Parent Voice

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Russell J. Quaglia. Parent Voice

Praise for Parent Voice

Dedication

Parent Voice

Contents

Acknowledgments

About the Authors

Note from Dr. Q

Introduction Be the Parent You Want to Be . . . and the Parent YourChildren Deserve!

Chapter 1 Noise or Voice?

The New Language

The Responsibility of Voice

Reflect on Voice

Tuning Into Your Own Voice

Now Hear This!

Chapter 2 ListenHearing the Right Notes

Listening Matters

Keys to Effective Listening

Reflect—Respect

Reflect—Empathy

Reflect—Honesty

Reflect—Attitude

Reflect on Listening

Listening: Take Action

Instead of Asking General Questions, Try Being Specific

Instead of Inserting Advice, Try Being Open to Your Children’s Suggestions

Instead of Grilling for Answers, Try Discussing Ideas

Instead of Thinking “I Know Best,” Try Believing “We Know Best”

Instead of Forcing Conversations, Try Respecting Introspection

Instead of Forming Judgments, Try Trusting Your Child’s Perspective

4- to 7-Year-Olds. Seem to Have a Short Attention Span

Love Asking Questions

Misinterpret Body Language

Use Limited Vocabulary

8- to 10-Year-Olds. Direction Overload

Strong Sense of Right and Wrong

Argue Before Listening

Sensitive to Criticism

11- to 13-Year-Olds. Believe Parents Know Nothing (“You just don’t understand!”)

Fear Failure

Desire Independent Decision-making Opportunities

Increased Importance of Peer Group

14- to 18-Year-Olds. Friends’ Voices Have Increased Influence

Autonomy

Crave a Good Debate

Desire Space and To Be Left Alone

In Their Own Words: Advice on Listening, From Children to Parents

Nate, age 13

Thomas, age 11

The Three Ears to Success

Audrey, age 15

Listening for Life

Chapter 3 LearnGetting in Rhythm

Learning Matters

Mindful Learning

Learning and Interests

Speaking Their Language

Shared Adventures

Keys to Sincere Learning

Reflect—Acceptance

Reflect—Inquisitiveness

Reflect—Openness

Reflect—Patience

Reflect on Learning

Learning: Take Action

Instead of Knowing It All, Try Realizing No One Does!

Instead of Doing It Quickly Yourself,Try Slowing Down and Working Together

Instead of Completing Thoughts, Try Supporting Independent Thinking

Instead of Accepting the Status Quo, Try Moving Outside Your Comfort Zone

Instead of Worrying About Perfection, Try Focusing on Progress

Instead of Jumping to The Next Task, Try Reflecting

4- to 7-Year-Olds. Learn to Explain Themselves

Emerge as Readers

Look for Guidance

Learn From Siblings and Peers

8- to 10-Year Olds. Spend Significant Time on Electronics

Experience Self-consciousness

Share Ideas With Hesitation

Tune Out Others’ Ideas and Suggestions

11- to 13-Year-Olds. Desire Independence

Remain in Comfort Zone

Spend Time With Peers Instead of Parents

Overlook Connection Between Present Learning and Future Benefits

14- to 18-Year-Olds. Seek Separation From Parents

Think About the Future

Stress About School

Struggle With Motivation

Our Learning From Parents and Children

Never Stop Learning

Chapter 4 LeadWorking in Harmony With Your Child and School

Leading Matters

Digging Deeper

Developing Partnerships

Shared Goals

Keys to Leading Successfully

Reflect—Prioritize

Reflect—Teamwork

Reflect—Decision Making

Reflect—Responsibility

Proactive Voice at School

Reflect on Leading

Leading: Take Action

Instead of Listening to Just One Side, Try Understanding Different Viewpoints

instead of Responding to It, Try Sitting With It

Instead of Focusing on an Individual Piece, Try Seeing the Whole Puzzle

Instead of Being General, Try Being Specific

Instead of Running to the Rescue, Try Letting It Unfold

4- to 7-Year-Olds. Enjoy Parental Attention and Time

Focus on Life at Home

Struggle With Issues of Fairness at School

Enjoy Learning at School, but Not Interested in Reading at Home

8- to 10-Year-Olds. Progress to Structured Play With Peers

Begin To Be Aware of Community and World Issues

Blame Others; Don’t Take Responsibility for Actions

Want To Be Correct and Never Fail

11- to 13-Year-Olds. Feel Leading With Parents is Not Cool

Realize That Their Parents Do Not Know Everything

See Socializing as a Priority

Fail to Recognize Long-term Consequences

14- to 18-Year-Olds. Seek Parental Advice on Broad Range of Issues and Challenges

Develop Greater Awareness of Inequalities and Injustices

Act as Self-advocate

Feel Overloaded by Major Decisions

Our Learning About Leading

We Are All in This Together

Chapter 5 Staying in Tune With Your Child and School

Accept and Respect the Fact That Your Children Have Different Perspectives Than You

Parents Need and Deserve a Meaningful Role in School

Parenting Should Be a Priority, All the Time

Be Intentional

Be Yourself

Index

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Parents often struggle to find the right way to use their own voice in supporting, nurturing, and advocating for their children at home and at school. This book provides important wisdom from experienced educators that incorporates deep knowledge of children’s needs and development to help parents listen to their children, learn from them, and lead them toward becoming self-reliant adults.

—Gerald Aungst, K–4 Gifted Teacher Cheltenham Elementary School Cheltenham, PA

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Lesson Learned: Use your voice to challenge preconceived ideas of voice. Celebrate quiet, introverted children and the different ways they express their voices.

Dad’s Deliberations on Voice

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