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Nancy Inc. Rockey. Shadows Of Acceptance
Preface
Introduction
Chapter One. Unplugged
Main Reactions to Rejection. Feelings of Worthlessness:
Fear:
Anger:
Chapter Two. The Brain and the Mind
Structure and Function:
Chapter Three. Rejection in the Womb
Chapter Four. Rejection – What Is It?
World Wide Evidence
Simply Stated:
Chapter Five. What’s the Set-Up?
Chapter Six. The Origin of Feelings
Chapter Seven. Dark Glasses
Chapter Eight. It Keeps Coming Up!
Chapter Nine. You Can Choose Acceptance!
Chapter Ten “Out of the Shadow!”
ADDED BONUS:
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“We live in the Shadowlands. The sun is always shining somewhere else. Round a bend in the road.”
In one of our favorite films, Shadowlands, the true story of C.S. Lewis’s life and marriage to Joy, Lewis speaks the above words. This famous sentiment seems to rightly depict the experience of most people – that joy, enlightenment and happiness is just around a bend, out of view, out of reach. The truth is that in order for there to be a shadow, the sun or light must be shining somewhere, so that a shadow can be cast. Could it be that light is right there in front or behind us, but because we predict that moving toward the light might be too painful, we choose to live only close to what could illuminate or make clear our understanding and progress? We live where we are, in one sense, comfortable, rather than pressing out into the unknown. Living in the shade, we are blinded by the light or we turn our back on it. It is predictable that in that artificial place, we will become gloomy, and perhaps see or comprehend only the outline or frosty image of the real, the true.
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Danny's anger had raged inside of him from years of physical and emotional abuse received from his father and from repeatedly seeing his mother physically abused by the same perpetrator. When his mother’s death was eminent due to breast cancer that had metastasized to numerous parts of her body, Danny blamed his father for her illness. His rage prompted him to threaten his father’s life, planning his murder in detail. Not heeding the counsel to get psychological help to eradicate his rage, he contained it until it exploded internally and destroyed his physical body. What a loss! A thirty-two year old man, drug and alcohol free, a powerful athlete, executed by his own anger that hid in the shadows of his daily experiences, and showed itself whenever he felt rejection again.
On the other hand, Anger can be valuable. It can cause the needed adrenalin rush to combat a threat, but when it is contained, the overload of adrenal hormones can destroy a life.
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