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Sue Campbell. The Parental Leave Playbook
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Guide
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10 TOUCHPOINTS TO TRANSITION SMOOTHLY, STRENGTHEN YOUR FAMILY, AND CONTINUE BUILDING YOUR CAREER. THE PARENTAL LEAVE PLAYBOOK
Author's Note
Introduction
Understanding What You Face: Challenges Are Opportunities in Disguise
Understanding the Framework
The Playbook in Three Phases
Notes
Chapter One Parental Leave Is a Mess—Let's Fix It!
Language Matters: Defining Parental Leave
A Broken System: Parental Leave in the United States
When We Get Parental Leave Wrong
Working Families Suffer
Managers Are Left to Fend for Themselves
Companies Are Expected to Do the Work of Society
When We Get Parental Leave Right
Reward 1: Healthier Kids
Reward 2: Healthier Moms and Birthing Parents
Reward 3: Healthier Dads and Non-Birthing Parents
Reward 4: Healthier Relationships at Work and at Home
Reward 5: Gender Equity
Reward 6: Inclusion of All Types of Families
You Are the Way Forward
Notes
References
Chapter Two The 10A Transition Touchpoints Framework
The RETAIN Parental Leave Transition Coaching Model
The Three-Phase Parental Leave Transition
Phase 1: Preparing for Leave: Work Focus
Phase 2: During Leave: Parenthood Focus
Phase 3: Returning from Leave: Working Parent Focus
From Worker to Parent to Working Parent
Roles and Identity
Yourself
Stats: Moms versus Dads
Your Manager
Your Human Resources Representative
Routines
Lead Your Leave. Parental Leave Is Our Most Overlooked Leadership Development Opportunity
Notes
References
PHASE ONE. Preparing for Leave ***Work Focus
Chapter Three Phase 1: Preparing for Leave Overview
The Emotional Passage to Working Parenthood
Don't Expect Others to Have a Plan
Frontload the Work
Chapter Four Touchpoint 1 Announcement
When It Goes Badly …
When It Goes Well …
Preparing to Announce
Reflection Questions Before You Announce
Key Elements of a Good Announcement
Timing
Tone
Sample Script for Announcing to Your Boss
Sample Script for Announcing to Your Team
If You've Already Announced
Ongoing Communication
When Someone Says the Wrong Thing
The Broader Impact of Your Leave
Take the Lead
Leadership Lessons of Parenthood. Touchpoint 1: Your Announcement
Notes
References
Chapter Five Touchpoint 2 Assess
Transition Shock in Parental Leave
Introducing the 6-S System for Parental Leave Transition Success
Walking Yourself Through the 6-S System for Parental Leave Transition Success
Take Stock
How Countries Around the World Have Traditionally Marked the Transition to Parenthood
Your Score
Take Charge
Reflection Questions for your Assessment
Using Your Assessment Results
Revisiting Your 6-S Assessment
Leadership Lessons of Parenthood. Assessment
Note
References
Chapter Six Touchpoint 3 Action Plan
Plan Overview
The Benefits of a Thoughtful Three-Phase Parental Leave Action Plan
Plan Elements. Phase 1: Preparing for Leave
Phase 2: During Leave
Phase 3: Returning from Leave
Importance of Contingency Planning
Phase 1 Planning: Preparing for Leave
Don't Forget to Incorporate Your 6-S Self-Assessment
Work Handoff: Using the TASCARS Method
General Considerations for Work Handoff
Contingency Considerations for Work Handoff
Your Keep in Touch (KIT) Strategy
Leave Logistics Considerations
Phase 2 Planning: During Leave
Help and Support
General Considerations for During Leave
Contingency Considerations for During Leave
Plan to Sleep
Birth Plan Tips
Phase 3 Planning: Returning to Work
Supports for Returning to Work
Planning to Pick Up Where You Left Off at Work
General Considerations for Return-to-Work Planning
Return Logistics
Contingency Plans for Your Return
Final Thoughts on Planning
Leadership Lessons of Parenthood. Action Planning
Notes
Chapter Seven Touchpoint 4 Acknowledge the Transition to Parenthood
Inner Work
Reflection Questions
Keeping Intimacy Alive
Letter Writing as Reflection
At Work
Reflection Questions
When Fathers Take Parental Leave
The End of Phase 1
Leadership Lessons of Parenthood. Acknowledging the Transition to Parenthood
Notes
Reference
PHASE TWO. During Leave ***Parent Focus
Chapter Eight Phase 2: During Leave Overview
Prepare for All the Feels
Make Connection a Priority
Chapter Nine Touchpoint 5 Appropriately Keep in Touch
General Considerations for Your Keep in Touch Strategy
Contingency Considerations for Keeping in Touch
Keeping in Touch with Your Personal Support System
Revisiting Your KIT Strategy After Your Child's Arrival
Modifying Your KIT Strategy During Leave
Honoring Your KIT Strategy
Leadership Lessons of Parenthood. Appropriately Keeping in Touch
Note
Chapter Ten Touchpoint 6 Advocate
Having Difficult Conversations
Exercise: Preparing for Difficult Conversations
Self-Advocacy at Home
Self-Advocacy with Your Partner
What Does a Fair Division of Labor Even Mean (and How Can We Achieve It)?
The Four Rules for Fair Play
Self-Advocacy with Your Family
Self-Advocacy with Your Birth Team
Self-Advocacy with Your Doctor or Pediatrician
Self-Advocacy with Your Childcare Provider
Self-Advocacy at Work
Sample Scripts for Self-Advocacy at Work
Recruiting Others to Advocate for You
Dealing with Unsolicited Advice
How to Advocate for Yourself During Childbirth
Advocate for Others by Providing Feedback on Your Leave Experience
Leadership Lessons of Parenthood. Advocating
Notes
References
Chapter Eleven Touchpoint 7 Arrangements for Return
Revising Your Return-to-Work Plan
Where to Start?
General Considerations: Arrangements for Returning to Work
Return Logistics
Tips for Breastfeeding at Work
Arrangements at Home for Your Return to Work
General Considerations: Arrangements at Home for Your Return to Work
Helping Older Kids Through Their Own Transitions
Arrange for Self-Care
General Considerations for Self-Care
Leadership Lessons of Parenthood. Arrangements for Return
Note
References
PHASE THREE. Returning from Leave ***Working Parent Focus
Chapter Twelve Phase 3: Returning from Leave Overview
Your One Whole Life
Work-Life Conflict
Work-Life Enrichment
Self-Efficacy and Self-Evaluation
Notes
References
Chapter Thirteen Touchpoint 8 Acknowledge the Transition to Working Parent
You Are New and Improved
Exercise: Identify Your Guiding Constellation of Values
Identify Your Shadow Values
Reframing
Other Tips to Help You Acknowledge the Transition
Reflection Questions
Another Letter (or Two or Three)
Leadership Lessons of Parenthood. Acknowledging the Transition to Working Parent
Note
Chapter Fourteen Touchpoint 9 Adjustment
Identify Your Integration Points
Communication
Adjusting at Home
Adjusting Your Boundaries Instead of Attempting “Balance”
How Sleep Affects Your Career and Family Life
1. There Is No Societal Infrastructure to Help You Balance
2. Aiming for Balance Creates Conflict Between Work and Home
3. It's Not Your Fault
Types of Boundaries
Exercise: Establishing Healthy Boundaries
Steps to Setting and Holding Boundaries: Checklist ✓
Enlist Boundary Guards
Know Your Boundary Management Style
Boundary Management at Work
Boundary Management at Home
Exercise: Boundary Management for Transitioning Between Work and Home
Where Boundary Adjustment May Be Needed
Leadership Lessons of Parenthood. Adjustment
Notes
References
Chapter Fifteen Touchpoint 10 Access to Career Development
Modern Career Development Models
Parental Leave as a Career Development Opportunity
Career Development Isn't Always a Straight Line
Reflection Questions for Career Development
Shifting Between Career Gears: Pedal to the Metal, Downshift, Park
Accelerating Your Career
Downshifting
Parking Your Career: Things to Consider Before Deciding to Leave the Workforce
Damned If You Do, Damned If You Don't: Four Reasons to Reject Working Parent Guilt
Your Career Need Not Be Your Calling
Seven Tips to Grow Your Career as a Working Parent
You Can Always Change Your Mind
The End of Your Transition
Leadership Lessons of Parenthood. Access to Ongoing Career Development
Notes
References
Rounding Out the Human Experience ***
Chapter Sixteen Additional Challenges and Resources
Systemic Racial Oppression and Bias
Challenges Faced by LGBTQ+ Families
Adoption and/or Fostering
Surrogacy
Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders
Lactation
Infertility and Pregnancy Loss
Infant/Child Loss
Previous Trauma
Other Health Issues for a Birthing Parent
Resources
Postpartum Healing
Resources
Health Issues for Your Child
Workplace Discrimination
Conclusion
Notes
References
Appendix One Values Exercise List
Appendix Two Free Resources from the Center for Parental Leave Leadership
Appendix Three An Emerging Working Parent Support Ecosystem
Policy Advocacy
Thought Leadership and Practice
Research and Communications
Compliance and Leave Navigation
Parental Health and Wellness
Supporting Services
Funding and Investment
Legal
Conclusion
Appendix Four Recommended Reading
Acknowledgments
About the Authors. Amy Beacom, EdD
Sue Campbell
Index
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