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The leader’s most difficult step is erasing the memory of your failures from your family members.

I would like to talk with you about what I identified in the process of working with hundreds of students of my «The Royal Charisma» program -important limitations and beliefs that prevent you from becoming leaders.

Fear.

Many of you are afraid to be leaders. The deepest fear lives in you, and it goes back to childhood. That a leader is a bad mother, a bad wife or bad husband. That if you are a leader, you will be convicted. They will convict your motherhood, your attitude to the child, that the husband will leave without receiving attention, and even your loved ones will turn away. This is a very strong and very common belief.

Someone even wrote to me that leaders are rude, soulless, arrogant, that they do not see people, they only see their goals. They wrote to me that money spoil people. I help people to build their personal brand. And in the process of work my students say: «When my money appears, I immediately start to think that I feel good alone. That I can live peacefully without a partner in love.» That is, when a person has money, he feels so much confidence in himself that such thoughts appear: «Why do I need companion if I can do everything for myself, if I really mean something without partner?». And people are ashamed of these thoughts. And when we talk about this in the leadership context, a contradiction arises: «I kind of want to be a leader, but I have a shame of what I think inside myself». And no matter how we resist, the opinions of others always influence us.

Also a lot of questions were asking me: how to cope with the fear of communicating with people? How to ignore your fear? If I knew a magic phrase that instantly removes this, I would immediately voice it to you and would not write this chapter. If I myself had not gone through all this. I faced with condemnation from my loved ones, from my family when I took the liberty of doing what I want and not what was wanted from me. And I want to let you work out the practices that I developed for myself. I am deeply convinced that nothing can be better than the author’s, better than what was created by a person from soul experience. The truly valuable things can not be found on the first pages of Google. Otherwise, I would not have give my intensives and programs with such success for you.

Parents monitor our lives, including our social networks, even when we become adults. And it interrupts our leadership when the family is closely watching and sometimes expressing something unpleasant about your social networks. And if you also come across this, then you will confirm that this is a very popular situation. For our parents we are always the children whom they treated, scolded, and then something unexpected happens for them – you begin to glow on YouTube, upload something to Instagram. They are experiencing, and it is important for them that no changes occur in our lives. Because for older people any changes are associated with unpleasantness for us, with danger. And the main task of our loved ones, as they think to themselves, is to protect us. And so they will protect us with all their might. And remember: you do not need to seek support from your loved ones when you step on a leadership path.

They can tell you: «You can’t do this. You never could do such kind of things. You were always a nerd. You are our family clown, a jerk. Such a shame!»

Remember the simple dogma – if you follow the advice of your parents, you will repeat their fate.

And if this is what you want, take parental advice with gratitude. But if you, like most people, experience panic at the mere thought of living a life like your parents do, do not follow their advice.

Just mentally thank them every time they guide you on the path that they think is true – take their energy and give it to them.

Yes, it’s so easy right here. Mentally collect their energy in a ball – and transfer it back to them. They lack energy. They will thank you – even unknowingly – when you will secretly support them.

It’s sometimes difficult for us to change anything. In-depth studies are underway. The surrounding reality affects us. Our family wants to protect us and therefore is not always polite with us. But when you become a leader and reveal your charisma, your family begins to see a completely different personality in you. Their vision of you is changing. And even if before you were weak in their eyes, if you were the one needs to be taken care of, you become born strong in their eyes. The past is really changing.

I was able to change my family opinion about me. Since childhood I suffered from a terrible stuttering, which I overcame myself – no one could help me, even experts who were self-proclaimed the best. My family didn’t help me too. I was all alone face to face with my problem. I could not speak for almost a quarter century. I made myself. I pulled myself out of this abyss of despair. When I came to my relatives, I showed them videos with poems in different languages that I read. They told me: «God, what a beautiful voice you have!» And what I did? I looked straight into their eyes and answered: «But I always had a beautiful voice. It is surprising for me to hear that.» And people who knew me longer than I know myself, agreed with me! And I saw in their eyes not sympathy, but real hypnosis.

The past, present, future are non-linear – they go in a spiral. I returned to this point and changed the past.

The past can be changed. And your relatives, your loved ones, will see in you a person who will save your entire family! You will be the salvation of the clan, and do not think that the whole family will sit on your neck. No! It is different energy. I know that it’s really important for me to help you to overcome this moment with your family, because I myself went through this. I dealt with fears, dealt with criticism of relatives. But I never was out of the way. I knew that I had goals and dreams. And I absolutely do not care what I had there in the past. We are changing every day. Every seven years we have a complete cycle of renewal of all body cells – every seven years we have a new body.

Some people even quit Instagram, because their parents create profiles there. Why can parents register? Definitely to track. We cannot block everyone. We need to learn how to deal with this. Who seeks will always find. Who wants to watch us, he will watch. And I would like to explain to you how not to pay attention to it.

I have accumulated all this information for years in order to transmit it to you in this volume. I invested it in our communication – for me it is really important.

Your leadership is predetermined.

Because your initial situation is not as tough as mine. You are effectively completing your transformation. You get a high result. I am building my books and courses so much that they are all self-sustaining. Someone will call it fantastic. As far back as 2017, my clients were at my courses and programs – I gave training only on the technical side of Instagram promotion, without brand and charisma, without other interesting things that I’m sharing with you right now. And recently they wrote to me that everything that I talked about came true. I was not surprised, because fact is fact. It is important for me that people get the result and return the money. Because I set myself up like that. When I go to study somewhere, I know for sure that I invested in myself. I do not see learning as a waste. I see it as an investment. Investments tend to return. I invested – I received. When you start working with me, read my books and come to my programs, your money comes from different sources.

You asked me what will happen to you if you become a leader. Many people wrote: «I am afraid to become a leader. And I am very afraid to show charisma. What if I become arrogant? What if I have to be constantly in public?»

Notice! I have never told you, and I am not saying this now, that you need to be in public. I think you can easily remember bloggers who do not broadcast live, who make their blog story in a rhythm, pace and style that is comfortable for them. You do not need to be in public. I have a lot of clients with a personal brand course saying: «But what, should I show all of myself? And my husband and children are also need to be shown?» God please no! Why should you show your husband and children? It is of no interest to anyone but you. Instagram posts have three functions: entertaining, informational and selling. Photos of your family do not entertain anyone, do not sell anything and do not carry any information. No need to flaunt your family.

You asked: «What if I have to be in public all the time?» But you do not have to. You live at a comfortable pace.

Being a leader is happiness.

Revealing your charisma is happiness.

These are gifts, this is comfortable attention from worthy people. This is royal leadership position that I want to raise in you. Why am I doing this? Why do I like to increase the profit of others? Because I want to live in a beautiful society. I am a very subtle esthetician. And the older I get, the finer I value beauty. I can calmly cry if I see something beautiful. These will be tears of happiness.

All is in your hands. You have a treasure inside, but you need to know how to get it. And you already have great results. Have you received compliments? You did. Did you find a job? Found. Gifts were given! Imagine what will happen when you fully reveal yourself.

The task of today is to recall an event in life when you really felt confident and successful. An important point! Do not take events from distant childhood. Take events up to five years old. Preferably 1.5—2 years.

Readers ask:

– But what if there is no such event?

– Go deep into the memory. If not at all, and you know exactly what is not, you need to create it. Think. Word. Act. Create in thoughts. Tell yourself the situation in words, then write. I assure you, everything in writing comes true. The book really changes fate. I know that for sure.