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Sarah Lizabeth Barker. Planning A Wedding For Dummies
Planning a Wedding For Dummies® To view this book's Cheat Sheet, simply go to www.dummies.com and search for “Planning a Wedding For Dummies Cheat Sheet” in the Search box. Table of Contents
List of Tables
List of Illustrations
Guide
Pages
Introduction
About This Book
Foolish Assumptions
Icons Used in This Book
Beyond the Book
Where to Go from Here
It’s YOUR Day!
You Said Yes!
Congratulations, It’s Time to Celebrate
Living by the Three Ps of Wedding Planning
Perspective
A LESSON IN PERSPECTIVE
Process
Pause
Enjoying the Planning Process
Setting boundaries with family and friends
Continuing to date your fiancé
Considering premarital counseling
Sample wedding planning checklist
Picking the Perfect Date
Sharing the Exciting News
Spreading the Word
Announcing your engagement
Planning the engagement party
Making the social media announcement
Selecting Your Squad
Understanding the job requirements
Standing by your side
Proposing to your bridal party
Showers, Bashes, and Parties
Gift registries
Bachelorette bash
Bachelor party
Couple’s shower
Bridal shower
Everyone Has a Budget
Knowing What’s Most Important to You
Figuring Out Who’s Paying
What Does Your Budget Include?
Resourcing your connections
Setting limits
Buyer beware: Service fees
Tips and gratuities
Taking Care of Logistics
Your Day Is Only as Good as Your Team
Putting Your Plans in the Hands of Others
Developing the all-important trust factor
Remembering that quality is worth the cost
Getting referrals
Deciding how much outsourcing you’re comfortable with
Researching on social media
MAKING THE BEST OF THE WORST OF MOTHER NATURE
Selecting the Very Best Vendors
Wedding planner
Flowers and decor
Rentals
Photography
Videography
THE FIRST LOOK
Catering
Bar and bartending
Baker
Entertainment
Transportation
Hotel room blocks
Welcome bags for your guests
Marriage Isn’t the Only Bond You’re Entering Into: Contracts
Understanding what you’re signing
Don’t forget all the details
Deposits and retainers
Reading the fine print
All-Inclusive Wedding Planning
What’s Actually Included?
Budget-Friendly or Budget Breaker?
Making It Your Own
Asking the right questions when meeting with an all-inclusive planner
Looking at ways to customize an all-inclusive wedding
Location, Location, Location
Picking Your Perfect Ceremony and Reception Venue
Considering Indoor Event Venues
DON’T FLIP OUT — FLIP YOUR SPACE!
THE PERFECT LOCATION TURNED NIGHTMARE LOCATION
Knowing Your Options for Outdoor Events
WHEN TO IMPLEMENT YOUR BACKUP PLAN
Taking cover from sun and rain: Tents and coverage
Wind: It’s a four-letter word for a reason
THE AMAZING FLYING TENTS
Considering an All-Inclusive Wedding Venue: Pros and Cons
Inviting Friends and Family
Deciding What Size Really Matters
Micro wedding: An intimate affair
A SMALLER WEDDING DOESN’T ALWAYS MEAN LESS EXPENSIVE
Medium wedding: It’s “just right”
Large wedding: Go big or go home
Organizing Your Guest List
Deciding who’s invited
Setting up your guest list
Getting the Word Out
Sharing updates on a wedding website
Asking people to save the date
Sending the all-important wedding invitations
Who’s doing the inviting
Invitation Format Protocol
Printing types
Getting a headcount with RSVPs
Deciding on an RSVP date
Organizing responses
Tracking menu selections
To mail or to email?
Providing Helpful Handouts
A guide to your wedding: Programs
What to include
Remembering those we lost
Teasing the tastebuds: Menus
Boy, girl, boy, girl: Place cards
Showing gratitude: Thank-You Cards
Keeping track of your gifts
Knowing what to say
Adding Special Touches with Flowers
First Things First: Determining Your Style
FLOWERS NEED WATER!
Wearing and Carrying Floral Accents
Choosing the perfect bridal bouquets
Bring on the bridesmaids’ bouquets
Stick a pin in it: Boutonnieres
Simple and elegant: Corsages
A BOUTONNIERE WITH A POCKET SQUARE — YAY OR NAY?
So sweet: Flowers for flower girls and ring bearers
Recognizing the attendants and ushers
Sprucing Up the Ceremony Space
Adorning the altar
HOW STURDY IS IT?
Decorating the aisle
Additional decor
Guestbook table
Front doors
Creating a Festive Feel at the Reception
Cocktail hour
Setting the perfect table
Sweetheart table
Head table
Guest tables
Check-in table
Room accents
Sample Flower Order
Style Icon
In Pursuit of Your Dream Dress
Selecting the Perfect Dress
MY OWN DREAM DRESS STORY
Gathering floral and decor inspiration
All shades of white
Complement your silhouette, neckline, and arms
Silhouettes
Body type
Necklines
Sleeves
Thinking about the train and veil
Underneath It All: Picking the Proper Undergarments
AVOIDING A WARDROBE MALFUNCTION
From Head to Toe
Headpieces
Shoes
Something old, new, borrowed, blue
PRESERVING YOUR MEMORIES
Picking the Perfect Hairstyle
Makeup: How Much Is Too Much?
RINGS AND THE ROCK
What Everyone Else Will Be Wearing
Duds for Your Dude: The Groom’s Attire
Suit up or suit down?
Tie, handkerchief, vest?
Choosing Attire for the Bridal Party
Bridesmaids
HAVE THE MONEY TALK AS SOON AS POSSIBLE
Groomsmen
Parents
Mother of the bride
Father of the bride
Mother of the groom
Father of the groom
Grandparents
Flower girl and ring bearer
GARLIC INSTEAD OF FLOWERS?!
Attendants
Officiant
Ceremony To-Do’s
Making Your Marriage Legal
WHATEVER YOU DO, DON’T FORGET THE LICENSE!
Selecting Your Officiant
A PLUG FOR PREMARITAL COUNSELING
Heading to the Courthouse: Marriage License Protocol
Navigating Same-Sex Legalities
Changing Your Name
Determining your new name
Offices to officially change your name
Banks, utilities, and more
Where the Magic Happens: Planning and Personalizing Your Ceremony
Deciding on Your Ceremony Celebration
Nondenominational
Spiritual
WHO CAN MAKE IT OFFICIAL?
Religious
Designing a Ceremony That Tells Your Love Story
Personalizing the ceremony script through stories and other details
Overview of the ceremony components
Processing in and skipping out
Pairing up the members of your bridal party
Figuring out the processional order
Recessional: It’s all in reverse!
Vows and rings
Opting for traditional vows
Writing your own vows
Settling on your ring ceremony content
UNPLUGGED CEREMONY
Setting the Mood with Music
Selecting the musicians
Selecting specific songs
Prelude
Processional
Special Music
Recessional
Postlude
Additional Ceremony Must-Haves
BEING READY FOR ANYTHING WITH A WEDDING DAY EMERGENCY KIT
Guestbook
Gifts
Programs
Let’s Party
Celebrating After the Ceremony: The Reception
Setting the Tone
Music
Flowers and decor
Other details
Examining the Elements of a Typical Reception
Cocktail hour
Bridal party introductions
Welcome
Dinner
Opting for a buffet style
Going more formal with plated seating
Cake cutting
Toasts
Special dances
First dance
Parent dances
A TOUCHING MOMENT VERSUS A CRINGEY ONE
Dance, dance, dance
Bouquet toss
Garter toss
Late night
Exit
Making the Most of Your Time with a Reception Timeline
What’s on the Menu?
Selecting the Caterer
Local restaurant
Catering company
Food truck
Picking Your Preferred Type of Dinner Service
Plated seated
Buffet
BUFFET MADNESS
Stations
Thinking about What You Want to Eat
Appetizers and cocktails
What’s for dinner?
How sweet it is
WHAT IF I DON’T LIKE SWEETS?
Bride’s cake
THE LEANING TOWER OF CAKE
Groom’s cake
Dessert buffet
Let’s Drink to That
Cash bar versus hosted bar
CAUTIONARY TALES FROM THE BAR
Tending bar: Leave it to the professionals
Avoiding a traffic jam
WHEN “OVERSERVED” GETS OUT OF HAND
Bar aesthetics
Selecting wine and beer
Specialty drinks
Liquor
Enjoying Your Party
Selecting the Perfect Entertainment
Cocktail hour music
Dinner music
Dancing music
Booking a band
Spinning with a DJ
Your Grand Exit
Last dance
Party favors
THE MAGIC OF THE LAST DANCE
Exit celebration
Getaway vehicle
Honeymoon suite
Wedding Weekend Events
Practice Makes Perfect
Drawing Up the Master Plan for the Weekend
Vendor contact information
Bridal party contact information
Timeline of day-before-the-wedding events
Timeline of the big day (with a first look)
Timeline of the big day (no first look)
Flowers and decor
Floor plan
Guest list
Distributing Your Master Plan
Walking through Who Stands Where and Says What
Getting everyone in order at the rehearsal
Who’s giving a toast?
Informing Your Bridal Party
Enjoying Yourself at the Rehearsal Dinner
Picking the guest list
Scouting out the perfect location
Choosing the food and beverage
Toasts
Gifts for your bridal party
Couples exchange
Bridesmaids’ and groomsmen’s gifts
Parent present
Love for the littles
Late-night celebration
HOT MESS TRAIN
Rest and Recover for the Big Day
Pre- and Post-Wedding Events
Bridal Party Activities
Getting showered
So much love, so many showers!
Ironing out the specifics
Planning gifts, games, and other important details
Bridesmaids’ lunch
Groomsmen bro time
SOMETIMES IT’S JUST TOO MUCH
Brunch the Day After Your Wedding
Picking the guest list
Selecting the location
Saying Goodbye to Family and Friends
Allowing time for goodbyes at the reception
Saying goodbye at a post-wedding event
Honeymooning with your BFF
Thinking about Your Time of Travel
Selecting the Perfect Location
THE NOT-SO-PERFECT LOCATION
Working with a Travel Agent
Going Abroad
Packing for the Trip
Life After Wedding Planning
Experiencing the bridal blues
Thinking about what’s next
The Part of Tens
Ten Ways to Ensure a Bad Day
Don’t Set a Budget
Don’t Hire a Good Team
Skip the Timeline
Don’t Communicate the Plan
Invite Everyone You Know
Don’t Pick a Supportive Squad
Get Caught Up in the Drama
Ignore What You Want
Stop Dating Your Fiancé
Lose All Perspective
Ten Reasons You’re Normal
Wedding Dress Frustration
Fiancé Frustration
Having Nightmares
Disappointed with the Bridal Party
Totally Obsessed with Checking the Weather
Practicing Your Facial Expressions
If You’re Totally Freaking Out
If You’re Drinking Too Much
If You’re Frustrated with Your Guests
If You Have Practiced the Kiss
Index. A
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About the Authors
Dedication
Author’s Acknowledgments
WILEY END USER LICENSE AGREEMENT
