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«Oh, I still think about it…”. Perhaps the thought will slip through your mind. «I don’t know yet whether I want to quit or not.»

Stop it! Stop it. It’s our «fear» talking. The fear of losing something. But when you realize that, in fact, we don’t lose anything, and as a bonus, we gain, then all your doubts will disappear. In addition to that, we will dispel the greatest delusions of our minds: the delusions of «I want to smoke» and «I like smoking.»

So, stop doubting for at least a couple of hours while reading the book. You will agree that if you keep «Quit Quitting Smoking» in your hands, it means that you’re ready to quit smoking. Am I right? I can hear your «yes» answer. Nod your head at least once. Otherwise, what is the point in reading it?

By the way, before publishing the book, I formed a focus group of people who had agreed to try quitting with the help of this book. The group was very diverse. Some had already tried to quit smoking multiple times before. Others had only recently decided to quit but had not yet attempted to, having held a strong belief that they could do it any time they wanted. There were also actively resisting ones. For example, my relatives and friends declared that they would not quit smoking under any circumstances because they love it and are quite satisfied with their life as it is.

What did I do? I just smiled and slipped them my drafts. My argument was: «Just read it; you don’t have to quit straight away. I need to know your opinion in order to improve the impact of this book. The feedback will help me better understand smokers and identify more stereotyped beliefs about smoking that I will challenge. You don’t have to quit smoking. No pressure, just help me.» I certainly achieved my goal thanks to this trick. I did it for their own good and for the good of all future readers.

The years of smoking among focus group participants varied from 5 to 45. I got the picture: it doesn’t matter how many cigarettes per day you smoke or what your smoking history is. Gender and age don’t play any role either. The only reason you want to smoke is because you have been brainwashed. And you’re blind to see it. Or maybe you want to quit, but somehow you can’t do it. You have tried many times, but have not achieved anything apart from a feeling of despair. It’s possible to get through to everyone and make him or her forever free and happy. It works on everyone.

I will tell you this: you will need to reflect on each word in each sentence and thoroughly digest the information to inevitably become free from this addiction forever. No willpower will be needed. I promise you will neither suffer nor experience negative emotions or cravings.

Just read what the participants of the experiment wrote about the book. I will not publish all their comments here. If you decide to have a look at what other smokers have gone through, you can find the reviews on my channel. Here is some participants’ feedback with the author’s style fully intact:

«I’ve been thinking about quitting smoking for a long time, but I kept putting it off: there’s no time, there’s already a lot of stress. I thought quitting would increase the stress. So I was comforting myself and, as it turned out, I was fooling myself. After all, the right moment may never come. By chance, I saw an advertisement for the book „Quit Quitting Smoking“ by my favorite coach, Nelli Davydova. It hit me. The time has come. Nelli has analyzed our fears and thinking patterns, why we hold on to them, and what benefits we get from them. Throughout the entire book, I kept smiling and being surprised at how simple everything was. Of course, after reading the book, I didn’t immediately forget about cigarettes. I had some minor cravings, but the tips from the book have come in handy. I managed to reduce stress and take my mind off them. A few days after the last cigarette I ever smoked, I was free. Forever. Thank you from the bottom of my heart, Nelli.»

Veronika, 37 years old, Moscow

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«My name is Alexey Smirnov. There are two stages to my smoking history. I smoked from ages 17—30. Then I had a five-year break. I started to smoke again when I was 35, and I quit at age 38. Today is October 3, 2021, and I have not smoked in two days already. All my life, I’ve been trying to convince myself that smoking didn’t disturb me, that I had a lot of energy and strength, and that, generally speaking, smoking helped me concentrate. I was closing my eyes to the cough, shortness of breath (I’ve been doing sports all my life), and occasional heart pain. And during the relapse period, I only smoked because I didn’t know where to direct the revealing stream of energy, thereby suppressing and destroying that life coming from the heart itself. Right now, I’m like a child who is learning how to release the flow of energy again. I feel amazing. My dear Nelli, thank you with all my heart for the opportunity to take a different look at the whole smoking process. Thank you for that magical kick and for pointing out those mind games. This book is not only about smoking; it’s about life in general. I recommend it to everyone who wants to quit smoking without actually quitting, and witness wonderful and enjoyable changes in their life.»

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«I smoked for 15 years. In a nutshell, I would mark this time with anxiety, constant worries, panic attacks, fussing, and a constant sense that something was wrong. Just one negative thought was enough to start chain smoking. Every day was the same. As if cigarettes really helped me. And the most interesting thing: when everything was good and I was happy, I also lighted up a cigarette. This book made me open my eyes. The main thing I came to realize is that cigarettes are shattering your emotional state and solving nothing. After I read it, I realized that I had been poisoning myself with my own hands. It finally hit me. The book is great, and I really like how Nelli has expounded human nature. She has covered everything and approached it from different angles. And it’s easy and well written.»

Alim Pashaliev, 35 years old, Nalchik

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«I’ve read the book. I don’t smoke anymore. My brain fought back. Today I tried to read it at work, and every time I dropped off in my chair, I tried my best to keep reading. And I’ve finished it. I knew for sure that I would finish it and I would not smoke again. This book helped me very much. It was just like a kick that I badly needed. Everything is now clear and obvious to me. Awesome. Honestly, I’m shocked. Thank you so much.»

Ekaterina Tropina, 36 years old, Petropavlovsk-Kamchatsky

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«Briefly, I no longer smoke. I didn’t quit smoking. I’m a smoker who doesn’t smoke. How come? How did I kick a cigarette? Read this book and you will understand. An important point is that it makes you feel again, alters your perspective, and removes your blinders. The words are arranged in a way that makes me understand, on all conscious and subconscious levels, what tobacco smoking is to me, why and what I smoke for. Just so you know, I smoked for 27 years. By the way, while reading, I realized the way financial crashes happened in my life. Nelli, thank you.»

Dima Lutsenko, 45 years old, Krasnodar

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«My name is Elena. I’m 36 years old and have smoked for 16 years. A few days ago, I happened to read „Quit Quitting Smoking“ by Nelli Davydova. I could tell it was going to be mind blowing just by looking at the title. The book served as a compass for me, pointing in the right direction. I realized I had patterns in my head: „If I smoke, then I’m cool,“ „If I smoke, then I’m rebellious and grown up.“ If I smoke, my desires that should have been fulfilled long ago remain neglected, and issues that should have been resolved long ago remain unresolved. If I smoke, I lose all my inner joy. I was also unaware of the fact that I was killing myself. When I achieved some kind of result, for example, in my work, I would happily reach for a cigarette that would make my thoughts hectic and prevent me from continuing working. The book helped me find where the energy drain was. The book is very clear and detailed about all the possible options. Nellie, thank you. The book is valuable. And you yourself are very valuable. I’m free and no longer smoke.»

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«I quit smoking when I was 25. After that, I didn’t smoke for a long time. Five years ago, I started smoking off and on: I would smoke for a month, then take a break for a year, and so on. The book has divided my life into „before“ and „after“. Nelli, The book is the bomb! I got so many insights! I couldn’t stop reading. And even the part about our fears has settled in the back of my head somewhere, although I was bewildered on an unconscious level. After reading it, I felt so energetic and enthusiastic. I choose to be a non-smoker and free. Thank you for explaining everything so thoroughly. I have a strong desire to live and achieve my goals for the first time in a long time.»

Tatiana, 43 years old, Moscow

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«It’s been two days since I last smoked. I don’t even think about it now. It’s as if I’ve returned to a time when I didn’t smoke and didn’t crave it. It’s as if I have never smoked before. A year ago, I took pills to stop smoking, all in vain. I had it in my head that smoking was a habit, an addiction, not something one could easily give up. It turned out to be nothing but a belief. Nelli, as usual, you blew my mind. I can call this a miracle.»

Elizaveta Vlasova, 34 years old, Tula

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«Nelli, thank you for this book. The information is detailed and easy to comprehend. Why do I need it? What exactly am I trying to replace with cigarettes? I gave myself a couple of days to complete the pack of smokes after finishing the book, but I broke them down and flushed them down the toilet in less than an hour. The cravings are gone, and if they suddenly appear, I just say to myself, „No, I don’t need it. I will not get tricked again.“ I start breathing deeply, but most of the time I don’t even think about it. As if there hadn’t been 30 years of smoking.»

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«It’s nice to realize that I don’t suffer. I really don’t feel the need for it. It’s eye opening. I was also reminiscing about those 4 years of no smoking. It was bliss. I feel so much better without cigarettes in general. There is no addiction anymore, no nausea, no odour… How did I forget that? A week later, I found myself going somewhere with an electronic cigarette in my hand. I took a drag out of habit. I felt so sad right away. I thought to myself, „Why?! What for?“ The despair and sadness jolted me awake. I was happy that it was just a dream!»

Elena Elena, 47 years old, Moscow

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«Nelli, thank you for this book. For your hard work and expertise. It all came together for me at last. What was wrong? Why couldn’t I stop smoking? I mean, I could stop it. But I couldn’t resist the temptation to start smoking again. I got trapped in a vicious circle of constant stress. And all I could think about at the time was cigarettes. I can’t tell you how many times this has happened to me. I couldn’t figure out why. But, it’s obvious now. When you have not smoked in a long time, you start to feel bursting with energy, and you’re not ready, you don’t know where to channel it, and you repress yourself – you smoke. Can you believe that I sat down to write a wish list, as you recommend, and I found my old one. „I want to quit smoking,“ was the first wish. Words can’t describe how happy I am. I heartily recommend this book to everyone. It breaks down all the thinking patterns and fears associated with smoking. In addition, it gives clear instructions on how to avoid falling into the trap in the future, as well as what to do if you catch yourself thinking about smoking. I’m finally free. I no longer smoke.»

Irina, 37 years old, Kiev

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Well, what do you think about the feedback? Impressive, isn’t it? No worries. I already feel, through time and distance, that you’re probably scared now. Will I really quit after reading it?

You must have been panic stricken. How will my life change? What will you do? I will not be able to. Do you feel like you really want a cigarette right now? Just stop worrying, relax, and have a cigarette. You don’t have to give up anything. Go have a smoke and come back.