Оглавление
Marion S. Forgatch. Raising Cooperative Kids
Praise for Raising Cooperative Kids
Contents
Introduction. Cooperation Makes It Happen
Our Methods
Shining the Light
Practice, Practice, Practice
Chapter One. Imagine
Setting Goals
Strategies for Successful Goal Statements
Long-Term and Short-Term Goals
Modeling and Shaping Behavior
Compromise
Cooperation
Recap
Practice Assignment
Chapter Two. Follow My Directions
Clear Directions
Basic Strategies for Giving Clear Directions
Enhanced Strategies for Giving Clear Directions
Directions Gone Astray
The Drive-By
Long Distance
Buried in Words
The Guilt Trip
Sarcasm
Questions
Body Language
A Time for Everything
Recap
Practice Assignment
Tracking Sheet for Giving Clear Directions
Examples:
What Do Parents Say?
Chapter Three. Accentuate the Positive
Grin and Bear It
Strategies for Teaching Through Encouragement
Tokens
Strategies for Choosing Tokens
Using Tokens
Designing a Token System
Explaining a Token System
Group Incentives
Sample Token Behaviors
Incentive Charts
Strategies for Creating Incentive Charts
Breaking Down Complex Goals
Examples of Goals and Challenges
Clean Bedroom
Make Bed
Bedtime Routine
Bathroom Routine
Success Grows with Small Steps: Bedtime Routine
Setting Up Rewards
Social Reinforcers
Tangible Incentives
Designing Incentive Charts
Setting Up an Incentive Chart
Sample Incentive Chart
James' Incentive Chart
Explaining Incentive Charts
Recap
Practice Assignment
Creating a Worksheet for Token Systems
Creating a Worksheet for Incentive Charts
Chapter Four. Oceans of Emotions
Emotions Have Consequences
Regulating Emotions
Strategies for Regulating Emotions
Controlling Negative Emotions
Cooling Off
Disengage physically:
Disengage mentally:
Lighten the situation:
Empower yourself:
Join the other person:
Strengthen positive emotions:
Other strategies:
Don't:
Strategies for Cooling Off
Increasing Positive Emotions
Indicators of Emotions
Negative Emotion Indicators. Sadness/Depression
Fear/Anxiety/Stress/Tension
Contempt/Disgust/Scorn
Open Anger
Constrained Anger
Positive Emotion Indicators. Happiness/Enjoyment/Pleasure
Interest
Affection/Caring
Recap
Practice Assignment
Regulating Emotions Rating Form. Positive Emotion (happy/glad; interested/friendly; neutral/calm; affectionate/supportive):
Negative Emotion (angry; depressed/sad; fearful/anxious; disgusted/contemptuous):
Chapter Five. I Walk the Line
Elements of Effective Discipline
Time Outs
Strategies for Time Outs
Strategies for Choosing a Time-Out Spot
Time-Out Script
Time Outs in Action
Time Out for Tiny Tots
Setting Expectations
Explaining Time Outs
Privilege Loss
Strategies for Revoking Privileges
Examples of Privileges. Entertainment
Social Activities
Treats
Disciplinary Chores
Strategies for Disciplinary Chores
Short Chores—5 to 15 minutes
Long Chores—30 minutes to 1 hour
Sample Job Description. Chore: Cleaning the cat litter box
Disciplinary Chores in Action
Lengthy Disciplinary Chores
Strategies for Lengthy Disciplinary Chores
Recap
Practice Assignment
Implementing Time Outs
Implementing Disciplinary Chores
What Do Parents Say?
Chapter Six. Stop, Look, Listen
Nonverbal Messages
Strategies for Active Listening
Active Listening Don'ts
Things that Go Bump in the Night
Gaming the System
Recap
Practice Assignment
Collages
Daily Debriefings
Chapter Seven. We Can Work It Out
The Best-Laid Plans. .
Strategies for Problem-Solving
Family Meetings
Strategies for Family Meetings
Ground Rules for Family Meetings
Recap
Practice Assignment
Problem-Solving Worksheet
Chapter Eight. Someone to Watch Over Me
Social Media
Childcare and Babysitters
Peer Pressure
Recap
Practice Assignment
Warning Signs for Caregivers
Guide for Babysitters
Chapter Nine. Teach Your Children Well
Doing Well
Incentive Charts
Ava's Incentive Chart
Benito's Incentive Chart
Ava
Benito
Productive Learning Environments
Brain Training
Strategies for Brain Training
Power Reading
Strategies for Power Reading
Stumbling Blocks
Student Study Skills Checklist
Parent Study Skills Checklist
Steps to School Success
Changes in Family Dynamics
Linking Home and School
Do I Know?
Recap
Practice Assignment
Chapter Ten. United We Stand
The End Run
The Huddle
Resolving Conflicts
Strategies for Resolving Conflicts
Recap
Practice Assignment
Strategies for Managing Conflicts
Chapter Eleven. We Are Family
Identify Strengths, Values, and Goals
Give Clear Directions
Teach Through Encouragement
Identify and Regulate Emotions
Set Limits
Listen—Really Listen
Resolve Problems Together
Monitor Your Children
Teach and Learn
Stand United
Work, Play, Love
Recap
Appendix. Strategies and Resources for Raising Cooperative Kids. Chapter 1: Imagine
Chapter 2: Follow My Directions
Chapter 3: Accentuate the Positive
Chapter 4: Oceans of Emotions
Chapter 5: I Walk the Line
Chapter 6: Stop, Look, Listen
Chapter 7: We Can Work It Out
Chapter 8: Someone to Watch Over Me
Chapter 9: Teach Your Children Well
Chapter 10: United We Stand
Acknowledgments
About the Authors
To Our Readers
