Theory of emotional relativity. Practical guide to the development of awareness and emotional intelligence

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Inna Zakharova. Theory of emotional relativity. Practical guide to the development of awareness and emotional intelligence

Preface

Gratitude

Human Needs

Self-perception

Self-confidence (security)

Self-love

Self-respect

Values

Nominalization

How do Values Form and Where do they Come from?

A Great Delusion

Value-forming

Security. Strategies and Values

Love. Strategies and Values

Respect. Strategies and Values

Values and Anti-values

Three Types of Joy

How to Define your Values?

Emotions

4 Types of Expressing Emotions

Fear

Fear. How does it Serve?

Fear. How does it Show up in the Body?

Fear. Processing

Fear. Ways to Cope

Fear. The Need and Strategies for Satisfying

Fear. A Healthy Way of Processing

Fear. Release

Fear. How to Help others?

Fear. Security and Responsibility

Shame

Shame. How does it Serve?

Shame. How does it Show up in the body?

Shame. Processing

Shame. A healthy Way of Processing

Shame. Release

Shame. Ways to Cope

Shame. The Need and Strategies. for Satisfying

Shame. How to Help others?

Disgust

Disgust. How does it Serve?

Disgust. How does it. Show up in the Body?

Disgust. Processing

Disgust. Ways to Cope

Disgust. Needs

Disgust. A Healthy Way of Processing

Disgust. Release

Anger

Anger. How does it Serve?

Anger. How does it Show up in the Body?

Anger. Processing

Anger. A Healthy Way of Processing

Anger. Release

Anger. Ways to Cope

Anger. The Need and Strategies. for Satisfying

Anger. Adult Position

Anger. How to Help others

Sadness

Sadness. How does it Serve?

Sadness. How does it Show up. in the Body?

Sadness. Needs and Values

Sadness. Processing

Sadness. Healthy Strategies of Processing

Sadness. Release

Sadness. Ways to Cope

Sadness. How to Help others

Surprise

Surprise. How does it Serve?

Surprise. How does it Show up. in the body?

Surprise. Ways to Cope

Surprise. Processing

Tenderness

Tenderness. How does it Serve?

Tenderness. Processing

Tenderness. How does it Show up. in the Body?

Tenderness. Transformational Strategies

Tenderness. Ways to Cope

Tenderness. Love

Tenderness. How to Accept Yourself

Desire

Desire. How does it Serve?

Desire. How does it Show up in the Body?

Desire. A Connection with Purposes

Desire. Needs and Forms of Joy

Desire. Ways to Cope

Desire. The Law of Development

Desire. Healthy Ways of Processing

Joy

Joy. How does it Serve?

Joy. How does it Show up in the Body?

Joy. Needs and Ways to Cope

Joy. Processing

5 Stages of Acceptance

The Balance of Feelings

Sadness – Joy

Desire – Disgust

Anger – Fear

Shame – Pride

Indifference – Empathy

Fear – Courage

Greed – Generosity

Respect – Arrogance

And again about Tenderness

Conscience

The Implementation of the Balance Law. in Parent-Child Relationships

The Implementation of the Balance Law. in Adult, Equal Partnerships

Resentment and Guilt are Organs of Conscience

Resentment

Guilt

Responsibility

Theory of Relativity

Previous Experience

A Child, an Adult or a Parent?

How to Look for the “Good”?

The Absence of Emotions

Focus of Attention

Emotional Manipulations

How to Recognize Manipulation

Fear Manipulation

Anger Manipulation

Sadness Manipulation

Disgust Manipulation

Shame Manipulation

Tenderness Manipulation

Desire Manipulation

Joy Manipulation

Resentment is a Way of Manipulation

Provocations

Sudden Danger (Fright)

Sudden Disrespect

Sudden Devaluation

“Toilet Trap” Provocation

Exposure Provocation

Sudden Conflict

Provocation with the Help of Tenderness

Provocation with the Help of Desire

Joy Provocation

Anti-manipulation Protection

Feelings

What are Feelings?

Resentment-containing Feelings

Disgust-containing Feelings

Surprise-containing Feelings

Sadness-containing Feelings

Fear-containing Feelings

Tenderness- and Joy-containing Feelings

Tenderness- and Desire-containing Feelings

Joy- and Desire-containing. feelings

Feelings, reflecting an attitude towards. time, towards the future

Guilt-containing Feelings

A Successful Strategy to Process. the Feelings of Guilt or Resentment

Instructions for Working with Feelings

Emuno Tips

Fear

Disgust

Anger

Shame

Sadness

Joy

Desire

Tenderness

Dictionary of Feelings

Instead of a conclusion

How can you Read this Book to your Profit?

“Emotional Intelligence EQ Test”

Interpretation of test results

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The development of emotional intelligence is gaining increasing importance (is becoming more popular nowadays). But what it means, no one fully understands. There are many definitions of this concept, the main one is the ability to understand and manage your own emotions and those of the people around you. But is that enough? What does it mean to understand emotions?

To understand the emotion, first of all, you should know how to identify it, give it a name and change if necessary. The mechanism of the birth of emotions is not so simple, the emotion is not born in a random order, it connects with our innermost psychological processes in the structure of our personality. Emotions are not only a reaction to the real circumstances in our life, but a kind of connection with our ancestors, with the more global systems – family, dynasty and nation. We feel only 10% of emotions from the present moment, the rest 90% is emotions in the combination of systemic feelings connected with our deepest convictions which appeared far in the past, long before our birth, they are kept in our subconscious and manage our life.

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There are three main strategies to satisfy the needs for security. As the strategies differ, values also may be different.

Strategies of getting values:

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