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Reshma Saujani. Brave, Not Perfect
Introduction. Daring the Unthinkable
Why Me?
1. Sugar and Spice and Everything Nice
The Origins of Perfectionism
The Overpowering Need to Please
The “Softer” Sex
Perfection or Bust
The Fixed Mindset
Silenced Voices
2. The Cult of Perfection
Pretty Like Mommy
#perfectgirl
Changing the Code
3. Perfection 3.0: When the Perfect Girl Grows Up
How Did I Get Here?
The Myths of Perfection
Myth #1: Polished Equals Perfect
Myth #2: Once Everything Is Perfect, I’ll Be Happy
Myth #3: If I’m Not Perfect, Everything Will Fall Apart
Myth #4: Perfection Is the Same as Excellence
Myth #5: Failure Is Not an Option
Myth #6: I Need to Be Perfect to Get Ahead
The Truth about Perfection
4. Redefining Bravery
Is Bravery a Male Trait?
A New View of Bravery
In a World Full of Princesses, Dare to Be a Hot Dog
Brave Like Women
5. Why Be Brave?
6. Build a Bravery Mindset
Strategy: Keep Your Tank Full
Strategy: Claim the Power of “Yet”
Strategy: Do the “Drama vs. Wisdom” Test
Strategy: Look for Your Ledge
Strategy: Ask Yourself: What Scares Me More?
Strategy: Take Your Own Advice
Strategy: Set Daily Bravery Challenges
7. Get Caught Trying
Strategy: Ask for Feedback
Strategy: Surround Yourself with Rejection
Strategy: Get Your Fear Signals Straight
Strategy: Start Before You’re Ready
Strategy: Choose Failure
Strategy: Do Something You Suck At
Strategy: Take on a Physical Challenge
Strategy: Use Your Hands
8. Nix the Need to Please
Strategy: Trust Yourself
Strategy: No Fucks Given
Strategy: Ask “And Then What?”
Strategy: Just Say No
Strategy: Make the Ask
Strategy: Nevertheless, Persist
9. Play for Team Brave
Strategy: Show the Mess Behind the Scenes
Strategy: Support the Sisterhood
10. Surviving a Big, Fat Failure
Step One: Throw a (Short) Pity Party
Step Two: Celebrate Your Failure
Step Three: Shake It Off (Literally)
Step Four: Review, Reassess, Realign
Step Five: Try Again
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RESHMA SAUJANI is the Founder and CEO of Girls Who Code, a national nonprofit organization working to close the gender gap in technology while teaching girls confidence and bravery through coding. A lifelong activist, Reshma was the first Indian American woman to run for U.S. Congress. She’s been named a Fortune 40 under 40, a WSJ Magazine Innovator of the Year, and one of the Most Powerful Women Changing the World by Forbes. She is the author of three books, including Women Who Don’t Wait In Line and the New York Times bestseller Girls Who Code: Learn to Code and Change the World. Reshma lives in New York City with her husband, Nihal, their son, Shaan, and their bulldog, Stanley.
‘Reshma Saujani is . . . empowering “an army of young women” to take on tech’s gender gap’
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Brad also currently coaches the girls’ basketball team, which he’s found to be much different from his experience coaching the boys. “With girls you have to stay constantly positive,” he says. “If you go negative or critical, they just shut down and there’s nothing you can do to pull them out of that funk. If boys lose, it’s just a game . . . they figure they’ll play hundreds of games in their high school career, they’ll get over one loss. For girls, a loss is personally defeating. They think, ‘Why am I even playing basketball at all?’”
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