How to Behave: A Pocket Manual of Republican Etiquette, and Guide to Correct Personal Habits

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Wells Samuel Roberts. How to Behave: A Pocket Manual of Republican Etiquette, and Guide to Correct Personal Habits

PREFACE

INTRODUCTION

HOW TO BEHAVE

I. PERSONAL HABITS

I.—WHERE TO COMMENCE

II.—CLEANLINESS

III.—EATING AND DRINKING

IV.—BREATHING

V.—EXERCISE

VI.—THE COMPLEXION

VII.—GENERAL HINTS

II. DRESS

I.—THE LANGUAGE OF DRESS

II.—THE USES OF DRESS

III.—THE ART OF DRESS

IV.—MATERIALS, ETC

V.—MRS. MANNERS ON DRESS

VI.—WEARING THE HAIR AND BEARD

VII.—ART VS. FASHION

VIII.—SIGNS OF "THE GOOD TIME COMING."

III. SELF-CULTURE

I.—MORAL AND SOCIAL TRAINING

II.—LANGUAGE

III.—POSITION AND MOVEMENT

IV.—SELF-COMMAND

V.—OBSERVATION

VI.—PRACTICAL LESSONS

IV. FUNDAMENTAL PRINCIPLES

I.—MANNERS AND MORALS

II.—RIGHTS

III.—DUTIES

IV.—EQUALITY

V.—A REMARK OR TWO TO BE REMEMBERED

V. DOMESTIC MANNERS

I.—A TEST OF GOOD MANNERS

II.—PARENTS AND CHILDREN

III.—BROTHERS AND SISTERS

IV.—THE HUSBAND AND WIFE

V.—ENTERTAINERS AND THEIR GUESTS

VI.—SERVANTS

VI. THE OBSERVANCES OF EVERY-DAY LIFE

I.—A PRELIMINARY REMARK

II.—INTRODUCTIONS

III.—SALUTATIONS

IV.—RECEPTIONS

V.—VISITS AND CALLS

VI.—APPOINTMENTS

VII.—TABLE MANNERS

VIII.—CONVERSATION

IX.—MUSIC

X.—LETTERS AND NOTES

XI.—MISCELLANEOUS HINTS

VII. THE ETIQUETTE OF OCCASIONS

I.—DINNER PARTIES

II.—EVENING PARTIES

III.—ANNUAL FESTIVALS

IV.—EXCURSIONS AND PICNICS

V.—WEDDINGS

VI.—FUNERALS

VIII. THE ETIQUETTE OF PLACES

I.—ON THE STREET

II.—SHOPPING

III.—AT CHURCH

IV.—AT PLACES OF AMUSEMENT

V.—IN A PICTURE GALLERY

VI.—THE PRESENCE

VII.—TRAVELING

IX. LOVE AND COURTSHIP

I.—A HINT OR TWO

II.—OBSERVANCES

X. PARLIAMENTARY ETIQUETTE

I.—COURTESY IN DEBATE

II.—ORIGIN OF THE PARLIAMENTARY CODE

III.—RULES OF ORDER

XI. MISCELLANEOUS MATTERS

I.—REPUBLICAN DISTINCTIONS

II.—CITY AND COUNTRY

III.—IMPORTED MANNERS

IV.—FICTITIOUS TITLES

V.—A MIRROR FOR CERTAIN MEN

VI.—WASHINGTON'S CODE OF MANNERS

VII.—MARKED PASSAGES

XII. MAXIMS FROM CHESTERFIELD

XIII. ILLUSTRATIVE ANECDOTES

I.—ELDER BLUNT AND SISTER SCRUB

II.—THE PRESENCE

III.—A LEARNED MAN AT TABLE

IV.—ENGLISH WOMEN IN HIGH LIFE

V.—"VIL YOU SAY SO, IF YOU PLEASE?"

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Some one has defined politeness as "only an elegant form of justice;" but it is something more. It is the result of the combined action of all the moral and social feelings, guided by judgment and refined by taste. It requires the exercise of benevolence, veneration (in its human aspect), adhesiveness, and ideality, as well as of conscientiousness. It is the spontaneous recognition of human solidarity—the flowering of philanthropy—the fine art of the social passions. It is to the heart what music is to the ear, and painting and sculpture to the eye.

One can not commit a greater mistake than to make politeness a mere matter of arbitrary forms. It has as real and permanent a foundation in the nature and relations of men and women, as have government and the common law. The civil code is not more binding upon us than is the code of civility. Portions of the former become, from time to time, inoperative—mere dead letters on the statute-book, on account of the conditions on which they were founded ceasing to exist; and many of the enactments of the latter lose their significance and binding force from the same cause. Many of the forms now in vogue, in what is called fashionable society, are of this character. Under the circumstances which called them into existence they were appropriate and beautiful; under changed circumstances they are simply absurd. There are other forms of observances over which time and place have no influence—which are always and everywhere binding.

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The women of our country are suffering incalculably for want of proper exercise. No other single cause perhaps is doing so much to destroy health and beauty, and deteriorate the race, as this. "Your women are very handsome," Frederika Bremer said, one day, "but they are too white; they look as if they grew in the shade." A sad truth. Ladies, if you would be healthy, beautiful, and attractive—if you would fit yourselves to be good wives, and the mothers of strong and noble men, you must take an adequate amount of exercise in the open air. This should be an every-day duty.

Every person, and especially every lady, desires a clear complexion. To secure this, follow the foregoing directions in reference to cleanliness, eating, drinking, breathing, and exercise. The same recipe serves for ruby lips and rosy cheeks. These come and go with health, and health depends upon obedience to the laws of our constitution.

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