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•Take each moment as it comes. Do not waste valuable energy wondering how and when this phase will end and how you will possibly survive. It will pass. Take a leaf out of the book of the animal kingdom: just do what you have to, don’t overload your schedule and don’t beat yourself up about what you cannot influence right now, and you will experience a serenity that vastly enhances your life.

•Surround yourself with supportive people. It might mean changing friends and medical attendants and having a firm talk to family members, but it is imperative that there are people who affirm your parenting approach, help you out when you need it and know how to pass on useful advice that does not sound like criticism. There is no one, single correct way of parenting and if your baby is healthy, happy and developing well and you feel that you are getting through each day quite easily, then you are doing well. Everything will be fine so long as there are positive feelings and a semblance of consistency.

•Remember, too, that you won’t always like all characteristics displayed by your baby. This need not necessarily make for an unhappy family, nor does it lessen your love for your child.

Remember

•You cannot spoil a baby with love.

•There is no one right way to raise a child.

•You are managing a child, not a project – efficiency is not all-important.

•Observe physical and emotional patterns in your baby to help you with routine.

•The ability to relax about life is as important now as in pregnancy and labour.

•There will be difficult days but things always improve.

•Pace yourself through the hectic times, simply living hour by hour.

•Accept help when it is offered – you can always return favours at a later stage.

•Babies are far more resilient than we think.