Rooted, Resilient, and Ready
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How to help—and how not to hinder—your teenage daughter’s healthy development as she prepares to step into her own circle of power. Today’s teen girls face pressures such as an increase in mental health concerns, mounting demands to be both beautiful and successful, and addiction to social media and the approval of others, all of which can result in a damaging decline in personal satisfaction and self-esteem. Rooted, Resilient, and Ready explores how today's teen girl assembles her identity through the interweaving of genetics, family, and friends, and the masks she may feel she needs to wear to be accepted, such as the super girl, the invisible girl, or the cool girl. The book counters the negative cultural messages and potential for disordered eating that affect a teen's body image and guides parents through Lindsay Sealey's three-part approach to a happier, healthier teen: food, fitness, fun. Balancing research with practical advice and interviews, Sealey encourages parents to nurture the process of their teen’s development and guide their teen girls even though they may often feel out of step with them. Journeying with teen girls from lost and let-down to fierce and fearless, Rooted, Resilient, and Ready gives parents the tools to prepare their daughters to step into their power and potential, choosing progress over perfection, security over uncertainty, happiness over self-pity, and authenticity over conformity.
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Praise for Rooted, Resilient, and Ready
“As a mom of three children quickly becoming teenagers, I want to prepare them for the inevitable changes and pressures they will face as they grow up. Lindsay’s book is not only perfect timing but refreshingly positive.”
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I met Emma when her mother reached out to me for help with Emma’s social skills. Emma had no real friendships at school and was labelled “weird” in the worst sense of the word, as in “weirdo.” Emma had slowly separated from the other girls in her class, with whom she felt she had nothing in common. Instead, she began to solidify what she loved to do: she biked to school instead of getting a ride, like the other girls; she brought her lunch to school in recyclable containers instead of buying one; and in class she would speak up about feminist issues, while avoiding chats with girls about boys and weekend plans.
I was challenged because I did not want to confuse Emma with a mixed message: be yourself but change to fit in. As we got to know each other better, I affirmed all the times she used positive social skills, such as asking questions, listening and responding to some of my comments, and complimenting me. Emma was less strong in social skills such as showing empathy, connecting with others’ feelings, and taking the time to understand or even learn from an opinion different than her own. I loved that Emma was herself, and I told her so frequently. At the same time, I helped her develop her social skills so that she could have “the best of both worlds.” I’ll never forget the joy that spread across her face when she told me how the other girls were starting to ask her questions about riding her bike to school and some of her passion projects around social issues.
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