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Families become dysfunctional because they move away from the basics. When we move away from the basics, we erode the foundations upon which family life is built. Here are a few of the basics you should be emphasizing:

(a)Pray together: All people at home during prayer times should pray together. While praying in a masjid (place of worship) is best for men, at times this may not be possible. The next best thing is for family members at home at prayer times to pray together. This will teach the children to be timely with their five daily prayers even if they are alone. The Messenger of God said: “What lies between a person and disbelief is the abandonment of prayer.” (Muslim)

(b)Eat at least one meal together each day: There are families I know that rarely sit together at meal times. Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said: “Eat together and not separately, for the blessing is associated with the company.” (Ibn Majah) While it may not be possible for families to sit together for every meal, you should make it a point of sharing at least one meal together each day. In my family, we make it a point of having supper together. This gives us a chance to find out how each other’s day went and discuss any problems the kids are having, as well as plan for the next day.

(c)Do not practice favouritism amongst your children: A mistake we often make as parents is to favour one child over another. For example, a son over a daughter. On one occasion, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was invited by Al-Numan ibn Bashir to witness him giving one of his children a gift. The prophet (peace be upon him) refused when he found out the same was not done for the other children. He then went on to say, “Treat your children equally, treat your children equally, treat your children equally.” (Ahmad)