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How do you really learn to manage your life, fate and circumstances? The fate usually favors those who speak positively about others. What we say about other people actually forms a certain attitude towards us from the people around us and those close to us.

Everything we say about other people and about ourselves is associated with others, of course, with our image as a whole. For example, if we say something kind, open, sometimes even with a little self-criticism, but most importantly, sincere, then we are perceived as positive-minded, benevolent and open people, free from complexes, not needing to hide our shortcomings. At this moment, it becomes more pleasant and safe to communicate with us, wariness is removed. Over time, a kind of positive environment forms around us, which attracts the same well-disposed people to us. But of course in life no one is immune from negatively minded people. But, believe me, they will not

stay long on your energetically positive background. Thus, what we say actually shapes our environment. Do not forget that every day can be the last one, because no one is immune from anything. Those who practically consider every day their last one, planning it, and live here and now, get the most out of life. Life is what happens to us here and now. So, every day is the most important thing in life. Therefore, if you have any desires, dreams and everything that you put off for so long, you should try to realize them right now and get great pleasure from it. Right now, it is important to contact those people with whom you want to do this, because, honestly admit to yourself that often we give the least love to our most beloved and closest people. You need to take care of loved ones, travel, enjoy life right now. There are so many people in the world who buy fresh bread every day, but at the same time they eat up old bread, and during this time fresh bread also becomes old. And as a result, such people always live yesterday, and eat stale bread all their lives. It is worth being attentive to your life and appreciating every moment, every impression and experience. Only those who try to think positively, easily letting go of negativity and not allowing it to influence life, are truly happy in life. Sometimes some negative emotions, resentments and problems start circling us all the time in a whirlwind of constantly rolling pain, and thereby attracting all the same negativity that was once in our lives. And do not be surprised, because this is your internal program or belief, which will always unquestioningly work one hundred percent. It is very helpful to let go of all emotions of pain and emotional holdings. And, the main secret and medicine is awareness,

just as the Buddha said. By giving up wishing evil on others and focusing on the good, what we think about will happen to us, including what we wish for others. It is no coincidence that they say: “Do not dig a hole for another, otherwise you will fall into it yourself.” So, if we, because of some negative emotions in relation to another person, wish him harm, first of all, we program our life and future for this. And vice versa, if we wish others good and success, then unconsciously, psychologically we prepare ourselves for the same pleasant events. And if you have some habitual algorithm of actions, then the result is often simply programmed by the process itself. The world develops through mistakes and random events, and not through something habitual.

The fate gives us the possibility of a new choice only through random events, respectively, in order to change something in your life, it is worth giving a chance to the so-called chance and remaining open to new opportunities. For example, take a different route to work at least a few times a month, visit places you have never been to, and meet new people from new areas. The unconscious will keep you from erroneous actions and decisions by any means. Our subconscious mind somehow knows what we need, and if we go the wrong way, it shows signs, we just need to be able to see and understand them.

What are the signs? Signs are basically an unlikely event that for some reason happened right now when we are making a decision. And the less likely it was for us to occur, the more important this sign is. For example, illnesses and injuries often signal that we are moving in the wrong direction, going to false goals, following other people’s settings instead of making efforts for our own happiness, and therefore, our unconscious mind is trying to keep us. And if we do not listen to it, then the deep “Self” will eventually try to turn us off completely. We own only what is really earned by efforts, time, knowledge and care. In fact, this is a continuation of the law of conservation of energy. If each of us takes only what we really deserve, then harmony and balance will be preserved. And vice versa, violation of this law will lead to a non-equilibrium state in the system, and this system will come to equilibrium in any complex way, taking something away from some and adding something to others. And therefore, if we take some benefits or resources that do not actually belong to us, fate will somehow take them away from us in order to restore the natural balance. Based on this rule, if for some reason we received more than we deserve, then life wants to distribute it through us to those who really need it. This means that our system of values or environment is suitable for redistribution, and fate itself will tell you exactly who needs to be helped. If we look deep into this topic and follow this law, we insure ourselves or others against adverse events. The fate will be more favorable to us.

I would advise many to try to give up value statements and judgments. What does it mean to value judgments? In fact, there is nothing bad and nothing good in our dual world. The fact is that this is our egocentric perception system, which is accustomed to perceive only extremes and in no case combine them into a balance. Also, for example, when we start giving advice to another person, they often have the illusion that we know the correct answer better, although this is, of course, impossible. The correct answer and decision depends on so many subjective and unknown factors that we will never be able to correctly assess and understand the situation from the point of view of this particular person. On the other hand, it can activate a negative program in them that controls them through life. And many have it. It is shifting responsibility for your life and for your decisions. Look, if you are asked for advice, then just try to expand the list of possible visible options for such a person. Help to find the pros and cons of each option, and then their life experience, logic, experience, intuition and most importantly, the higher and deepest “Self” will lead them, perhaps even through mistakes, to the correct answer so that they realize all the lessons of life, go through that path of awareness and already choose the best option for resolving the issue from all possible ones, suitable for them. Value judgments are the same mistake. By giving an assessment, we program a person. In addition, evaluation is most often capable of destroying even good relationships. Therefore, instead of telling someone “you are bad”, you should first learn to talk about the feelings that we experience as a reaction to the actions of another person. Unfortunately, in our society it is generally not customary to talk about feelings, and even more so about negative ones. We are mostly accustomed to blame, rather than in communication to talk about the feelings that led to these reactions.

It is very useful to know that there are also things that you simply never need to think about and know about. It is better not to know too much and avoid opportunities to become a witness to the negative actions of other people. We forgive those who make mistakes, but we hate those who witnessed our serious mistakes, so it is better to avoid such situations ourselves. If we don’t manage our goals, then someone else manages them. Note, not no one, but someone else. Often we get money for going not to our goals, but to the goals of the one who pays us for giving up our own goal. We are holding on and fighting for our freedom. In general, freedom is not what you are given. This is something that cannot be taken away from you. There are three freedoms that should not be allowed to be restricted – freedom of movement, freedom of communication and freedom of information. And if we want to take an important step in life, it is important to understand whether it will limit one of these freedoms. And if any of these freedoms are limited, it is worth considering whether the price is not too high. People love those they care about, and the more effort, time, feelings they put into another person, the more they love them. So if you need something, don’t be afraid to ask for it, it’s very helpful to let other people take care of you. Understand, this will only make them love you more. It is very important to respect personal space, both your own and another person’s. Thanks to personal space, a kind of field for development, we develop, better form and maintain our individuality, and it is our uniqueness and individuality that is valuable to others. If we do not have this microcosm, the necessary set of conditions and resources, then it will be extremely difficult for us to develop. Therefore, it is important to protect personal space and try not to let anyone in there. It’s like a shrine to your deep “Self”, the paradise in which You and You are. And people who want to check your phone, read your mail, eavesdrop on a telephone conversation, get into a computer or bag, should simply be avoided. Following the same law, we show respect for the personal space of another person. Yes, of course, reasonable selfishness is necessary, and if we do not respect ourselves, fight for happiness, then no one will do it. It is necessary that this respect for yourself first of all come from yourself. Reasonable selfishness is a kind of unique balance, without which it is impossible to grow your freedom and self-respect. It’s very simple. The business that we like has a chance to become successful if we want it, and in order for us to like it ourselves, it just costs us to do it well once. If this is impossible, it should be done in a short time. So, for example, it is better to have an unpleasant conversation quickly and forget about it than to delay and accumulate negative emotions about it. Our unconscious and true Self will always choose the best option available. The more options we have for solving the situation, the more correct option the unconscious will choose, so our task is to expand the number of possible options for comparison and choice. Sometimes we want to get answers right away, so to speak, as if asked in a “search engine”. But this does not happen instantly. And I am absolutely sure that many of you have witnessed when the answers came at the most unexpected moment, or rather, at the moment when you let go of the situation. At the same time, it should be taken into account that if some option is artificially unavailable to us, the brain concentrates on it, presenting it to us as special, and clearly pushing towards it. In fact, we often seek not so much this option as our right to implement it. Therefore, having received something that was not available before, it is useful to once again completely reevaluate all available options for solving the problem.

There are a huge number of different energy currents or flows in the world, and if you get into them, you can achieve success much faster. Basically, such flows are formed around people with good energy, a positive outlook on the world, satisfied with their lives. These are people who have a lot of ideas, they are overwhelmed with creativity. You yourself have noticed more than once that, having got into this or that society, or a company, regardless of you, you begin to think like them, feel all the positive if it is a good company, or vice versa, having got into a negative and destructive society, you become like them. This is where the collective unconscious comes into play. Communicating with successful people, we begin to imitate them, and once in such a stream, we need to strive for its center. An indicator that you are moving in the right direction is the appearance around you of an increasing number of creative, positive and successful people. Our abilities are revealed when they are really needed, this is how the human brain works. Only those abilities are revealed that a person needs at a given moment of time to achieve his personal goals and survive in general. I would also like to add that our dreams do not come true until we are ready for it. To get what you want, you need to move to a new level of yourself. It’s like, until you grow out of old pants, new ones will be too big for you. This is how it works here as well. If we do not get what we dream about, then fate protects us from this, because we are not ready for this. Let’s say that life protects you from buying an expensive car that you really want, but are not yet ready to maintain and service. The question arises: “What to do then?” The answer is simple – to prepare and do what you can, and gradually achieve a state of affairs in which the outcome you want cannot fail to occur. In fact, it is about the fact that we will manage what we can manage. We will own what we can own, and be able to be in tune with the dream, with ourselves, our actions, will, and mind. And then we stop blaming the whole world for our failures and understand that the responsibility for what happens in our life lies only with ourselves. And in order to move to the so-called new level, life will pump you, so to speak, so that you become higher or are at the appropriate level with your desires. And what happens to us is precisely those events for which we are really ready. If we want to become someone, it is worth starting to behave as if it has already happened, it is useful to start preparing ourselves and our environment for this. This does not mean that you need, for example, to buy expensive clothes and interior items, it means that you need to behave and think in accordance with these feelings. They say that money comes when a person internally resigned themselves to what they have, when they have already learned to be happy without them. And indeed, I have been convinced of this many times. When we create in harmony with what we have in our hands at the moment, miracles begin to happen. I am sure that you have come across information more than once about how the feeling of gratitude balances our entire internal egocentric system. And this is absolutely true. When you are in this state, creativity rises, all the organs of the body and senses begin to function calmly and in a flow. I will mention the topic of gratitude more than once in my chapters. And with practice in your life, you will be convinced of this yourself over and over again.