Hard To Do

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Kelli María Korducki. Hard To Do

Introduction

1. Leaving a Good Man™

2. The Birth of Love, and Liberty

3. Lie Back and Think of Paperwork

4. A Love Freely Chosen

5. Sex (and Settlement) in the City

6. Life’s Short. Get a Divorce

7. Seeing Other People

8. The End

Works Cited

Acknowledgements

About the Author

About the. Exploded Views Series

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PRAISE FOR HARD TO DO

‘With steady and incisive historical mapping and expertly deployed wit, Kelli Korducki both sheds light on the modern mythological creation of the breakup as a cultural mainstay and offers readers alternative possibilities of how love, independence, and agency might shape our worlds.’

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Posting under the handle MissPredicament, the page’s writer muses over the observation that an astonishing number of women in Reddit’s relationships forum seem to be mired in the same existential conundrum. They are unhappy in relationships that don’t really have anything wrong with them. ‘I wish someone had told me when I was much younger that I didn’t have to have an airtight legal case for a breakup – all I had to have was a desire to no longer be in that relationship,’ she writes. ‘I would have saved myself a lot of time.’ The post received over a thousand replies.

There are others like it. ‘Have you ever broken up with a good guy? Or have you ever broken up with a good girl?’ reads one, on Reddit’s AskWomen board, a plaintive call for some proof of precedent. An essay on the website HelloGiggles sketches the author’s toughest breakup, with a ‘nice guy’ she calls Sam. She steels herself to complete the deed, only to realize that her nice guy wants to stay together. ‘My guilt ran around inside me, beating every organ like a gong,’ she writes.

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