
Girls and horses – an intimate relationship
Learning to ride
Owning a horse
FIVE HOW SOCIETY CONDITIONS GIRLS
Gender stereotypes and what to do with them
Expressing anger
How Girls Relate
What should we do about Barbie?
Shake up the clichés
Why books are important
Fairytales
Little girls and dressing up
The many faces of beauty
The media’s depiction of women
SIX SCHOOLS AND LEARNING
The news isn’t all good
Choosing a school
Girls and maths and science
Learned helplessness and parents’ roles
Encouraging persistence
Styles of learning
How to encourage your daughter
SEVEN BECOMING A YOUNG WOMAN
Problems of adolescence
What does puberty mean?
The search for personal identity
The pressures during puberty
The role of the peer group
The female cycle
First menstruation
Help with menstruation pain
The importance of staying connected
Loosening the leash
Giving her some freedom
Strict or lax
Staying on track
Some common adolescent crises
Eating disorders
Don’t tune out
Drugs and alcohol
Depression
Self-defence and its benefits
EIGHT RELATIONSHIPS IN THE FAMILY
Mothers and daughters
A family history lesson
The power of ancestors
Fathers and daughters
The absent father
A new man on the scene
When girls lose their mothers
Brothers and sisters
Birth order
Different gender sequences
All girls
Girl then boy
Boy then girl
Epilogue
Notes. Introduction
1. Why girls are different
3. Her early years
4. Her emotional world
5. How society conditions girls
6. Schools and learning
7. Becoming a young woman
8. Relationships in the family
Bibliography
Index
Copyright
About the Publisher
