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Karen M. Bush. My House Our House
What Others are Saying about. MY HOUSE OUR HOUSE
MY HOUSE OUR HOUSE
Table of Contents
Foreword
Louis Tenenbaum
Prologue
ONE. Open House at Shadowlawn
TWO. Living Alone/Living Together
The Numbers Tell the Story
Living Alone: Single Families/Single People
But There Are So Many Good Options!
Living Together: Intentional and Shared Housing Alternatives
Our Model: Living Independently, Together, Through Cooperative Householding
THREE. True Colors: Meet the Cooperative Householders
Jean: “Always Moving Fast”
Karen: “Elegance in Simplicity”
Louise: “Comfy in Her Skin” (Maybe)
Beardsley: “Feisty Feline Survivor”
FOUR. Blame It on the Cat
FIVE. An Interesting Exercise. in Planning
Jean’s Perspective: “An Entertaining Pastime”
Karen’s Perspective: “An Interesting Exercise in Planning”
Louise’s Guilty Secret: “But I Really LIKE Living Alone!”
SIX. This is It!
Jean’s Reflections . .
SEVEN. Serious Business: Money, Mortgages and More
Pipedream or Possibility?
No Time to Celebrate
Caution! “Thar Be Dragons”
A General Partnership
Details, Details, Details . .
EIGHT. Moving: Time for Triage
Personal Space Items (PSIs)
Moving Three Households into One
Mission Accomplished: Phase 1
Sharing Privacy
Survival Strategies
NINE. A How-To for You: Taking Care of Business
Covering Your Assets: Legal Agreements
Being Hardnosed: The General Partnership Agreement
Understanding Property Deeds
Negotiating the Sale
Calculating Our Fair Share
Don’t Forget These
Deciding What We Don’t Share
Saving on Energy
Getting Insured
Paying the Bills/Balancing the Books
Bringing Home the Groceries
Crunching the Numbers
Estimating Your Resources for a Cooperative Household
Making Budget Choices
Becoming More Self-Sufficient, Together
Reality Check: Expect Glitches
TEN. Potpourri: Living in Harmony
There Goes the Closet
25 Pounds of Pasta
Clutter Counts
Territorial Animals
Excess Baggage
“You Were There, Too?”
Priorities: “Here – Have a Key”
Old Cats/Old Tricks
Don’t Help, Please
Woman on a Mission
ELEVEN. Creating Shared Community
Different People/Different Styles
Expectations
Helping: Kitchen Wenches in Residence
Drawing Lines: What We Are and Aren’t
Here is what we are not:
And here is what we are:
Setting Boundaries, Not Rules
Bite Your Tongue
Communication: Open and Honest
Decision-Making: From Dilemma to Done Deal
“Plan C”
“Plan D”
And Sometimes We Just Compromise: From Dishcloths to Butterflies
Prudent Problem Solving
Cooperative Endeavors
And Speaking of Books . .
TWELVE. Blow-Ups at Shadowlawn?
Peer Pressure?
But, What If. . .
THIRTEEN. What We’ve Learned. About Sharing from Sharing
Shared Priorities Make Work Fun
Paradoxes, Risks and Rewards
Sharing Essential Values
10 Essential Behaviors:
Expanding the Circle of Community
Creating and Sharing New Traditions
FOURTEEN. Seriously, Now
Difference Can Make a Difference
Social Life vs. Private Life
Competing Lifestyles
Deal-Breakers Don’t Go There
FIFTEEN. An Informal Quiz: Is Cooperative Householding. For You?
How We Created the Questions
The Quiz
Your Turn Now
SIXTEEN. Overcoming Barriers
Do It Your Way — Or Not at All
Go to Lunch
Meet Failure
Finding Your Prospective Housemates
Going Forward
Your Barriers: Are They Concerns or Fears?
To Fear Is to be Human
Different Barriers for Different Folks
Overcoming Your Fears
Tips for Overcoming Your Fears About Cooperative Householding
What Does Your Gut Say?
Epilogue
Jean:
Karen:
Louise:
Beardsley: R.I.P
Introducing Kali:
General Partnership. Agreement
The Agreement
Resources
Organizations
Publications
Online
Acknowledgments
About the Authors
