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Heather Bryant. My Trans Parent
Contents
Introduction. YOUR STORY, TOO
A NOTE ABOUT PRONOUNS AND NAMES
Who’s Who. in this Book
Kids of Trans (a.k.a. People with Trans Parents)
Kids of Trans Quotes from COLAGE’s Kids of Trans Resource Guide2
Trans Parents
Chapter 1. First Steps
FINDING OUT YOUR PARENT IS TRANSGENDER
INITIAL REACTIONS FROM DIFFERENT PEOPLE
WHAT DOES IT MEAN FOR YOU?
A SHIFT IN YOUR WORLD
CHANGING FAMILIES
MAKING SENSE
YOUR TRANSITION, TOO
LEARNING THE BASIC TERMS AND IDEAS—WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO BE TRANSGENDER?
Sex
Subconscious sex
Gender identity
Gender expression
Sexual orientation
Transgender
Transsexual
Trans
Gender expansive
Transphobia
Microaggression
Cross-dresser
Transition
Sexual reconstruction surgery/gender confirmation surgery
Gender dysphoria
Cis
Cisgender
Gender non-conforming
Non-binary
Kids of Trans
Chapter 2. Coming Out. or Not
WHETHER YOUR FAMILY DECIDES TO BE “OUT” IN THE COMMUNITY
COMING OUT AT SCHOOL
WHAT IF NO ONE KNOWS?
SHIFTING IDENTITIES IN THE LGBTQ+ COMMUNITY
YOU “COMING OUT”
TIPS FOR TELLING
WHAT IF YOUR PARENT ISN’T OUT?
STORIES WE TELL
FAMILY SECRETS
“COMING OUT” ON SOCIAL MEDIA
Chapter 3. The. Transition
WHEN DOES THE TRANSITION START?
CHANGES IN GENDER EXPRESSION
HORMONES AND BODY CHANGES
THIS IS ME
NOT A BOX
SURGERY AND POST-SURGERY
HOW IS THE FAMILY IMPACTED BY THE TRANSITION?
WHO CHANGES?
HOW DID I FIND MY WAY BACK?
YOU BE YOU
Chapter 4. Names and. Naming
WHAT DO YOU CALL YOUR PARENT?
HOW DO YOU SAY GOODBYE TO A NAME?
IN THE NEWS
POWER OF NAMES
PRONOUNS
CHANGES OVER TIME
MOTHER’S DAY/FATHER’S DAY
Chapter 5. The Shape. of Family. CONFLICT AND DIVORCE, HARMONY. AND PARTNERSHIP
CHANGES IN THE SHAPES OF OUR FAMILIES
GENDER AND THE SHAPE OF FAMILY
DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE
HOW DO YOU AVOID GETTING STUCK IN THE MIDDLE?
WHAT WE DON’T WANT TO TALK ABOUT
THE GOOD TIMES IN OUR FAMILIES
THE FUTURE SHAPES OF FAMILIES
Chapter 6. Grief and. Loss, Gifts. and Gains
DEALING WITH GRIEF OVER THE LOSS OF YOUR PARENT AS YOU KNEW THEM
A DIFFERENT KIND OF GRIEF
GRIEF? WHAT GRIEF?
MAKING MEANING
RESOURCES FOR GRIEF AND LOSS
GIFTS AND GAINS
Chapter 7. Finding. Community
FIND YOUR PEOPLE!
COLAGE AND OTHER GROUPS
THE INVISIBLE “T”
ONLINE AND IN PERSON
IF OUR PARENTS AREN’T OUT
THE POWER OF COMMUNITY
COMMUNITY? WHO NEEDS COMMUNITY?
THERAPY AND PROFESSIONAL SUPPORT
WHERE YOU FIT IN THE LARGER QUEER COMMUNITY
RAINBOW KIDS
SUPER-SOFFAS: HOW YOU CAN BE AN ALLY TO THE TRANS COMMUNITY
Chapter 8. Dating and. Family Ties
LOVE WHO YOU WANT TO LOVE
SHAPING IDENTITY
MEET THE PARENTS
WE ARE FAMILY
Chapter 9. Transphobia. and You
DEALING WITH TRANSPHOBIA FROM OTHERS
INTERNALIZED TRANSPHOBIA
TRANSPHOBIA IN SOCIETY
SPEAKING UP ABOUT TRANSPHOBIA
COMING TO AN UNDERSTANDING IN RELIGIOUS OR SPIRITUAL COMMUNITIES
TAKING ACTION
CHANGE IS ON THE WAY
Chapter 10. I Saw It. on TV. MOVIES, SHOWS AND MORE
IN SEARCH OF COMMON STORIES
AT THE DINNER TABLE
BEHIND THE SCENES
OUR OWN STORIES
FILLING THE GAP
Chapter 11. The Future Is. Trans-Fabulous
CHANGING VIEWS OF GENDER
PRIDE IN YOUR FAMILY
INTO THE FUTURE
VOICES OF THE FUTURE
Jan Morris
Kate Bornstein
Nat Titman
Caroline Cossey, a.k.a. Tula
Danica Roem
Andrea Jenkins
Cece McDonald
Dean Spade
Tourmaline, formerly known as Reina Gossett
Sylvia Rivera
Resource Guide: Further Reading. and More
References
Acknowledgments
