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If you fail to define your pain, you will spend the rest of your life allowing it to define you. Pain will not restrict itself to your immediate experience. Instead it will travel through time, forging a connection between the past and the future. Unless you deal with the effects of being in an abusive relationship, you will hear the negative voice of the past even though the promise of the present is speaking. The stench of pain from the past can overwhelm the fragrance of new love and possibility.

People who fail to deal with their pain live in a defensive mode — constantly on guard as they wait for the next disappointment. They are acutely aware of their own sensitivities and pains, but oblivious to those hurting around them. Quite often, their unresolved bitterness and anger becomes a source of abuse to others.

Pain distorts our emotional vision and impairs our ability to properly understand the situations of our lives. Pain is so powerful that it can feed the mind thoughts of fear that have no root in reality, but nevertheless paralyze our emotions. How many times have you cried after a fresh break-up? Your emotions were crushed, not only for the loss of the current relationship, but somewhere deep inside fear whispered that love would never find you again. It wasn’t true and isn’t true, but until you are stronger than the moment, you can’t expect anything from the future.

I wear eyeglasses and when I remove them my vision becomes blurry. Nothing is distinguishable and everything runs together. Pain affects our emotional senses in much of the same way. It hinders our ability to see life and people as they truly are by causing us to question our own value and worth. You can even lose sight of yourself — the most important person in your life! Decisions made in a pained state of mind are usually poorly thought out and hazardous. They can put your spiritual, emotional and physical life in jeopardy.