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Introduction

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Somehow, against all odds, you were born. You were granted the gift of life. The actual probability of your being born is beyond comprehension. Regardless of the jaw-dropping unlikelihood, you made the cut and won the lottery we call life. You are here.

So why you? You had no hand in making it happen. Through no effort of yours, you simply appeared. What have you done with this gift?

Three facts are immutable: You were born. You will die. And between your birth and death is the opportunity for impact.

What is your impact so far? What has happened, for better or worse, because you are here? Have you represented yourself well? Have you proven worthy of the sacred gift?

To help answer such questions, fast-forward to just beyond the end of your life. Even though you have passed away, let's imagine you get to witness a very special happening: your own memorial service. But this service is different in a couple of ways (aside from the most obvious – that you're able to witness it): For one, all of your loved ones and meaningful connections are there, even those who pre-deceased you – family members including parents and grandparents; friends from childhood through old age; coworkers and those above and below you from all your professional endeavors; mentors and mentees; classmates, neighbors, teammates, military brothers and sisters, fellow congregants, local merchants – in short, anyone whose life was touched by yours. And this service is unlike most in another way: Everyone there has been summoned to tell their absolute truth about you. That's not to say that people at non-imaginary funerals don't tell the truth … but let's face it: Some of them don't. They tend to gloss over the not-so-good stuff. And people who might not have glowing things to say about the deceased are often not in attendance.

In the case of this special service that you get to witness, even those who were not so fond of you will be in attendance and invited to speak. Everyone is gathered there to express, with complete frankness, what impact your life had on theirs: what happened to them because of you.

As the attendees reflect, one by one, it becomes clear to you that, despite the fact you are no longer physically present, you endure in their lives in a quite tangible way.

This is your legacy.

Legacy is the trace you leave. Every life leaves a trace, a trace that may exist for generations. Your legacy is the sum total of the impact your life made on the lives of others – and, in many ways, the trace that their life makes on others.

To best comprehend your impact, you listen very carefully to what each person at your funeral says about you. (After all, you're dead, so it's not as if you have something else to do.)

You listen as your mother and father describe what happened to each of them because of you. What was the net effect of your life on theirs?

Next to speak is your partner, spouse, or significant other. What was your impact on and contribution to that relationship? Did he or she feel truly loved and valued? Did he or she get your best energy when you came home at the end of the day, and your full attention when you were together?

If you have children, what is each son or daughter saying as they describe how your influence exists in them, for better or worse? What are they saying about how your life impacted who they are now and what they have become? Are they expressing the belief they are better human beings because of you? What part of your legacy's impact on them are you not proud of? Makes you wince? Makes you sad? Makes you smile or tear up with joy or burst with pride?

Next up: your friends. What do they begin with? Were you always there for them? Did you show compassion for them, and step up and lend a hand when life turned against them? Did you do that all the time or only some of the time? Did you do it only when it was convenient for you or always when it mattered to them? Were you loyal? As they talk, what are the traits that they share that seem to repeat, from one friend to the next to the next? Are the memories they share the ones you would have guessed?

Last to speak are all those associated with your life at work. It's a big lineup. Bosses, clients, direct reports, co-workers, assistants, support staff, and so on. Even valets, janitors, and security will be asked to remember. Each one will describe your impact on them individually, how you treated them in good times and bad, even when you were stressed, tired, or unhappy. Listen as they speak about your respectfulness, your kindness, your generosity. What does each have to say about your integrity, your honesty, your trustworthiness? How often do they comment on your humility, your moral courage, your empathy?

It's interesting, isn't it, that as all these people describe your legacy, not a single one, from any part of your life, spends significant time referencing your intelligence, titles, competence, wealth, power, achievements, academic credentials, or celebrity. From all they say, it's clear that what mattered most was simply your treatment of them, and your treatment of those who mattered to them. For each person whose life you touched, your legacy was not about your money but your kindness; not about your prominence or even fame but your integrity; not about your intelligence but your caring and respect.

That simple, undeniable, profound truth is the purpose of this book. Leading with Character establishes the true meaning of legacy, connecting it directly to your ethical and moral character. Ethics typically refers to a set or code of guidelines that define accepted practices and behavior for a certain group. Morality refers to the judgment as to whether an action is right or wrong. The two words will be used interchangeably throughout the book. Leading with Character provides a practical, daily pathway for you to build character – and, just as important in our complicated and harsh world, it provides protection against regular and formidable onslaughts.

After reflecting on all the feedback you may have received from individuals in every dimension of your life, how do you rate yourself on your character/legacy scorecard? This book was written to help current and future leaders excel on this scorecard, the scale of measurement that matters most in life.

Based on the decades I have spent studying character and legacy, and nearly 30 years coaching and training global leaders at the Institute, here are some truths we have learned:

 The morality system shared by leaders – virtually all leaders – is deeply flawed, placing their legacy at serious risk.

 Most leaders have very little idea just how much the moral grounding of their judgments and decision-making is often contaminated, hijacked, or corrupted (often all three).

 The sum total of the countless moral decisions a leader makes every day – trying to do and say the right thing – defines his or her legacy and that of the company or organization that he or she represents.

 A leader's ability to make sound moral and ethical judgments and follow through on them, time and again, forms his or her character. Corporate governance should (but often does not) value this ability at the highest level.

 Character is not static but a muscle that can – and should – be continually strengthened and reinforced. Leaders who recognize this dynamic make the investment of time and energy, thereby creating the path to a meaningful legacy, one that transcends their careers and lives.

The purpose of this book is threefold:

1 To expose the ingenious ways that leaders knowingly and unknowingly cross moral and ethical lines to get their personal wants and needs met.

2 To prevent leaders from defaulting to reflexive, automatic decisions of a moral nature by raising awareness about the conscious or unconscious processes they are likely using to render these decisions.

3 To provide leaders with a proven method for building a strong and meaningful life and leadership legacy by constructing a robust Personal Credo. This will become their source code for vetting all their future ethical decisions, thereby protecting and bolstering their own legacy and that of the organizations they lead.

Issues of morality and ethical character are profoundly complex. Look no further than the intersection of morality and politics. Take a moment to ponder each of the following words or phrases.

Abortion

Activist judges

Capital punishment

Climate change

Conservatism

Duty

Exceptionalism

Fossil fuels

Gateway drug

Gun control

Immigration

Legalization of drugs

Liberalism

Mass incarceration

Multiculturalism

Open borders

Pacifism

Patriotism

Right to life

Right to protest

Sanctuary cities

Terrorism

The American flag

Do any of these words or phrases produce a strong, visceral reaction in you? To what extent are these political/cultural issues indistinguishable from moral issues? As a quick exercise, pick the three phrases from the list above where your gut reaction was strongest. Now reflect on these questions:

 Can you pinpoint the origin of your intense emotional response?

 How convinced are you that your gut response is right? Have you ever considered that your gut might be wrong?

 Are your reactions based on facts or feelings? Do you consider what your gut tells you to be a personal belief or a verifiable truth? If you consider it to be a verifiable truth, how knowledgeable are you of all the facts on both sides of the issue?

 What's the chance that your gut response could ever be reversed? How about when you're confronted with contradictory evidence?

 Do you uniformly respect the intellect, experience, and character of those on the same side of these issues as you, and who believe as strongly as you do?

 Do you know people who feel just as strongly as you do about such issues but in the exact opposite direction? What makes you sure that your judgment is right and theirs wrong? Do you respect their intellect, experience, and character, though you strongly disagree with them?

Questions like these point to one of the flaws in our moral operating system. When our beliefs are false yet loaded with powerful emotion (as they so often are), they masquerade as fact-based truth. Given the fundamental unsoundness of our beliefs, our moral reasoning and decision-making can become tragically derailed. Political issues, which often trigger red-hot emotions, serve as vivid examples of this operational flaw. The combination of personal beliefs, ideology, and strong emotion can completely overwhelm our capacity for rational thought and sound judgment. Once we declare a belief to be unfettered truth, we close the door to introspective inquiry. Rather than using our powers of reason to investigate weaknesses and inconsistencies in what could well be a faulty belief, we instead use our capacity for creative logic to garner support for what our gut tells us to believe. Once a belief is successfully dressed up as truth (e.g., to succeed in business, it's necessary to cross moral lines; kindness and compassion in the business world are signs of weakness; most people cannot be trusted; accomplishing the mission is more important than how we accomplish it; etc.), we feel justified in whatever moral judgment or decision we render. When we detect no problem in our moral machinery, we see no reason to expend energy to rebuild it. Instead, we march forward, trusting that the coordinates in our moral GPS have all been punched in correctly; and if that's so, then how can we possibly not lead lives of integrity, honesty, trustworthiness, and courage? And when the system fails, and we as leaders find ourselves having breached previously sacred moral boundaries (often repeatedly), we are shocked and mortified. “How did I get here? How could I let myself do this? This is so not like me!”

From the work we have done with extraordinary colleagues and clients at the Johnson & Johnson Human Performance Institute (HPI1), we came to understand that “leading with character” is not an instinct; it is not a natural human response. You needn't have read Darwin to know that it is natural and instinctual to put ourselves first, to get our needs and wants met before those of others. Me first: That's precisely what the morality system we all inherited is programmed to consider. Becoming a leader where morality – in short, our treatment of others – is afforded the highest priority demands a trained response, one that requires dedicated energy investment throughout our lives.

For more than a decade at the Institute, we have searched for a practical method to build and maintain a robust personal morality system for leaders to address the inherent flaws in their morality operating system.

We believe we have found that method. This book, along with the accompanying journal, provides the map.

Most leaders go their entire professional lives without an intentionally crafted, deliberately constructed Personal Credo. (Indeed, far too many leaders don't even realize that something very big and important is missing from their lives). To answer this need, and to address other issues critical to any leader at the dawn of the third decade of the first century of the second millennium, we have included a highly scripted, easy-to-follow program of daily journaling – 10 minutes a day, for three months. Current and future leaders who are brave and committed enough to follow this program, who are intent on creating a brilliant legacy for themselves and their organizations, will find that it raises moral awareness – specifically, how moral decisions are made and how self-serving motivations too often drive them. It also provides a concrete method for building one's own Personal Credo, as well as specific strategies for strengthening 50 character competencies that form the basis of strong character and, hence, a brilliant legacy.

The potential value in daily, self-reflective writing cannot be overstated. In all our years working with people on such exercises, no one – not one person – has come away saying she or he was unchanged for the better; for most people, the experience is life-changing. Building the habit of thoughtful, goal-oriented journal writing brings extraordinary value and produces a trove of life-altering insights. And the benefits begin accruing almost immediately.

A warning: This focus on character and legacy is not for the faint-hearted. It may be one of the most difficult challenges you will ever embrace. If you're concerned, my response to you is exactly what it has been to the thousands of leaders we have worked with:

Stay the course!

You will not regret it.

Leading with Character

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