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ОглавлениеMarch 1
There is no expiration date on grieving. Even if your loss happened years ago, now could be the time to revisit feelings that you didn't honor way back when. Know that grief can be opened, examined, felt, and processed many years after the loss. It's never too late to grieve. Perhaps now is the time.
Today
Look back in time . . . Is there a loss from the past that is waiting for your attention?
March 2
Notice how you are supported in your grief . . . through friends who understand, family, online communities, religious groups, mentors, and counselors. Know that needing support is not a weakness—it is a sign of being human. We all need and deserve to be supported on our journey.
Today
Call a friend and let them know how you're really feeling.
March 3
It is natural after a loss to ask the question, “Why?” However, we will likely not know the answer to that question in this lifetime. A different question to ask is, “What now?” Living into the answer of that question means to learn, grow, keep your heart open, reach out to others, keep your relationship with your dear one vibrant, find meaning, and turn your attention to those still here.
Today
Ask the question, “What now?” and be open to living into an answer.
March 4
Give yourself time to grieve, to ride the waves of pain, to share with others, to reach out, and to draw in. Give yourself time to turn toward grief, to express your feelings, to learn, and then, bit by bit, to begin to embrace life. Let yourself be in the process of grief and know that you will be supported by a love that is woven into the fabric of your being.
Today
Give your grief time.
March 5
With grief, it is as if you are living in a well of tears. The well is deep with the accumulated pain of profound loss. However, at the bedrock of the well is a foundation of gratitude. It may be difficult to contact it, but gratitude is there. Aren't you grateful for having had this beloved person in your life, for their love, for your love for them, for having had the privilege of knowing and loving them?
Today
Remember that gratitude is your bedrock.
March 6
The Old English root of the word bereavement means “to rob.” You will often feel like you have been robbed of your loved one, of precious time with them. Know that it is normal to have this feeling, and allow yourself to recognize the preciousness of your loss.
Today
Know that you are not robbed of the ongoing love that still exists.
March 7
There is a new relationship unfolding between you and your loved one. It is based on memory, on spiritual presence, on dreams, on felt-sense, on LOVE. The relationship you knew, based on form, has re-formed into something different but equally powerful. Even as you continue to love them this change will unfold.
