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Preoccupied adults correspond to resistant infants. In contrast to dismissing adults who attempt to minimize the effect of attachment, preoccupied adults cannot turn their attention away from attachment; they are preoccupied with it. These adults are flooded with memories of attachment relations but cannot take the distance necessary to create a coherent, objective narrative. They provide contradictory, rapidly alternating views of their attachment relationships (“She was loving, no she was really selfish.”) accompanied by a gush of vivid memories (“I remember on my senior prom. It’s always about her. It was my night but she kept inserting herself. I wanted to wear my blue heels but she said they made my legs look fat.”) In this case, emotion predominates over rational thought.