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Tiffany Kagure Mugo. Quirky Quick Guide to Having Great Sex
INTRODUCTION
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Metaphor for consent: Sipping tea
Rape culture: Is it just people promoting rape? (No.)
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So we are no longer snaxing? What now?
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How to put on an external condom
How to put on an internal condom
To remove an internal condom
‘But I’m clean’: Negotiating condom use
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How dry sex becomes diseased sex
Myth 1: You only use it when something is ‘wrong’
Myth 2: Lube is only for when a penis and (dry) vagina come together
Myth 3: This lube, that lube, there is no difference
Myth 4: My condom is lubricated, so I’m good to go
Myth 5: A lot of lube is better than a little lube
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Studies on exaggerated ecstasy
So why are people faking orgasms?
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Where are these orgasms hiding?
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To squirt or not to squirt: That is the question
Ways to make squirting happen
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The merits of masturbation
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How to get freaky in a fresh way: New ways of having sexy times
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Steps for making anal sex awesome
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What is kink?
What’s your kink?
How to kink?
Kink and safety
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Gang gang gang. Who can have threesomes? Answer: Everyone and anyone
Taking steps to a threesome
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A tasting menu: Enjoying food as a prelude to actual f*ckery
Delectable devourables: The food
Drank
Edible sex toys: Using food as a sexual aid
Food and pain: Hurt so good
Wet and Messy (WAM)/Sploshing: Making an absolute mess of things
Crockery gone rogue: The not so edible
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Here are some things you could do:
Tantric sessions can include:
The sex
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Out with the old: Learning a new relationship script
Power rationing: Checking who’s in charge
Polyamory 101: How does one do this group work?
Important questions to ask yourself when considering polyamory
Relationship Anarchy: Throwing out all the relationship rules
Basics of Relationship Anarchy
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Sex toys? Yes, please (this is why)
Protecting your playthings: How to care for your sex toys
What’s around the house? Turning everyday things into sex toys
Vulva + vibrator = Explosive orgasm
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Porn and relationships
If it is a problem
Porn as a learning tool
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The basics
The technical stuff
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Sex work is work
Prostitute/whore: The words we use matter
Home truths about sex work
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The truth about transactional sex: ‘It could never be me’ (or could it?)
The spectrum of transactional sex: Different types of exchanges
The difference between (decriminalised) sex work and transactional sex
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Gender terms: An introduction
Sexuality: A spectrum of terms
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CONCLUSION
REFERENCES
ENDNOTES
WHO SPLASHED WISDOM? CONTRIBUTORS’ BIOGRAPHIES
ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS: I SALUTE YOU
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