How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships
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Leil Lowndes. How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships
How the techniques were developed
Your body shrieks before your lips can speak
How to look like a somebody
Smile quick? or smile special?
How to fine-tune your smile
How to detonate those grenades resting on your nose
Sticky eyes also means intelligent eyes
What about men’s eyes?
Bring on the big guns
When love is on your mind
‘The minute you walked in the joint, I knew you were a real big winner’
Your posture is your biggest success barometer
‘Well, how do you like me so far?’
You’re on trial – and you only have ten seconds!
Respond to the hidden infant
The secret to making people like you
How to trick your body into doing everything right
Not a word need be spoken
A self-fulfilling prophesy
How to come across as 100 per cent credible
Beware the appearance of lying, even when you’re telling the truth
How to make them say ‘you’ve got horse sense’
If a horse can do it, so can you
How to make sure you don’t miss a beat
‘Twenty-six miles on my mattress’
Is small-talk-o-phobia curable?
How to start a conversation without strangling it
Matching the mood can make or break the sale
‘What’s a good opening line when I meet people?’
Why banal makes a bond
Ascent from banality
‘Anything, except liverwurst!’
What’s a Whatzit?
The Whatzit way to love
Be a Whatzit seeker, too
What to do when he’s got no Whatzit
‘I just thought I’d eavesdrop in and say “hello”’
Don’t drop a frozen steak on their platter
Different bait for shrimp or sharks
Answering the inevitable
Painful memories of naked job flashers
Help newlymets through their first moments
Be a sleuth on their slips of the tongue
Sell yourself with a top sales technique
Never be stuck for something to say again
‘What do I say next?’
Parroting your way to profits
‘Tell ’em about the time you …’
Play it again, Sam
Endearing little flubs?
Your most important prop
‘And what do you do? Hmm?’
The right way to find out
Socially Submitting Your Oral Resume
‘Here’s how my life can benefit yours’
A nutshell resume for your private life
Easy path to the verbally elite
And now, for men only
More unisex suggestions
Let them discover your similarity
Oh, I must have been boring you!
Be a YOU-firstie
Comm-YOU-nicate when you want a favour
Comm-YOU-nicate your compliments
Comm-YOU-nication is a sign of sanity
‘I don’t smile at just anybody’
Review your repertoire of smiles
In defence of the quickie
The quickest way to tell a jerk
You’ve got pro’s equipment
A gem for every occasion
Make ’em laugh, make ’em laugh, make ’em laugh
A word of warning
Big winners call it like it is
Another dead giveaway
Keep your eye on who’s catching the ball
When you don’t want to answer (and wish they’d shut the heck up)
How big players handle a celebrity
‘I love what you used to be (you has-been)’
The final touch
To be a modern-day renaissance man or woman
Go fly a kite!
Do you speak scuba?
Surviving bafflegab
It’s all in the opening question
‘Help! Everybody there will be an artist.’
Elementary doc-talk
Getting the real grabber
See you at the big one!
Extra! Extra! Learn even more about their lives
Pump their pulp for even more fuel
How to be a global insider
Getting what you want at the insider price
How to deal when there’s no Iggy in your life
Watch their every move
They’re buying you, too
‘We’re like peas in a pod’
It all started across the ocean
The linguistic device that says ‘we’re on the same wavelength’
Echoing at parties
The peril of not echoing
Professional echoing
Echoing is politically correct insurance
Old-boy analogies are unsportsmanlike conduct with the girls
On-target analogies hit bull’s-eye
Beyond ‘yep, uh huh, yeah’
What are empathizers?
A sound idea
A wrinkle develops
A simple solution
‘We talked like old friends at once’
LEVEL ONE: CLICHÉS
LEVEL TWO: FACTS
LEVEL THREE: FEELINGS AND PERSONAL QUESTIONS
LEVEL FOUR: WE STATEMENTS
Our own private joke
Now what’s left?
The malaise of unskilled praise
Depend on their keen sense of rumour
No-risk praise (do it behind their back)
Bring joy to the world like the brave little birdies
Carry more cargo than compliments
‘My exalted opinion of you just slipped out’
Be an undercover complimenter
Try it. You’ll like it. They’ll love it
Knock ’em out in the first round
The killer compliment user’s manual
Itty-bitty boosters
Little things mean a lot
Too little, too late
Quick as a hiccup, you must compliment NOW
But what if they really bombed?
A national weakness
‘Girls don’t like what?’
‘Vous êtes gentil’
The ultimate praise for someone near and dear
‘I love you because … (you fill in the blank)’
Make your manner fit the medium
A verbal caress
Who wants to be a Cheshire cat?
When a pain in the neck calls
‘No, no, aaaaaagh, not the screen!’
The power behind the phone
‘Are you red, yellow, or green?’
Salesfolks, wait for the green light
Whoops, your paranoia is showing
Neeexxxt!
Stay tuned for …
Ho hum, business as usual
‘Do you really have to take care of that fire in your kitchen?’
It’s much better the second time around
How to set up your instant replay
Forget what they said, hear what they meant
Who is going to be at the party?
When should I arrive?
What should I take with me?
Why is the party being given?
Where is the collective mind?
How am I going to follow up on the party?
‘How come people don’t approach me?’
How to make an unforgettable entrance
‘Hmm, any interesting strangers I should meet?’
‘Only the beautiful people will be chosen’
‘Sure, in a seminar, it’s easy. But what about real life?’
Your body can beckon ‘come on over’ or growl ‘go away!’
Give them the ol’ wrist flash
Pave a clear path for people who find you special
Make them feel like an old-time movie star
Don’t leave it to chance
‘How did you remember that?’
Keep your eyes open to see every word they don’t say
How Jimmi finds out where the buck stops
What to do when you get your cue
Eyeballing is not for selling only
A quick review
‘Gesundheit!’ ‘Whoops!’ ‘Butterfingers!’
Let me suffer in your silence
‘Now, please get back to your story’
‘Look, here’s what’s in it for me – here’s what’s in it for you’
Don’t deny them the pleasure of helping you
Let the sun set – and rise again – before you make your move
‘I did it just because i like you’
The first of three safe havens
Tough negotiating can kill your appetite
‘Ahha, I’ve got you now!’
‘Tell me about your cracked skull later. What’s your insurance number?’
When you have important information to impart
‘I’m going to make you miserable before you can enjoy being my customer’
Hear the facts, but smear the EMO
‘Oh, no! He must have been mortified!’
Make ’em happy you messed up
A genteel way to say, ‘freeze, punk, while I frisk you’
‘Mea culpa!’
‘You’re great! What’s your boss’s name?’
How to tell a leader from a follower
Cool cats clap first
Bottom dog bows lower, barks softer
Friends keep tabs too
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