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“You get one lifetime to live. You have one shot to live out your purpose in one body…and one reflection in the mirror that accounts for the culmination of everything you do in the different areas of your one irreplaceable life.”

So how does the Fuddle Cup drinking problem get started?

I figure it begins sometime when we are still wearing diapers. If I had to pick the exact timing, I would say it is the first time we refuse to let Mom or Dad hold the bottle for us. In that precise moment, when we fitfully yank the bottle from our parents’ hands and insist on doing it ourselves, we do not just grab for the bottle — we just grabbed our Fuddle Cup.

That bottle-snatching moment is when we decided to become independent and make our own decisions. Do not misunderstand me — independence is essential to being a happy person and productive member of society. The problem is, we human beings are awfully impatient creatures and we try to take independence farther and faster than we can handle.

We are anxious to make all kinds of decisions for ourselves — and those that affect others — even when we have not thought through all of the impacts.

I know at least one of you kids is playing devil’s advocate while reading this. I can almost hear you thinking, “There are plenty of people who are not interested in being independent and who avoid making decisions.”

That is true. Perhaps you have heard, “Indecision is a decision in itself.” Indecision is still an independent choice and subject to the same responsibilities and consequences as an active decision.

We are so anxious to get to where we are going — even if only to get to instant gratification or to go nowhere at all — we overcomplicate some of our roles and responsibilities in certain aspects of our lives. As a result, we underplay and disregard other connected life aspects.

Not surprising, we then feel imbalanced and search for the appropriate fix for the effected area of trouble in our life. Sometimes it works as simply as that. Too often, however, we pick the quick fix — which addresses one aspect of life, but causes issues for other aspects. This is not dissimilar to how prescription medication potentially causes side effects.

With the quick fix, you need a solution for your solution. You need another prescription for the new side effects, which causes more side effects…Well, you get the idea.

We all do it on some level. Why? Because we are overwhelmed — often by our own doing — and in survival mode. When you are in survival mode, you tend to make a lot of reactive decisions based on immediate fear, which can ultimately entrench you deeper into your circumstance instead of solving it.

It is either the problem of being overwhelmed, or unfortunately, just looking for the easy way — shortcuts to money, success, instant gratification, and the easy way out — that lead to fixating on one area of your life and the quick fix method of problem solving. Again — I do not recommend these courses of action for living an extraordinary life.

Either way, you have your Fuddle Cup in full swing — rushing to drink from one of the cups and spilling all of the others in the process.