Social Life; or, The Manners and Customs of Polite Society

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Maud C. Cooke. Social Life; or, The Manners and Customs of Polite Society

Social Life; or, The Manners and Customs of Polite Society

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Social Life

OR. The Manners and Customs of. Polite Society

CONTAINING. THE RULES OF ETIQUETTE FOR ALL OCCASIONS AND. FORMING A COMPLETE GUIDE TO SELF-CULTURE. IN CONVERSATION, DRESS, DEPORTMENT, CORRESPONDENCE, THE CARE OF. CHILDREN AND THE HOME

BY. MAUD C. COOKE, The Well-known and Popular Author

EMBELLISHED WITH COLORED PHOTOTYPES

PREFACE

The Essence of Etiquette

The Influence of Good Manners

The Marks of True Politeness

The Great Value of Courtesy

Rules of Etiquette

An English Custom

You May Introduce Yourself

A Custom Out of Date

Forms of Introduction

What Should Follow the Introduction

A Lady’s Wishes Should be Respected

SALUTATIONS

Removing the Hat

The Privilege of Recognition

Returning Salutations

Shaking Hands

Words of Salutation

The Good Listener

Suitable Topics

Misuse of Quotations

“Small Talk.”

A Valuable Source of Knowledge

Cultivate Your Mind

“Drawing Out Others.”

The Passion for Argument

Wit and Humor

Evil Speaking

“Telling Stories.”

Absent-Mindedness

Profuse Compliments

Contradictions and Interjections

Voice and Manner

Conversational Sins

Use of the Lips and Facial Expressions

Control Your Temper

Misuse of Initials

Visiting Cards

Style of the Card

Size of the Card

Engraving the Name

Address on Cards

Cards for Gentlemen

Cards for Receptions

Foreign Phrases

P.P.C. Cards

Turning Down the Corners

How to Leave Cards

Number of Cards to be Left

Calls upon Young Ladies

How to Send Cards

When to Leave Cards

Entertainments and Calls

Other Hints

Various Cards

Acknowledgment of Inquiry Cards

Length of Visits

The Art of Leaving

When Ready to Leave, Go at Once

First Calls

Substitute for First Call

Morning and Evening Visits

Sunday Visits

Reception Days

“Not at Home,” “Engaged.”

Visiting List

Visits Between Ladies and Gentlemen

“Out of Society.”

Conduct of the Hostess

Entertaining Callers

Conduct of the Guests

Deference to Ladies

What Not to Do

The Reception-Room

Note Paper for Invitations

Invitation Cards

Written Regrets

Uninvited Guests

Inviting Married People

Dinners

Asking for Invitations

Evening Parties, Balls and “At Homes.”

Masquerades

Musicales, Soirées and Matinées

Garden Parties

Breakfasts, Luncheons and Suppers

Teas and “Kettledrums.”

Kaffee Klatsch

Suppers

Coming-out Parties

Receptions

Weddings

How Invitations are Sent

Wedding Invitations

Announcement Cards

Wedding Anniversaries

“No Presents Received.”

Revise the Visiting List

Answering an Invitation

Accepting a Dinner Invitation

Accepting a Dinner Invitation

Declining a Dinner Invitation

Persons in Mourning

Addressing the Answer

Wedding Invitations

Wedding Anniversaries

Theater and Opera Parties

Luncheons and Suppers

Other Invitations

Refusing After Acceptance

What Not to Do

Errors of Love-Making

How to Carry on Courtship

A Case to the Point

Choice of Associates

First Steps

Character

Disposition

Trifling

Etiquette of Making and Receiving Gifts

Proposals of Marriage

Unbecoming Haste

How to Deal with Objections

Sealing the Vow

A Full Understanding

Important Trifles

Love Feeds on Love

The Best of all Possessions

The Source of Miseries

How to Cherish Love

Conduct Toward Parents

Length of Engagements

Broken Engagements

Etiquette of Married Life

The Art of Agreeableness

Duty Toward One Another

Home Attire

Household and Personal Expenses

A Pleasant Disposition

Boarding Versus Home Life

Paying for the Cards

Naming the Day

Announcing the Engagement

Wedding Gifts

List of Invitations

Ushers

“The Best Man.”

Bridemaids

A Church Wedding

After the Ceremony

The Reception

Refreshments

Rehearsals

The Wedding Breakfast

Departure

Home Weddings

Invitations to Church Weddings

Dress for the Occasion

Morning Costume

A Quiet Wedding

Re-marriage

The Ring

Reception Days

WEDDING ANNIVERSARIES

Suitable Presents

Speeches and Congratulations

Courtesies of Married Life

What Women Admire

What Men Desire

Fault-Finding

Home Conversation

Slang and Exaggerations

Some Do’s for Girls

Young Ladies, Take Heed

Some Do’s for Boys

Guard the Voice

How to Treat Servants

Have Rules and Enforce Them

Rights of Others

Power of Example

Keeping Promises

Talebearing

Truthfulness

Respectfulness

Obedience

Manner of Address

Interrupting Conversation

“Showing Off.”

Reproof Before Others

Cleanliness and Order

Home Hints

“Visiting.”

Slang, Profanity, Intemperance

At Table

Leaving the Table

Invitations

Host and Hostess

Whom to Invite

Seating the Guests

Laying the Table

A Well-Furnished Sideboard

Table Decorations

Lighting the Table

Serving the Dinner

How the Dishes are to be Passed

Serving the Different Courses

The Menu

Favors

Wines, and How to Serve Them

Gracefully Declined

Order of Precedence

Informal and Easy

French Terms

Right or Left Arm?

Further Hints

American Dinner Services

Directions to Waiters

Salads and Desserts

Dinner Dress

Coming and Going

Functions

Dinner Favors

The Breakfast Table

Knives, Forks and Napkins

The Dinner Table

The Supper Table

The Lunch Table

Signs of Ill-Breeding

The Fork

The Spoon

The Knife

Adam’s Knives and Forks

Napkin and Finger-Bowl

Avoiding Fruit Stains

General Table Etiquette

How to Treat Waiters

Sundry Rules and Hints

Use of Knife and Fork

Disgusting Habits

Fruits

Invitations

Receiving

Should Make Every One Happy

Making Things Easy for the Hostess

Entertainment

Duties of the Guests

Beware of too Much Reserve

Hours of Arrival and Departure

RECEPTIONS

Evening Receptions

Morning Receptions or Matinées

Correct Dress

SUPPER PARTIES

A Simple Supper

A Game Supper

A Fish Supper

General Arrangements

Concerning the Music

Refreshments

Host and Hostess

Arrival and Departure

The Escort

Receiving Ladies

General Rules for Observance

Formality of Introductions

Attentions Paid to Ladies

For Ladies

DANCING

The Most Desirable Dances

No Favorites to be Allowed

Private Balls Given in Public

Public Balls

MASQUERADES

Choice of Costumes

Suitable Dress

Receiving Guests

The Entertainment

Invitations

Duty of Guests

MUSICALES

Arranging the Program

Arrangement of Performers and Guests

LAWN PARTIES

Amusements to be Provided

Tables and Refreshments

Seats

Lawn Parties for Charity

Concerning the Viands

Bill of Fare for Breakfast

Wedding Breakfast Menu

A Bachelor Breakfast

A Golden-Rod Breakfast

Choice Blending of Colors

LUNCHEONS

Luncheon Refreshments

Entering the Dining-Room

Lunch or Luncheon

Luncheon Favors

Some Betrothal Luncheons

Blue and White Tableware

A Dresden Luncheon

CONCERNING TEAS

High Tea

Menu

Five O’clock Teas, or “At Homes.”

The Five O’clock Tea Table

Pages

Receiving Friends

The Eatables

“Bringing Out” a Débutante

Gentlemen Visitors

How to Leave

An Afternoon Tea-Saucer

“Pink and Blue Teas.”

Invitations for Theater Parties

Dress for the Opera

Picnic Parties

What to Eat

Tongue and Sandwiches

Chaperons

A Marshmallow Toast

Roof Parties

Bachelor’s Parties

A Flower Party

Bicycle Teas

A Barn Party

Bachelor Women and their Entertainments

A Sandwich Spread

Private Theatricals

A Social Evening

Authors’ Parties

Firelight Parties

Conversaziones

A Country Dinner

Etiquette of Card Playing and Games

Outdoor Amusements

Hunting Parties

Archery, Lawn Tennis and Croquet

Boating and Yachting

Children’s Parties

The Christening

Attendance at the Ceremony

Godfathers and Godmothers

Candle Party

Christening Gifts

Dainty Presents for the Newcomer

Some Birthday Superstitions

CONFIRMATION

GRADUATION

Avoid all Extravagance

Funeral Invitations

Showing Respect for the Dead

To a Lady on the Death of her Husband

To a Friend on the Death of Her Sister

To a Friend on the Death of His Brother

To a Friend on the Death of Her Child

To a Friend on a Sudden Reverse of Fortune

Etiquette in Church

Etiquette of Fairs

Etiquette of Shopping

Etiquette of the Theatre, Opera and Concert

Between the Acts

Etiquette of the Street

Evading a Long Talk

ETIQUETTE OF RIDING

THE ETIQUETTE OF BOATING

Assisting Ladies to Their Seats

Who Should Row

A Popular Exercise

A Cycler’s Guide

Maids Do Duty

A Man’s Duty

Assisting the Lady

On the Road

For Protection Against Dogs

A Few Don’ts for Cyclers

Women’s Bicycle Rides

Length of the Ride

Skirts are an Abomination

A Pace Indicator

Don’t Dodge a Bicycle

Observing the Rules

Introduction of Friends

Barring Out Disputed Questions

Presiding at a Woman’s Club

Order of Business

Influence of Women

Effect of Cultured Manners

A Sympathetic Nature

Power through Repose

A Good Listener

How Men are Spoiled

Who Bows First?

“Lady” or “Gentleman?”

Misuse of the Term “Lady.”

A Promissory Note

A Joint Note

A Receipt on Account

A Receipt in Full

Form for a Bill

What and What Not to Say

Various Hints on Etiquette

First Attentions for Ladies

Minor Usages of the Best Society

Breaches of Etiquette

The Recognized Head

Formal Calls

Ministers from Foreign Countries

The Three Languages

Harmonious Development of the Body

Relaxing the Muscles

Art of Breathing

Position of the Shoulders

Standing and Walking

Stair-Climbing

Art of “Letting Go.”

On Corset Wearing

General Remarks

Stout and Thin

Tall or Short

Decorations

Décolleté Costume

Graceful Sleeves

Purchasing

The Young Girl

Diamonds and Precious Stones

Plump Women

Black Satin and Sparkling Jets

Complexion Determines Dress Colors

Combinations of Color

Red Hair, with Brown Eyes

Red Hair, with Gray or Green Eyes

The Ineffective Type

Stylish and Appropriate Jewels

Black Hair, Rather Sallow Skin

Black Hair, Clear Skin, Blue Eyes

Chestnut Hair, Fair Skin, Blue Eyes

Almost Any Color

Gray Hair

The Black Gown

Various Hints

The Choice of Colors

Harmony and Contrast of Colors

Dress at Home

The General Fitness

Common-Sense Sleeves

Gloves and Shoes

Artifices of the Toilet

When to Wear Jewels

Use of Scents and Flowers

The Face Veil

When to Wear Gloves

When to Wear Low-cut Gowns

Ball Dress

Opera Dress

Theater Costume

Dinner Dress

Traveling Notes

Bridal Dress

Bridemaid’s Dress

What Wedding Guests Wear

Ordinary Evening Dress

Dress for Church

Receiving Calls

Calling or Visiting Costume

Walking Dress

Carriage Dress

Dress for Lent

Dress for Riding

Lawn Parties

Picnics and Excursions

Croquet, Archery, Skating, Etc

Bathing Dress

Yachting Dress

Dress for Gentlemen

Evening Dress for Gentlemen

Morning Dress for Gentlemen

Wedding Dress for Gentlemen

Gloves for Gentlemen

General Hints

Evening Suit for Boys

A Rare Accomplishment

The Style,

Grammar and Orthography

Handwriting, Paper and Ink

Common Abbreviations

The Proper Salutation

Use of the Husband’s Name

Punctuation Marks

Writing the Superscription

Points to be Remembered

Titles

Domestic Titles

Social and Friendly Letters

Letters of Introduction

A Letter of Recommendation

Letters of Condolence

Letters of Congratulation

Proposals, Engagements, “Naming the Day,”

Notes Accompanying a Gift

Notes of Apology

Notes of Postponement

Notes of Request or Refusal

Business Letters

Answers to Advertisements

Some Don’ts and Do’s for Letter-Writers

Fireplaces and Windows

Stairways

Woodwork

Doors

A Door Divan

An Improvised Bookcase

Screens

Draperies

Some Useful Bits of Furniture

A Hanging Desk

A Window Desk

A Hall Chest

Cozy Corners

Plenty of Pillows

A Corner Closet

Piano Decoration

Lighting

Decorating

Home of the Soul

Some Lovely Rooms

As to Furniture

Pictures

Mottoes

Treatment for a Rough Skin

Reducing Flesh

Refreshing Sleep

How to Take Care of the Eyes

The Hair and How to Take Care of It

An Excellent Head Covering

Recipe for the Complexion

Care of the Lips

Remedies for the Lips

Smoothing Out the Wrinkles

The Feminine Waist

Beautiful Arms

Treatment for the Hands

Scissors and Nail-brush

To Cure Burning of the Skin

Remedy for Chilblains

Foot-Wear

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Maud C. Cooke

Published by Good Press, 2019

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