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Reading people’s minds is not a magic trick, it's a science. By learning to perceive non-verbal signals, and by being able to analyse body language in context, we can identify the psychological reasons and covert attitudes of a person's behaviour, and we are able to more than 90 % of the time anticipate the person's potential behaviour in the near future.

Nature has supplied us with empathy, which helps us to intuitively sense what is happening within others. Unfortunately, most of us trust ourselves too little and we are rather inclined to believe what we are told from the opposite side, i.e., 'closing our eyes' to the reality in front of us.

Emotions like fear, hatred, happiness, sadness, etc., arise from the brain. Our brain controls how we express these emotions through our body language and facial expressions. The tone of our voice, our posture and facial expressions are all a result of our brain's complicated processing of information.

There are four 'signal systems' in human interaction, processed by our brain. Speech and sounds are processed with hearing; facial expressions and body language with eyesight. We use different parts of the brain to process this information, but our mind will use these processes to form a unified opinion of what our body feels.

The tone of someone's voice tells us whether the person is cold, glad, serious, dull, etc. The tempo of their voice reveals whether the person is irritated, tense, calm, confident, insecure, etc. Low voices seem trustworthy to us and high screechy voices make us want to leave the room.

Both facial expressions and the expressiveness of someone's voice are caused and controlled by the cranial nerves in the brain. So even if we try to hide our feelings, they still always 'leak' out.

The words that we use speak of our thoughts, ideas, problems, wishes, etc. If we learn to listen properly, we can receive information about what is happening with the person we are talking to. Are their words sincere or in fact ambiguous? Is the agent of the sentence left out? Are we spoken to in the 'we' form or the 'me' form? Why are some words repeated and some endings of sentences silenced? How we speak and what we speak of both leak information about what we are thinking.

Body language and facial expressions mirror feelings and attitudes, and tell us what kind of a person we are dealing with. Could this person be patronising to others, sick, afraid, dangerous, dominant, sporty, dominant, etc.?

First, our subconscious mind and body react, and then based on our attitude we begin to consciously think and act.

The first thing we need to ask ourselves when meeting a stranger is – what do I feel around them? Our intuition informs us of potential threats and we sense when something is out of order.

If we know how to interpret body language and nonverbal behaviour, we can focus on the actual reasons why we feel the way we do around this person, and what are the reasons behind their behaviour?

In conclusion – what happens in our conscious and subconscious minds will always be reflected in our body and vice versa. What we feel in the body, influences what we think. Everything is visible and detectable. This is how to prevent many problems in life, both emotional and material, and we are also able to avoid dangerous people.