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Mahendra Ramsinghani. The Resilient Founder
Table of Contents
List of Tables
List of Illustrations
Guide
Pages
THE RESILIENT FOUNDER. LESSONS IN ENDURANCE FROM STARTUP ENTREPRENEURS
Foreword
Acknowledgments
About the Cover
A Note to Readers
Introduction The Despondent Founder
PSYCHOLOGICAL QUOTIENT – AN INTRODUCTION
No One Is Normal
What Cannot Be Measured
Doing, Thinking, and Feeling
Just Give Me the Answers, or Leave Me with the Unspoken Agony
MY HOPE FOR YOU
NOTES
Part I Running to a Standstill
1 When Suicide Seems Like a Good Option
BREAKING THE TABOO: DISCUSSING SUICIDE
When Dreams Turn to Despair
Thinking, Ruminating, Full-on Planning
What Drives Us to the Cliff – Is It Shame, Envy, or Powerlessness?
Vulnerable Egos and High Expectations
SELF-IMAGE AND INEPTITUDE
The Tyranny of Ambition, the Agony of Success
DOES OUR ATTITUDE DEFINE OUR OUTCOMES?
NOTES
2 Stepping Back from the Edge
LOOKING FOR CLARITY
This Might Be Just a Passing Phase, One of My Bad Days
Fantasizing about Death versus Facing the Harshness of Reality
NOTE
3 How External Events Trigger Negative Feelings
PERSISTENCE: THE DOUBLE-EDGED SWORD
FOUR TYPES OF STRESSORS
HOW IS THIS THOUGHT HELPING ME?
NOTES
4 Obstacles and Frustrations
BARRIERS TO ENTRY – THE OLD VERSUS THE NEW
RESOURCES VERSUS CONSTRAINTS
Internal Resources
PROCESS VERSUS REWARDS
Part II Understanding Our Psychology
5 Building Our Psychological Quotient
SEEKING A CRAZY KIND OF ADVENTURE
Psychological Effects
Burnout, Overwhelmed, or Depressed – Giving It a Name
WHEN OUR EMOTIONS CLASH WITH LOGIC
THE THREE REGIONS OF INNER CONFLICT
NOTE
6 Ethics
BUILDING A START-UP WITH A SENSE OF MEANING
ETHICS, MORALITY, RIGHTEOUSNESS, AND SUPEREGO
Purpose and Mission – The Moral Compass of the Individual and the Company
Letting Ethics Take the Lead
7 Do the Right Thing
ETHICS AT WORK
GREATEST GOOD FOR THE GREATEST NUMBER
ETHICS AND SOCIAL CHANGE – LESSONS FROM COINBASE
BUILDING AN ETHICAL FRAMEWORK
8 Ego – The Emperor and the Slave
IMPULSES, EGO, AND SUPEREGO
WHY IS EGO NECESSARY IN BUSINESS?
Two Contrasts in Self-View: Frank Lloyd Wright and Eileen Fisher. Frank Lloyd Wright: World's greatest architect
Eileen Fisher: Just an ordinary person
THE EGO AND OUR SELF-IMAGE
NOTES
9 Working with Your Ego
A FOUNDER'S EGO IS ABNORMAL
WHO DOES YOUR EGO SERVE?
THE EGO IS NOT THE ENEMY
10 The Hidden Land of Desires and Motivations
MEET YOUR ID
THE DESIRE TO START SOMETHING UP
Reaching for the Stars – Scale of Ambition
The Second-Order Effects as a Motivator – Looking Beyond the Financial Returns
OUR HIDDEN DESIRES AND DRIVERS
Desires – Intrinsic and Extrinsic
THE DANGER OF UNMET DESIRES
The Internet of Things Your Mom Won't Do for You Anymore
NOTE
11 Logos and the Mind
THE ANALYTICAL ENGINE OF THE MIND
WHAT IS THE MIND?
Inside Bill's Brain
Putting It in Computer Jargon
Toward Pleasure and Away from Pain
THE THREE BROAD FUNCTIONS OF OUR MIND
Memory – Building a Start-up Narrative
The Founder's Mind
12 Pathos: Belief Systems
OUR BELIEFS DRIVE OUR BEHAVIORS
OUR BELIEFS DICTATE OUR NARRATIVES
IS AMBITION A VICE OR VIRTUE? IT DEPENDS ON WHAT YOU BELIEVE
13 Putting It All Together
Part III Reassembling the Furniture
14 Toward Building a Healthy Ego
WHAT IS A HEALTHY EGO?
ARE YOU ABLE TO CONTROL YOUR IMPULSES?
Measurements of Resilience
Skills: Are You Able to Make Judgment Calls and Predict Probable Outcomes of Your Actions?
Self-view: Are You Able to Adjust Your Views When Situations Change?
World View: How Do You See the World Around You?
HOW DOES YOUR EGO PROTECT YOU WHEN YOU FEEL UNSAFE?
Level I – Pathological Defenses
Level II – Immature Defenses
Fantasy: San Francisco Entrepreneur Anoints Himself as Emperor of America
Level III – Neurotic Defenses
Level IV – Mature Defenses
CAN YOU MASTER YOUR EGO?
NOTE
15 Psychotherapy: An Imperfect History of an Impossible Profession
SIGMUND FREUD: THE PAST CREATES THE FUTURE
CARL JUNG: A LOOK AT THE DARK SIDE
ALFRED ADLER: THE PAST DOES NOT MATTER, JUST FOCUS ON THE PRESENT
16 Fearing Our Own Selves … and Other Mental Blocks
HOW WE RESIST OUR DEVELOPMENT – IGNORANCE AND DENIAL
DISMANTLING THE BLOCKS
Listen to Your Inner Voice
Happiness Is Subjective
Bring on the Professionals!
MANY DIFFERENT WAYS, ONE DESTINATION
UNCOVER THE HIDDEN AND THE REPRESSED
THE HARD THING ABOUT THERAPY – LETTING THE THERAPIST DRIVE
17 Stages of Therapy
FOUR PHASES OF THERAPY
Step 1: Acceptance
Step 2: Engagement – or This Space Between Us
Step 3: Insights and Growth
Step 4: Development
18 Challenges and Pitfalls in Therapy
THE ROAD TO A HEALTHY MIND IS LONG
19 Medicating Our Way to Recovery
THE MEDICATION DEBATE
The Basics – Exercise, Sleep, and Food Habits
Sleeping on the Job
MOTIVATIONS, MONEY, AND THE NEED FOR SPEED
On drug discovery and research …
TO MEDICATE OR NOT TO MEDICATE IS A LONGSTANDING DEBATE
NOTES
Part IV These Rituals Worked for Us
20 A Soul Made Cheerful
WORKING ON YOUR INSIDE – THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF-CARE
HOW WE AVOID SELF-CARE
NOTES
21 Prescription 1 – An Organized Diminution of Work
PAUSE, BALANCE, BREATHE
THE FEELING OF NOT DOING
NOTE
22 Prescription 2 – Get Out of Your Head
LESS HEAD, MORE BODY
Burn It Up
Solvitur ambulando – It Is Solved by Walking
SILENCING THE INNER CHATTER
MANAGING THE VELCRO OF NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES
The Observer and the Observed
CORTISOL, SEROTONIN, AND DOPAMINE – THE MAGIC OF TOUCH
NOTE
23 Prescription 3 – Feeling, Not Thinking
POETRY IS FEELING – NOT THINKING
MUSIC AND MOODS
IN SERVICE OF OTHERS
GRATITUDE WITH PRESENCE
IT'S A MATTER OF TIME – REFLECTIONS AND RUMINATION
24 Prescription 4 – Spirit over Mind
STARING IN THE ABYSS
WHAT DO YOU WORSHIP?
PICK YOUR GODS OR THEY PICK YOU
SEEKING SOLACE
UNDERSTANDING OUR SHADOW SIDE – FEARS, ENVY, RESENTMENT
Working with Our Inner Demons
Thug Life – Facing Your Fears
Abandon Notions of Growth, to Allow All Experiences
Projecting – What I See in You Lies Dormant in Me
25 Prescription 5 – A Promise to Yourself
26 The Elements ofa Good Life
Desiderata – Max Ehrmann
Postscript: How to Care for the Broken and the Depressed
TOP REASONS FOUNDERS DO NOT ASK
WHAT DO THE DEPRESSED NEED?
WHEN YOU MEET SOMEONE DEEP IN GRIEF
WHAT THE DEPRESSED DO NOT NEED
HOW TO HELP – A FEW GOOD EXAMPLES
It's Only Darkness, Not the End
Reading Poetry Aloud
Massaging the Soles of Your Feet
Approach the Depressed with Care
NOTES
Appendix I: A Founder's Mental Health Manifesto
Appendix II: Founders’ Voices and Anonymized Surveys
About the Author
About the Website
Index
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