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Ray Simpson. Before We Say Goodbye: Preparing for a Good Death
BEFORE WE SAY GOODBYE. PRACTICAL GUIDANCE, INSPIRING STORIES AND PRAYERS TO HELP US PREPARE A GOOD DEATH. Ray Simpson
CONTENTS
FOREWORD
INTRODUCTION
THE THINGS THEY SAY ABOUT DYING
PART ONE
BEFRIEND DEATH WHEN YOU ARE YOUNG
THERE’S A TIME TO GIVE AND A TIME TO GO
THE SECRET OF LIFE IS THE SECRET OF DEATH
DEATH PUTS LIFE IN PERSPECTIVE
WHEN FACED, DEATH BUILDS VALOUR
THE ACHE INSIDE US
MAKE DEATH YOUR ANAM CARA
START NOW
WHY DO PEOPLE DIE YOUNG?
PICTURE DEATH
MASTER THE FEAR OF DEATH
THE FACES OF DEATH
SEE ETERNITY IN A GRAIN OF SAND
RAINBOWS
HARBOURS AND HORIZONS
BIRDS AND WINDS
NATURE’S CYCLE OF REBIRTH
LIVE LIFE AS A JOURNEY
START WITH LIFE’S LITTLE DEATHS
PRACTISE GOING TO SLEEP
PRACTISE MAKING TRANSITIONS
PRACTISE BEING ON YOUR DEATHBED
1. EARTH AND THE DISSOLUTION OF THE BODY
2. WATER AND LOSS OF CONTROL OF BODILY FLUIDS
3. FIRE AND THE DRYING UP OF BODILY PARTS
4. AIR AND THE DISSOLUTION OF CONSCIOUSNESS
PRACTISE PRAYING
GET TO KNOW YOUR BODY
MOVE WITH LIFE’S RHYTHMS
COME THROUGH ROUGH PASSAGES
RED, WHITE AND BLUE DEATHS
REACH FOR THE EDGES
REVIEW YOUR LIFE
BE PRESENT TO THE DYING
ENJOY THE COMMUNION OF SAINTS
ENCOUNTER ANGELS
TRANSFORMATIONS
BE PREPARED!
PART TWO
GROW BEFORE YOU GO
LIVE SIMPLY
DO IT NOW!
FULFIL YOUR DESTINY
LISTEN TO YOUR SOUL THOUGHTS
FACE PAIN
KNOW YOUR LIFE STORY
SHARE YOUR LIFE STORY
LIVE OUT OF YOUR VULNERABILITY
SPEAK OUT YOUR ANGUISH
ENGAGE WITH THE STAGES OF LIFE
BE A PILGRIM
ACCUMULATE TIMELESS TREASURE
DOES DEATH ROB LIFE OF ITS MEANING?
BECOME FREE TO MOVE ON
PART THREE
GO PREPARED
WHAT WILL YOU LEAVE BEHIND?
DON’T LEAVE A MUDDLE
MAKE A WILL
APPLY THE GOLDEN RULE TO YOUR DESCENDANTS
EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS OF LOSS
ACKNOWLEDGE THE STAGES OF GRIEF
DENIAL
ANGER
DEPRESSION
ACCEPTANCE
BE REAL
FREE THE TRAPPED SPIRIT
RELEASE COMPASSION
LISTEN TO YOUR DREAMS
AT THE FIRST GLIMPSE OF DEATH’S APPROACH
THE HEALING POWER OF ACCEPTANCE
PREPARE TO LEAVE
PLAN THE FUNERAL
CELEBRATE A LIFE
WHEN WOULD YOU LIKE TO BE REMEMBERED?
THE THIRD DAY
THE NINTH DAY
THE FORTIETH DAY
‘HONOUR ME, DON’T HUMOUR ME’
HOW TO SAY WHAT WE WANT TO SAY
DEAR GRACE, WHEN I AM DYING…
SAYING OUR GOODBYES
PARTING GIFTS
EPITAPHS
A WAY TO MEDITATE AT DEATH
FUN ON THE WAY OUT
LAST WISHES
FINAL WORDS
FAREWELL BLESSINGS
AN EXERCISE
ANOINTED FOR BURIAL
INWARD ANOINTING
OUTWARD ANOINTING
CHOOSE YOUR TIME TO GO
EARLY EXIT OR ENCORE?
ON THE DAY DEATH KNOCKS AT THE DOOR
PART FOUR
DRAW UP YOUR ‘DEPARTURE LOUNGE’ GUIDELINES
RAY SIMPSON’S ‘DEPARTURE LOUNGE’ GUIDELINES FOR LOVED ONES AND CARERS
…………………’S ‘DEPARTURE LOUNGE’ GUIDELINES FOR LOVED ONES AND CARERS
ANYTHING TO DECLARE?
CONFESSIONS
FORGIVENESS PARLOUR
MUSIC
PRAYERS
PRAYERS TO BE SAID BY OR WITH YOU OR ON YOUR BEHALF
PRAYERS TO BE SAID FOR YOU AND BESIDE YOU
PRAYERS AT THE VERY END
ANGELS
SONGS
POETS’ CORNER
BIBLE READINGS
SHORT SENTENCES FROM THE PSALMS
LONGER PASSAGES FROM THE PSALMS
SHORT SENTENCES FROM OTHER PARTS OF SCRIPTURE
OTHER PASSAGES FROM SCRIPTURE
FAVOURITE BIBLE VERSES
THINGS TO LOOK AT
SOMETHING TO HOLD
DIARIES, ALBUMS AND VIDEOS
A PRIVATE PLACE
LITURGY FOR THE GREAT PASSAGE
THE LITANY
PART FIVE
THE OTHER SIDE
THE LONG JUMP
GONE WHERE?
LIFE IS JUST BEGINNING
WHEN THE SAINTS GO MARCHING IN
THE PLACE OF RESURRECTION
A VEIL THIN AS GOSSAMER
THE MORNING AFTER
OUT OF THE BODY EXPERIENCES
LIFE AFTER LIFE
WHAT IS THE OTHER WORLD LIKE?
WHAT HAPPENS AFTER DEATH?
IMAGES OF HEAVEN
HEAVEN IS LIKE A PARTY
HEAVEN IS LIKE A COMMUNITY
HEAVEN IS LIKE A RENEWED CITY
HEAVEN IS LIKE A RENEWED EARTH
THE ETERNAL STRUGGLE OF LOVE
THE VOYAGE TO THE OTHER SIDE
PART SIX
INSPIRING DEATHS
JESUS (D. 33)
IGNATIUS (D. 107)
COLUMBA (D. 597)
MONINNE (D. C. 518)
AIDAN (D. 651)
CUTHBERT (D. 687) AND RAMON (D. 2000)
HILDA (D. 680)
CAEDMON (D. 680)
A BOY (D. C. 690)
BEDE (D. 735)
MUM (D. 1971)
COLIN
A DANCER (D. PRE-1994)
NORMA (D. 1991)
NIGEL (D. 1993)
FUNNIES
ILLNESS PROGRESSION
FINAL DETAILS
HELPFUL QUOTES
‘FAITH ON THE SLAB’
THE ‘SWEET PEA’ (D. 1999)
THE CHILD GOD LOANED
PARENTS’ LETTERS TO THEIR ‘SWEET PEA’
PLANTING SEEDS IN MEMORY
A BLESSING FOR DEATH
REFERENCES
SOME HELPFUL BOOKS
PULL-OUT FORMS
EPILOGUE
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS
PRAISE
COPYRIGHT
ABOUT THE PUBLISHER
