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Magazine Psychologies. Real Confidence
FOREWORD
INTRODUCTION
HOW TO USE THIS BOOK
OUR EXPERTS
1. HOW CONFIDENT ARE YOU?
CHAPTER 1. DEFINING CONFIDENCE – IS IT WHAT YOU THINK IT IS?
FINDING A PERSONAL DEFINITION
CONFIDENCE MEANS HAVING A GO
EVERYONE HAS THE ‘IT’ FACTOR
CONFIDENCE IS IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER
CONFIDENCE IS MULTI-DIMENSIONAL
CHAPTER 2. WHY DO YOU WANT CONFIDENCE – AND WHY DO YOU NEED IT?
LOW CONFIDENCE IS A GREAT STARTING POINT
IDENTIFY WHAT YOU WANT
WORK ON YOURSELF
IS IT LACK OR LOSS OF CONFIDENCE?
CHAPTER 3. HOW DOES REAL CONFIDENCE FEEL? BEING COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN
COMING FROM THE HEART
KNOWING YOU ARE DOING THE RIGHT THING
RELAXED, CALM AND A LITTLE EXCITED
2. WHY DO YOU LACK CONFIDENCE?
CHAPTER 4. WHERE DOES YOUR LACK OF CONFIDENCE COME FROM?
IS CONFIDENCE IN YOUR GENES OR YOUR ENVIRONMENT?
YOUR HORMONES AND CONFIDENCE
CHAPTER 5. WHAT CAN YOU DO WHEN YOUR LACK OF CONFIDENCE IS PARALYSING?
BREAKING THE MYTH ABOUT SHYNESS
PUT YOUR WEAKNESSES ASIDE
PREPARATION CANCELS OUT LOW CONFIDENCE
FROM PUBLIC SPEAKING TO FEAR OF DRIVING
WHY PROFESSIONAL HELP HELPS
KEEP GOING
CHAPTER 6. CONFIDENCE ROBBERS
1. CONFIDENCE AS A GOAL
2. CONSTANT NEGATIVE THINKING
3. NEGATIVE PEOPLE
4. PEOPLE WHO INSTRUCT YOU TO BE CONFIDENT
5. POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
6. THE GLAZED FAKE SMILE
7. ACTING CONFIDENT
8. OVER-ANALYSING THE PAST
9. COMPARING AND DESPAIRING
10. AN EASY LIFE
11. EXHAUSTION
12. DRINKING ALCOHOL TO DE-STRESS
13. MODERN CITY LIFE
14. DIFFICULT PEOPLE
15. STAYING STUCK
3. HOW CAN YOU LEARN TO BE CONFIDENT?
CHAPTER 7. IS CONFIDENCE A SKILL YOU CAN LEARN?
LOW CONFIDENCE IS A GREAT STARTING POINT
CONFIDENCE CAN BE DEVELOPED IN A PRACTICAL WAY
MOTIVATION IS THE GLUE BETWEEN CONFIDENCE AND YOU
ACTION CHANGES YOUR BRAIN CHEMISTRY
CHAPTER 8. WHAT TYPE OF CONFIDENCE DO YOU ASPIRE TO?
CONFIDENCE AROUND THE WORLD
NICE, OR ULTIMATE, CONFIDENCE?
IS OVER-CONFIDENCE REWARDED?
NARCISSISM ISN’T CONFIDENCE
CHAPTER 9. CONFIDENCE-BUILDING HABITS
1. ASSESS YOURSELF
2. KEEP LEARNING
3. DEVELOP YOUR WILLPOWER
4. TALK ABOUT YOUR POSITIVE EXPERIENCES
5. TONE DOWN YOUR WORST THOUGHTS
6. DITCH THINKING FOR DOING
7. ADOPT GOOD POSTURE
8. EAT A WELL-BALANCED DIET
9. EXERCISE
10. FIVE MINUTE MORNING WIGGLE
11. BREATHE, BREATHE, BREATHE
12. TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF
13. TURN YOUR HOME INTO YOUR HAVEN
14. SUPPORT DON’T COMPETE
15. BE WITH CONFIDENT PEOPLE
CHAPTER 10. KEEPING TRACK OF YOUR CONFIDENCE EVERY DAY
DAILY LIFE
FAMILY LIFE
WORK LIFE
SOCIAL LIFE AND DATING
BODY-IMAGE LIFE
WHAT NEXT?
ABOUT PSYCHOLOGIES
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by Suzy Greaves, Editor, Psychologies
When I'm out and about meeting and hanging out with our Psychologies readers at our events and festivals, we often talk about no-limits, ‘magic wand’ thinking. If you could wave a wand and could change something about yourself – what would you change? ‘Confidence’ is the word I hear over and over again. Deep down we believe that if we could only be a little bit more confident and comfortable in our own skin, the world would be our oyster … we could do anything … the sky would be the limit. But because we're not confident, we can't. So we sit quietly and leave it to those confident people over there to conquer the world and reach for the sky.
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Dr Ilona Boniwell, founder of the European Network of Positive Psychology, head of the International MSc in Applied Positive Psychology at Anglia Ruskin University (UK and France) and head of training consultancy Positran
Boniwell has been involved in helping the government of Bhutan develop a framework for happiness-based public policy. She has contributed to, edited and written several books. Her latest as an author is Oxford Handbook of Happiness (Oxford University Press) and positive psychology tools, such as Strength Cards and The Happiness Box (Positran).
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