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Penny Palmano. Yes, Please. Thanks!: Teaching Children of All Ages Manners, Respect and Social Skills for Life
Copyright
Dedication
Contents
The story so far …
Monday, 31 May, Bank Holiday, 10.45 pm
Tuesday, 1 June, 7 am
The Greatest Reward
…and Finally in Safe Hands
Foreword
Introduction
one. The Buck Stops Here
But How?
Manners and Respect in the 21st Century – Why We Still Need Them
two. How the Wrong Foods Can Affect Children’s Behaviour, Health and IQ
The Scary Facts
Behaviour and Food
Health and Food
Poor Diet
Too much salt
Too much sugar
Fats
Good fats
Bad fats
Always Read the Label
‘But My Children Love Fizzy Drinks and Snacks’
Getting Off to a Good Start – Breakfast
Exercise
The School Run
Teenagers’ Eating Habits
Comfort Foods
Respecting Other Children’s Dietary Needs
What Children Really Need
three. Love. How to Show Love
Little Things Mean a Lot
four. Discipline
How We Start to Impose Discipline on Our Children
Impose Boundaries
Change your voice and body language
Remember, orders are not negotiable
Create continuity and consistency
Make rules clear and simple
Tell children what you expect of them
Encourage and reward good behaviour
Be firm about poor behaviour
Teach why the word ‘No’ must always mean ‘No’
Remain calm and in control
Dealing with Unsociable Behaviour: 1–4 years old. What to expect
Tantrums (Theirs Not Yours)
The silent tantrum
Trying to avoid tantrums
AVOID ARGUING
RESPONSIBILITY
DISTRACTION
HOW TO AVOID GOING MAD
Whining
Snatching
Aggression – biting, hitting and pinching
WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT
Why they are aggressive. ANGER AND FRUSTRATION
ATTENTION
FEELING THREATENED
INSECURITY
TOO MUCH ENERGY
FEAR
COPYING
Dealing with Unsociable Behaviour: 5–14 years old
Problem
Possible cause
SOLUTION
Problem
Possible cause
SOLUTION
Problem
Possible cause
SOLUTION
Problem
Possible Cause
SOLUTION
Problem
Possible cause
SOLUTION
Problem
Possible cause
SOLUTION
Problem
Possible cause
SOLUTION
Turning your Children’s Behaviour Around
Take control
5–8 years old
9–14 years old
Crime and Penalties
TV, Videos and Computers
Young children and TV
The alternative
How to limit TV time. UNDER 10s
OVER 10s
Swearing
Disciplining Other People’s Children
five. Attention
Positive Interaction between Parents and Children
How to stop negative attention
How to give your children positive attention
Encouragement
Creating a Childhood
Be realistic about expectations for your children
Playing
HIDE AND SEEK
SLEEPING TIGERS
SHARKS
DRESSING UP
CHARADES
Not playing the game
Cooking
Art
Rainy days
Museums
Kite flying
Beach (summer and winter)
Making camps and tents
Winter barbecues
Catching leaves
Picnics
Watch an event
Gardening
Water fights
six. Communication
Encouraging Speech
Reading stories
Building Listening Skills
Bring Back the Family Meal
The hard facts
Invaluable time
What’s the alternative?
How to achieve the modern-day family meal
SINGLE PARENTS
LAYING THE TABLE
THE MEAL
RELAX
Encouraging speech at the table
TELL STORIES
PRAISE AT THE TABLE
LAUGHTER IS THE BEST MEDICINE
ENCOURAGING LISTENING
TEENAGERS
Table manners
TEACHING TABLE MANNERS
SITTING AT THE TABLE
WHEN ARE CHILDREN READY TO USE A KNIFE AND FORK?
HOW TO USE A KNIFE, FORK AND SPOON
GENERAL POLITENESS AND COURTESY AT THE TABLE
CLEARING UP
TEENAGERS
seven. Routine, Continuity and Consistency
How to Avoid Tears Before Bedtime (Everyone’s)
Why do toddlers keep getting out of bed?
Setting bed and nap times
Establishing a bedtime routine
A relaxing bath
Cuddle and story
Warm milk
Bed
Learning to fall asleep
Crying
Make sure they are tired
Creating Bad Sleeping Habits. TV
Resisting ‘just a few minutes’
Overtiredness
Effects from sleep deprivation
Toddlers refusing to go to bed
THE PAINFUL
THE LESS PAINFUL
Your child (5 to 10 years) is already getting out of bed each evening
IF THEY SAY THEY CANNOT GET TO SLEEP
eight. Example
Teaching Right and Wrong
Stealing
Teaching ownership
Close family relationships
Taking things that do not belong to them – the under 6s
SOLUTION
School-age children
Parents setting a bad example
PREVENTION
To get what they want
PREVENTION
Peer pressure
PREVENTION
Seeking attention
PREVENTION
Because they can get away with it
What to do if your child steals
Teenagers
Lying
White lies
To avoid punishment
PREVENTION
To hide inadequacies
PREVENTION
Peer pressure
PREVENTION
To get what they want
PREVENTION
Lying for attention
PREVENTION
School
PREVENTION
What to do if your child lies
Teenagers’ privacy
nine. Respect
How to Help your Child Develop Self-respect
How to Respect your Children
Getting your Children to Respect you
How Children Develop Respect for their Family
Respecting other People
Respecting their Friends
Respecting your Friends
Respecting Property
Contributing to household chores
Keeping their rooms tidy
How to Respect your Teenagers
Clothes
Health
Drinking
Teenage problems
How to Get your Teenager’s Respect
Good Manners
ten. How to Behave in Public. Restaurants
Problem
SOLUTION
Problem
SOLUTION
Problem
SOLUTION
Problem
SOLUTION
Problem
SOLUTION
Problem
SOLUTION
Problem
SOLUTION
Problem
SOLUTION
Trains and Buses
Cars
Toddlers
School-age children
Airports and Aeroplanes
How to make your travelling less painful
Checking-in
TODDLERS
SCHOOL-AGE CHILDREN
The departure lounge. TODDLERS
School-age children
On the aeroplane
The baggage hall
Public Places
Teenagers
Shops
Supermarkets
IDEAS FOR CHILDREN TO HELP IN SUPERMARKETS
Cinemas and Theatres
Waiting Rooms
Religious Services
THE RECEPTION
eleven. Simple (but Extremely Important) Courtesies
Please and Thank You
From the start
School-age children
Teenagers
By example
Thank-you Letters
Excuse Me
Coughing and Sneezing
Yawning
‘Pardon?’ not ‘Wot?’
Shaking Hands
Opening Doors
Helping with Coats
Paying a Compliment
Apologies
‘I Want’ Never Gets
Reliability
twelve. How to Behave at School. Introduction to Nursery School or Kindergarten
Preparing your children for nursery
First day
Preparing for School
Parent/teacher support
Discipline
What to expect
Respecting adults
Listening skills
Respecting their peers
How to take turns
How to dress and undress
Table manners
Getting involved
Toilet training
Homework
thirteen. How to Survive Christmas
The Week(s) Before Christmas
The Christmas spirit
The Presents
Christmas Eve Evening
What if one sibling no longer believes in Santa?
Problems that may Arise. Problem
SOLUTION
Problem
SOLUTION
Problem
SOLUTION
Problem
SOLUTION
Problem
SOLUTION
Watchpoint
Work and Child Care
fourteen. Working Parents
How To Be a Good Working Parent
Only One Parent Home in Time for Supper
Both Parents
Weekend Fathers
fifteen. Child Care – How You Can Still Be in Control
Employing Someone at Home. Continuity
Teaching your nanny how to bring up your children
TANTRUMS
DISCIPLINE
MEALS AND SNACKS
NAPS
THINGS TO DO WITH YOUR CHILD
ENCOURAGING GOOD BEHAVIOUR
TV, VIDEOS, DVDS AND COMPUTER GAMES
ACCIDENTS
SAFETY IN THE HOME
BEDTIME
Changes in Behaviour
School-age Children
TV, videos, DVDs and computer games
Snacks
Meals
Homework
Things to do
Getting ready for bed
How Do I know if my Nanny Does as I Ask?
Final Word
Acknowledgements
About the Publisher
