'Can I Borrow the Car?' How to Partner With Your Teen for Safe Driving
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"'Can I borrow the car' How to partner with your teen for safe driving" is an e-book about how parents can influence teenagers to learn safe driving habits written by Susan Tordella, who taught all four teens how to drive automatic and stick shift vehicles. Susan is also the author of "Raising Able: How chores empower families" where she shares wisdom gleaned from a decade of leading parenting workshops and 25 years of raising four successful children by using Adlerian psychology. <br><br>The book has two objectives: 1. To share suggestions on how parents can relate positively to their teens so that, 2. Teens will listen to them and follow the safe driving habits and keep them out of accidents.<br><br>"Can I borrow the car?" gives specific safety habits your teen can use to avoid accidents that are useful and easy to learn, useful for adults and teenage drivers. Susan uses stories to show how to partner with your teen to insure they drive safely. Her true stories include three accidents caused by her teens and weren't fatal, give Susan credibility. Accidents happen. This short book, full of suggestions on how to relate to your teen positively and avoid alienating him or her, may prevent accidents, show your teenagers that you expect them to drive responsibly, and possibly prevent a fatal accident. <br><br>Susan recommends the use of family meetings to set up a mutually respectful relationship for life with your teenager, which may influence him or her to follow the safe driving habits you will teach and model. Modeling the safe driving habits is more powerful than talking about them. Susan encourages parents to talk about teen accidents published in the media to promote awareness and prevent accidents. <br><br>Readers will learn how to use encouragement – how to notice what you like to get more of it, instead of being critical, sarcastic or complaining. This short, to-the-point guide on how to encourage teens to learn safe driving habits teaches parents how to take a positive attitude and be a good role model to promote safe driving. Much is at stake with new drivers. The rate of accidents among teenage drivers newly licensed is higher than the rate of any other age group. At the end of the book is a one page Teen Safe Driving Contract, another tool to raise awareness and promote communication with teens that driving has life and death consequences.
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Susan Boone's Tordella. 'Can I Borrow the Car?' How to Partner With Your Teen for Safe Driving
Panic in the passenger seat
The keys to independence
Start with the end in mind
What’s in this guide
Basic Safety Habits
How to use the 3-second rule
Nurture good judgment
60 miles away, going 60 miles an hour
Safety in numbers
Letting go is a process
Teach and model good habits
Supervised driving builds judgment
You can do it – how to use encouragement
5 miles below the speed limit
Good judgment is spelled A-N-T-I-C-I-P-A-T-I-O-N
Advance driver’s training
Collect and discuss teen accident stories
Invest in family dinner
Remember Socrates
Driving in bad weather
Skid schools
The ‘teen beater’
Good grades and lower insurance rates
Teen emergency rescue clause
Remember the 3 R’s
You can do it
Appendix. Online sources
Books – these are worth reading
A grid of driving experience
Safe driving facts
Top causes of accidents
Positive parenting skills make a difference
About the author
Teen Safe Driving Agreement
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One hot June Saturday afternoon a friend hired my sons, then ages 16 and 15, to move her belongings from an apartment to a condo. We showed up at her second floor apartment at 8 a.m. with the mini-men and maxi-van, which Noah and Ian dubbed the “Man Van,” a full-size conversion van.
Noah drove the van with a junior operator’s license. He had been driving only a few months during a time when teens have the highest rate of accidents. Almost half of novice teen drivers have an accident during their first year of driving. I hoped it wouldn’t happen with me in the front seat.
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“I pretend to listen to Mom/Dad and follow their rules until I get the car alone.”
“I’ll live forever. No need to worry about accidents. I don’t know why Mom/Dad worry so much.”
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