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What does it mean to grow spiritually? How we behave, learn, and grow religiously will be defined by the wisdom and teachings of our faith tradition. But the spiritual growth of any human being is measured by the same yardstick: progress from self-centeredness to an ever-expansive love and compassionate concern for others. All the major faith traditions express the same fundamental teaching regarding this pattern of personal growth. This teaching is summarized in what we have come to know as the Golden Rule.

As far as we know, the earliest formulation of the Golden Rule as a spiritual and moral precept is attributable to the Chinese philosopher Confucius (551–479 BCE). It was his insight that there can be no harmony among people, either in the family or in the larger society, unless one makes an effort to transcend one’s self-interest. Although Confucius lived millennia before human beings would develop a formal study and understanding of the self and the workings of the human ego, his insight suggests the clear sense that our most basic instinct as living creatures is to secure our own needs, even at the expense of the needs of others. But if our actions are always self-serving, we will inevitably hurt others and be hurt in return. Instead, we must seek an expansion of our life focus from the impulse to secure our own well-being to an altruistic commitment to ease the suffering of others, even at the risk of our own comfort, wealth, or safety.

Confucius could be considered the father of the notion of civility, and indeed, his writings focused on how self-interest on the part of civic leaders could endanger the well-being of an entire society. But his understanding embraced not only army generals and political potentates in their dealings with their constituencies but also the behavior of the individual members of a family. If we conduct our lives with consideration for others and with an awareness of how our behavior affects their lives, we are more likely to create justice and harmony in the body politic as well as in the home. To move beyond selfishness we must consider in all circumstances how we would wish to be treated, and then act accordingly toward others. And we must accept that living in harmony with others always requires a measure of self-denial.

In these teachings Confucius stands at the front of a long line of teachers of the moral life. The central message of the Buddha, the commandments (mitzvoth) given in the Torah, the ministry of Jesus, and the revelations of the prophet Muhammad collected in the Koran are identical: Do to others as you would have them do to you (or, in its negative form: Do not do to others what you would not have them do to you). We must live in loving-kindness with all beings and through acts of compassion ease the burden of others.

In modern times there have been exemplars of a life dedicated to the Golden Rule, modeling compassion and loving-kindness not as religious leaders but as civic leaders whose actions bespeak the centrality of the Golden Rule to a moral life no matter what one’s faith tradition. Such figures as Gandhi and Martin Luther King Jr. have taught us that whatever attitudes or behaviors we expect to see in others we must first adopt ourselves.

But the call of the Golden Rule may be missed even by those who consider themselves devoutly religious. It is not prayer, meditation, the studying of sacred texts, espousing creeds, or believing in God (or not believing in God) that represents an honoring of the Golden Rule, it is action: “Do to others…” Insofar as prayer or creedal beliefs support acts of compassionate care for others, only then do they contribute to our religious or spiritual growth. As liberal religious people of faith, we profess the worth and dignity of every human being and our conviction to support others’ search for spiritual wholeness and well-being. We call these convictions our “principles,” but until they are translated into action, we have not been faithful to the values our principles embody.

Thus, in the Golden Rule, all the great faith traditions teach the need for self-transcendence through altruistic behavior. Implicit in this teaching is that such transcendence also expands the well-being of the altruistic person. Again in a foreshadowing of our modern understanding of psychology, the Golden Rule intimates that while our more primitive instinct is to serve the self, in organized society there is a higher impulse, indeed the ground of our humanity: To live a life of ever-expansive love toward all beings. It is just this expansiveness that we refer to as spiritual growth.

Our challenge as people of faith is to overcome our personal barriers to empathetic concern and support for our fellow human beings. These barriers can be discovered through introspection. If our hearts are full of anger, resentment, envy, or fear, it is difficult to be concerned about others. Yet simply recognizing such feelings in ourselves tells us much about how those in distress are feeling. In this recognition of the commonality of suffering, we can begin to let go of our distress, let go of our sense that our hurt is unique, and begin to understand in what ways we need to treat others to relieve the pain and suffering that are unavoidable aspects of the human condition. Recognizing this affinity we have with others can allow us to empathize—to feel how they are feeling, to know what it is like to be the victim of debasing, dehumanizing, or other traumatizing life events. By empathizing we move our attention from ourselves to the other. Such empathy can begin to bring us a measure of serenity and strength. Empathy is transformative in its impact on our well-being. Understanding how we respond to the stresses of life is a prescription for our own psychological and spiritual healing. Understanding how we have healed in cases of our woundedness constitutes the prescription for healing those in our care.

A faith community provides an environment that is meant to contribute to our becoming better people, to increase the good in the world, to make the world a place where more people can thrive. By participating in a faith community, we expect the teachings of our faith to inspire growth within ourselves in terms of our most deeply held values and how we interact with our fellow human beings. As pastoral care providers, our churches afford us a context in which we are compassionately supported in our self-examination and in observing our inclinations to self-centeredness. We receive training in how best to be useful to others in need. In supervision, we can learn to see how our own well-being is essential to our usefulness to others. We can ask ourselves what has helped us (or would have helped us) when we have been hurt. The answers to this question can energize our movement toward a path of altruism. When we understand what we need, we will know what we can give to others. Our conclusions may be and often are very simple: What has been important to us in times of distress was the kindness, the compassionate presence of another, the promise that we would not have to endure our travails alone. As we shall see below, the greatest gift we typically can give to another in troubled times is our empathic concern and the promise of companionship through the dark hours. With the support, understanding, insight, and experience of our colleagues and our supervisor, we can come to discern the obstacles in ourselves to becoming effective in our ministries of compassionate care. It is exactly in the formal organization of a lay pastoral care provider program that a safe place is created for us to do our work of introspection and self-care, preparing us to move into the world as healers.

Certainly it is possible to experience spiritual growth outside a faith community, with other than religious influences or teachings to motivate and sustain us. But the opportunity to participate in the good works of our faith community is a gift we should take very seriously. Our conviction that the Golden Rule is fundamental to our humanity and a commitment to its realization through empathic, compassionate acts of kindness to others are the gifts offered to us who respond to the call to a ministry as lay pastoral care providers.