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PERFECT BEHAVIOR


By Donald Ogden Stewart


Illustrated by Ralph Barton


A Guide for Ladies and Gentlemen in all Social Crises


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CONTENTS

Chapter


I. THE ETIQUETTE OF COURTSHIP

A Few Words about Love—Curious Incident in a Yellow Taxicab—A

Silly Girl—Correct Introductions and how to Make Them—A

Well Known Congressman's Ludicrous Mistake in a Turkish

Bath—Cards and Flowers—Flowers and their Message in

Courtship—"A Clean Tooth Never Decays"—Receiving an

Invitation to Call—The Etiquette of Telephoning-A Telephone

Girl's Horrible End—Making the First Call—Conversation and

Some of its Uses—A Proper Call—The Proposal Proper-The Proposal

Improper—What Henry Wadsworth Longfellow Said to the

ex-Clergyman's Niece.


II. THE ETIQUETTE OF ENGAGEMENTS AND WEDDINGS

The Historic Aspect—Announcing the Engagement—A Breton Fisher

Girl's Experience with a Traveling Salesman—The Bride-to-Be—The

Engagement Luncheon—Selecting the Bridal Party—Invitations and

Wedding Presents—A Good Joke on the Groom—"Madam, those are

my trousers"—Duties of the Best Man—A Demented Taxidermist's

Strange Gift—The Bride's Tea—The Maid of Honor—What Aunt

Edna Saw on the Club Porch-The Bachelor Dinner and After-Some

Practical Uses for Bi-Carbonate of Soda—The Rehearsal—The

Bridal Dinner—A Church Wedding.


III. THE ETIQUETTE OF TRAVEL

Hints for the Correct Pedestrianism—Description of a Walk around

Philadelphia with a Pueblo Indian in 1837—Travelling by Rail—

Good Form on a Street Car—In the Subway—Fun with an Old

Gentleman's Whiskers—A Honeymoon in a Subway—Travelling under

Steam-A Correct Night in a Pullman-What Burton Holmes Found in

His Lower Berth.


IV. AT THE CONCERT AND THE OPERA

Listening to a Symphony Orchestra—Curious Effect of Debussy's

"Apres-midi d'un Faune" and four gin fizzes on Uncle

Frederick—"No, fool like an old fool"—Correct Behavior at a

Piano Recital—Choosing One's Nearest Exit—In a Box at the

Opera—What a Kansas City Society Leader Did with Her Old

Victrola Records.


V. ETIQUETTE FOR DRY AGENTS

Some Broader Aspects of Prohibition—Interesting Effect of Whisky

on Goldfish—The College Graduate as Dry Agent—Aunt Emily's

Amusing Experiences with a Quart of Gin Planning a Dry Raid on a

Masquerade Ball A Word About Correct Costumes—A California

Motion Picture Actress's Bad Taste—Good Form for Dry Agents

During a Raid-What the New York Clubman Said About Mr. Volstead.


VI. A CHAPTER FOR SCHOOLGIRLS

Selecting a Proper School—Account of an Interesting Trip Down

the Eric Canal with Miss Spence—Correct Equipment for the

Schoolgirl—En Route—ln New York—A journey Around the

City—Description of the Visit of Ed. Pinaud to the Aquarium in

1858—The First Days in the New School—"After Lights" in a

Dormitory—An "Old Schoolgirl's" Confessions—Becoming

Acclimatized—A Visitor from Princeton-Strange Pets.


VII. THE ETIQUETTE OF GAMES AND SPORTS

Golf as a Pastime—What Henry Ward Beecher Said When He Broke His

Niblic—An Afternoon at the Old Farm with the Dice—"Shoot you

for your ear trumpet, grandfather!"—Correct Behavior on a

Picnic—A Swedish Nobleman's Curious Method of Eating Potato

Chips—Boxing in American Society—A Good Joke on an Amateur

Boxer—"He didn't know it was Jack Dempsey!"—Bridge

Whist—Formal and Informal Drinking—A jolly Hallowe'en

Party—Invitations—Receiving the Guests—How to

Mystify—Games.


VIII. CORRESPONDENCE AND INVITATIONS

Correspondence for Young Ladies—College Boys How to Order a Full

Dress Suit by Mail—Letters to Parents—A Prominent Retired

Bank President's Advice to Correspondents—Letters from

Parents—Peculiarities of the Divorce Laws of New York—Letters

to Prospective Fathers-in-Law—A Correct Form of Letter to a

Society Matron Asking Her How About that Grocery Bill for

Eighty-Two Dollars and Sixty-Seven Cents—Love

Letters—Correspondence of Public Officials—-Letters to

Strangers—Letters to Newspapers, Magazines, etc.—Invitations,

Acceptances and Regrets.


IX. THE ETIQUETTE OF DINNERS AND BALLS

Formal Dinners in America-Table Manners for Children—Removing

Stains from Gray Silk—A Child's Garden of Etiquette—Etiquette

in the School—Conversation at Dinner—What a New Jersey Lady Did

with Her Olive Seeds—Stewart's Lightning Calculator of Dinner

Table Conversation—"It Seems that Pat and Mike"—Balls and

Dances—-Artificial Respiration—Mixed Dancing—Hints for Stags.

A Word of Warning and Encouragement



CHAPTER ONE: THE ETIQUETTE OF COURTSHIP

A FEW WORDS ABOUT LOVE

Courtship is one of the oldest of social customs, even antedating in some countries such long-established usages as marriage, or the wearing of white neckties with full evening dress. The beginnings of the etiquette of courtship were apparently connected in some way with the custom of "love" between the sexes, and many of the old amatory forms still survive in the modern courtship. It is generally agreed among students of the history of etiquette that when "love" first began to become popular among the better class of younger people they took to it with such avidity that it was necessary to devise some sort of rules for the conduct of formal or informal love-making. These rules, together with various amendments, now constitute the etiquette of courtship.

Suppose, for example, that you are a young gentleman named Richard Roe desirous of entering upon a formal courtship with some refined young girl of fashion. You are also, being a college graduate, engaged in the bond business. One morning there comes into your financial institution a young lady, named Dorothy Doe, who at once attracts your attention by her genteel manners, as exemplified by the fact that she calls the president of your company "father." So many young people seem to think it "smart" to refer to their parents as "dad" or "my old man"; you are certain, as soon as you hear her say "Hello, father" to your employer, that she is undoubtedly a worthy object of courtship.

CORRECT INTRODUCTIONS; HOW TO MAKE THEM

Your first step should be, of course, the securing of an introduction. Introductions still play an important part in social intercourse, and many errors are often perpetrated by those ignorant of savoir faire (correct form). When introducing a young lady to a stranger for example, it is not au fait (correct form) to simply say, "Mr. Roe, I want you to shake hands with my friend Dorothy." Under the rules of the beau monde (correct form) this would probably be done as follows: "Dorothy (or Miss Doe), shake hands with Mr. Roe." Always give the name of the lady first, unless you are introducing some one to the President of the United States, the Archbishop of Canterbury, a member of the nobility above a baron, or a customer. The person who is being "introduced" then extends his (or her) right ungloved hand and says, "Shake." You "shake," saying at the same time, "It's warm (cool) for November (May)," to which the other replies, "I'll say it is."

This brings up the interesting question of introducing two people to each other, neither of whose names you can remember. This is generally done by saying very quickly to one of the parties, "Of course you know Miss Unkunkunk." Say the last "unk" very quickly, so that it sounds like any name from Ab to Zinc. You might even sneeze violently. Of course, in nine cases out of ten, one of the two people will at once say, "I didn't get the name," at which you laugh, "Ha! Ha! Ha!" in a carefree manner several times, saying at the same time, "Well, well—so you didn't get the name—you didn't get the name—well, well." If the man still persists in wishing to know who it is to whom he is being introduced, the best procedure consists in simply braining him on the spot with a club or convenient slab of paving stone.

The "introduction," in cases where you have no mutual friend to do the introducing, is somewhat more difficult but can generally be arranged as follows:

Procure a few feet of stout manila rope or clothes-line, from any of the better-class hardware stores. Ascertain (from the Social Register, preferably) the location of the young lady's residence, and go there on some dark evening about nine o'clock. Fasten the rope across the sidewalk in front of the residence about six inches or a foot from the ground. Then, with the aid of a match and some kerosene, set fire to the young lady's house in several places and retire behind a convenient tree. After some time, if she is at home, she will probably be forced to run out of her house to avoid being burned to death. In her excitement she will fail to notice the rope which you have stretched across the sidewalk and will fall. This is your opportunity to obtain an introduction. Stepping up to her and touching your hat politely, you say, in a well modulated voice, "I beg your pardon, Miss Doe, but I cannot help noticing that you are lying prone on the sidewalk." If she is well bred, she will not at first speak to you, as you are a perfect stranger. This silence, however, should be your cue to once more tip your hat and remark, "I realize, Miss Doe, that I have not had the honor of an introduction, but you will admit that you are lying prone on the sidewalk. Here is my card—and here is one for Mrs. Doe, your mother." At that you should hand her two plain engraved calling cards, each containing your name and address. If there are any other ladies in her family—aunts, grandmothers, et cetera—it is correct to leave cards for them also. Be sure that the cards are clean, as the name on the calling card is generally sufficient for identification purposes without the addition of the thumbprint.

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