Parenting Right From the Start
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Practical – Practical, hopeful, inspiring, and compassionate, this is not a soft or fluffy parenting book. It is solidly based in the science of child brain development and recent advances in psychology but with a compassionate heart. This book does not seek to shame nor blame, but to give parents the tools to create a deep and abiding connection with their child in these all-important early years—an immediate value proposition for book buyers. It also delivers the deeper, lasting value of the psycho-social underpinnings of Dr. Lapointe’s philosophy. An evergreen category – New parents will always need advice, and at no time is this especially true than during these all important, crucial early years. Dr. Lapointe regularly counsels parents whose children already have issues that need addressing by the ages of three and four. The author – As an authority on the subject, Dr. Lapointe is asked to speak frequently in her public speaking events. Friendly, promotable, and relatable while always in complete control of her subject matter, Dr. Lapointe will make herself available to the media and at events to be an engine of her own publicity. She is a natural storyteller who draws on her own personal experience as a mother and those of her clients to engage readers and audiences and get her points across. A unique angle — There are many parenting books that dispense practical advice, but parents struggle to implement it when their own unexamined attitudes or psychological issues get in the way. Parenting Right From the Start addresses a parent’s feelings, fears, and needs as well as those of their child, freeing them from the burden of their own less-than-healthy childhood experiences so that they can truly support their child’s optimal development from day one.
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PRAISE FOR PARENTING RIGHT FROM THE START
“Authentic, practical, and important, Parenting Right From the Start guides parents to explore how our patterns can hinder or support our path to becoming the parents we want to be. Dr. Vanessa’s message that our ongoing development is intricately linked to who our children become paves the way for parenting that is connected, rewarding, and meaningful.”
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One of the earliest societal steps away from behaviourism and toward attachment-focused parenting came with the publication of The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care by pediatrician Dr. Benjamin Spock. Published in 1946 amid behaviourist fervour, this wildly popular parenting book espoused a more child-centred approach in which parents were encouraged to let their love for their children flow freely, to embrace flexibility over rigidity, to treat children as human beings, and to trust their own intuition as the only true expert on their child. Mothers flocked to buy his book and devoured its contents with relief, making it the second bestselling book of all time (behind the Bible). But Dr. Spock faced a long campaign of public scrutiny and a backlash that blamed him for encouraging mollycoddling, laziness, and a host of social ills. He may have encouraged a step toward attachment, but Dr. Spock was not successful in overriding the popular notions of behaviourism that were deeply entrenched in Western parenting culture.
Unfortunately, of all the psychological theories that influence the pop culture of child-raising, behaviourism is the most dominant, even to this day. You will continue to run into parents (and non-parents!) who are quick to offer advice that feeds off the finger-wagging admonitions of the behaviourists, such as when they advise you to “train” your children using consequences and other disconnection-based antics. Don’t fall for it! (I’ll explain why not throughout this book, and have written extensively on this in Discipline Without Damage.) The bottom line is that the generation of parents influenced by the allure of behaviourism (and who among us has not secretly wished for well-behaved children at one point or another?) would have been hard-pressed to escape trying out some of its tenets on their children—and that includes you.
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