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Steve Biddulph. Raising Babies: Should under 3s go to nursery?
Raising Babies. Steve Biddulph
Table of Contents
Introduction
A changed world
Helping you decide
In a nutshell
Part One The Truth about Nurseries
1 What nursery is like
Trusting your senses
1 The lack of peace
2 The sense of vulnerability
3 The lack of homeliness or a place of one’s own
The baby room
4 There are never enough adults to go around
5 Some kids cope less well than others
Hanging on the gate
6 Some staff are more caring than others
7 The staff care in a different way to a parent
8 There is a mechanical, institutional quality to the day’s events
A place to call home
9 The presence of babies seems wrong
10 A day is a really long time
What nursery staff think of nurseries
In a nutshell
2 Slammers and sliders
Two kinds of nursery user
Morning delivery
The health consequences of distant parenting
Home-raised children
Nursery uptake and social class
Having it all?
What do you prefer?
A woman who asks tough questions
In a nutshell
3 Does nursery harm under-threes?
Vested interests
Early concerns
At last, some answers
What the studies found
1 Yes, there is some damage
2 The quality of care doesn’t prevent the damage
3 Parenting quality matters most
4 Less is better, but there is no safe threshold
5 Timing is crucial
6 The damage is moderate but widespread
Cognitive learning
Public or private?
The key finding
All studies have shortcomings
The role of politics
Knowing the value of love
Where to from here?
In a nutshell
Part Two How a Happy Child Grows
4 Your baby’s growing brain
How love grows the brain
Developing a Social Brain
Growing all the bits
The vital second year
How stories feed the brain
In a nutshell
5 How babies teach us to parent
Baby helps, too
Mother–baby connections
I feel your pain
Does parenthood change your brain?
Strength comes from good beginnings
A long line of mothers
Feelings colour thinking
Don’t forget the fun
In a nutshell
6 Babies and emotional intelligence
Avoiding extremes
How a baby learns emotional regulation
What emotional intelligence is
Emotions are our friends
Why emotional intelligence matters
Help me with my world!
How does it happen?
A new definition of love
From the feeling to the thinking brain
In a nutshell
7 Why nursery doesn’t work for babies
What the research says
What cortisol tells us about nursery stress
The reality gap
Do nurseries teach you to be social?
The nanny option
In a nutshell
Part Three Home and the World
8 Couples at the coalface
1 Having it all?
2 The handbag decoy and the nursery from hell
3 Living within your means
Making life complicated
Where do the dads fit into all this?
In a Nutshell
9 Our world of greed and speed
We can choose
Are children in trouble?
Where our children fit in
In a nutshell
10 A world where love can thrive
Solutions – ‘the big three’
The role of politicians
Be the change you want to see
Improving nursery care
In a nutshell
APPENDIX Recommendations
By age. In your child’s first year
When your child is one
When your child is two
When your child is three
When your child is four
By type of care
By your circumstances
Inside Stories
Notes. Introduction
Chapter 1 – What nursery is like
Chapter 2 – Slammers and sliders
Chapter 3 – Does nursery school harm under-threes?
Chapter 4 – Your baby’s growing brain
Chapter 5 – How babies teach us to parent
Chapter 6 – Babies and emotional intelligence
Chapter 7 – Why nursery doesn’t work for babies
Chapter 8 – Couples at the coalface
Chapter 9 – Our world of greed and speed
Chapter 10 – A world where love can thrive
Index
Acknowledgements
About the author
Other Books By
Copyright
About the Publisher
