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Lori Deschene. Tiny Buddha, Simple Wisdom for Life's Hard Questions
PRAISE FOR TINY BUDDHA
DEDICATION
CONTENTS
INTRODUCTION
WHAT YOU'LL GET FROM THIS BOOK
PAIN. WHY IS THERE SUFFERING IN THE WORLD?
PAIN IS A TEACHER
PAIN HELPS US APPRECIATE PLEASURE
DESIRES AND ATTACHMENT CAUSE PAIN
WE CAN HEAL EACH OTHER'S PAIN
MEANING. WHAT's THE MEANING OF LIFE?
THE MEANING OF LIFE IS TO LIVE EVERY DAY FULLY AND ENJOY IT
THE MEANING OF LIFE IS TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THE WORLD
LOVE IS THE MEANING OF LIFE
OUR PURPOSE IS TO LEARN AND GROW
IT IS UP TO US TO GIVE LIFE MEANING
CHANGE. CAN PEOPLE CHANGE, AND HOW?
CHANGE STARTS IN OUR MIND
YOU HAVE TO REALLY WANT TO CHANGE
CONSISTENCY CREATES CHANGE
OUR ENVIRONMENT AND THE PEOPLE AROUND US AFFECT OUR ABILITY TO SUSTAIN CHANGE
CHANGE IS INEVITABLE WITH EVERYTHING IN LIFE
FATE. DOES EVERYTHING HAPPEN FOR A REASON?
OUR CHOICES MAKE THINGS HAPPEN
THE REASON SOMETHING HAPPENS ISN'T AS IMPORTANT AS WHAT YOU DO AFTER IT DOES
SOMETIMES WE NEED TO ACCEPT WITHOUT NEEDING TO UNDERSTAND
WE ARE PART OF SOMETHING GREATER THAN OURSELVES
HAPPINESS. WHAT DOES IT TAKE TO BE HAPPY?
THE HAPPIEST PEOPLE TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR CREATING THEIR OWN JOY
POSITIVITY IS THE KEY TO HAPPINESS
HAPPINESS IS ABOUT BEING PRESENT
HAPPINESS COMES FROM FOCUSING ON OTHERS
HAPPINESS IS LETTING GO OF EXPECTATIONS AND APPRECIATING WHAT YOU HAVE
LOVE. WHY ARE RELATIONSHIPS HARD?
RELATIONSHIPS ARE MIRRORS
WE HAVE TO COMPLETE OURSELVES WITHOUT ATTACHING TO SOMEONE ELSE FOR HAPPINESS
EXPECTATIONS PUT PRESSURE ON RELATIONSHIPS
RELATIONSHIPS ARE HARD BECAUSE WE FIGHT FOR OUR PERCEPTIONS
MONEY. DO YOU NEED MONEY TO BE HAPPY?
MONEY CAN HELP IF YOU'RE ALREADY HAPPY
HAVING MORE MONEY DOESN'T GUARANTEE MORE HAPPINESS
YOU NEED ENOUGH MONEY TO PROVIDE FOR NECESSITIES
WHAT WE REALLY WANT IS FREEDOM
POSSIBILITIES. HOW CAN YOU MAKE EACH DAY COUNT?
SHOW UP EVERY DAY
TAKE RISKS
APPRECIATE THE HIGHS, THE LOWS, THE SMALL THINGS, AND THE BIG THINGS
LET YOURSELF BE
CONTROL. WHAT CAN WE CONTROL IN LIFE?
50 THINGS YOU CAN CONTROL RIGHT NOW (FROM TINYBUDDHA.COM
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
INDEX OF NAMES
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
TO OUR READERS
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“How can we find happiness and peace—right now, right here? In her engaging, thought-provoking book Tiny Buddha, Lori Deschene explores this enormous question to help readers grapple with challenges like money, love, pain, control, and meaning, in order to find greater happiness.”
—Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project
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I've always had a fascination with the idea of schadenfreude—deriving pleasure through seeing someone else in pain—because some of my most painful memories involve me crying while someone else appeared to enjoy it. A recent study by University of Chicago psychology professor Jean Decety revealed that bullies experience increased blood flow in the reward center of the brain when they see people suffering. Children who didn't display similarly aggressive behavior felt empathy for the people hurting.
Considering that biology may have influenced the cruelty I experienced as a kid—and knowing that my tormenters may have missed out on an important cue to feel for other people and, in doing so, intimately relate to them—I can feel a new and healthy gratitude for my ability to hurt. The capacity to feel for other people is in itself a source of pleasure. Because I hurt so deeply, I have always felt other people's pain almost within my own flesh and blood. I may not always have opened myself up to relationships, but I've always been a nurturer within the ones I've accepted. For that deeply satisfying ability to recognize pain and help heal it, I am eternally grateful.
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