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What I explain to you will have read in many books. Many of you will have been in some conference or workshop of mine, you will have read a book that I have written and you will not find my new ideas.

The only difference is that the years serve you to mature, take advantage of your time and see what you want to leave behind for others.

I have always liked working in a team and above all that people learn to be independent and to be able to collaborate. If you have someone who is good at something, you can always learn and you will really improve.

If with that person you manage to work as a team without rivalry, not only will you succeed, but you will give better results, more rested, more enjoyable and more creative.

It doesn't mean that you don't evolve. It could be that, when the time comes, one of the team decides to expand his or her path and start over. But it is a law of life, new beginnings every day and taking risks when returning to the beginning of the race; to see if we are capable of creating the same team again in another place.

Life is made up of many normal moments, some quite complicated and some extraordinarily happy. And among all this, we have to make an average, to know how to take advantage of it in benefit learning the lessons; seeing what we did not like in the lesson so that the next time it hurts less.

As a child I was quite an earthquake, since my first years I was an only child, then my sister came along. As you know, I went through my mother's time and went from having no responsibility to growing up quickly, seeing things from a different perspective.

At school I had changes that they did not see, because it is impossible. Nowadays, communication with teachers and the school is more fluid, but at that time it was not the same, everything that happened at home affected my character and my attitude.

That's why in what was important for my classmates, perhaps like playing or sports, for me it wasn't because I needed silence or reading.

Over the years, one of the methods that I love and I am totally in favor because I believe in it, and you can find it, is that of Howard Gardner and the multiple intelligences, who for this reason have been given a Prince of Asturias and Social Sciences award in 2011. His way of seeing the studies I follow them and I firmly believe in them.

I am a person who since childhood has had the ability to study what I like, but what I did not like I totally ignored. Of course, this was frustrating for some of my teachers. Which was logical. Later, with the situation at home, my parents educated me that while you don't have it clear, you have to work and study. I am very grateful to them, because that has made me try much harder and show myself and them that I really did and got what I really wanted.

In my house, as those of you who know me a little or have read something about me before will know, each of my parents think differently. One part believes in energies, intuitions, faith and the esoteric part and the other part was totally skeptical and did not believe anything. I respected it, but all it asked me was to talk about it at home, never outside, to study something that would help me support myself and have a future. After that, if we add to all that I am a little rebellious; my youth has not been easy.

And when I had really accepted that I would only dedicate myself or see everything esoteric, I had already seen him for a long time as he had been explaining himself to me all my life. There is never anything black or white, there are always neutral tones.

It was very difficult for me to understand that he never judged me, but that what he did was to ask me questions or put me in the place where others would attack me.

For this dream, all that initial learning has gone very well for me. Plus the people I have thanked before, who were helping me without being aware of it.

That's why when a client came to me, he was already really disappointed or recommended for me to treat him, but from a totally different sensitivity or perception of seeing things.

My way of seeing things has always been very direct and realistic, which has sometimes been a problem; that is why coaching has been such a satisfying job for me for years. And I have dedicated myself to studying it and specializing deeply in it. But in doing so I saw that I did not identify with anything, but along the way I have found great teachers from other branches that have helped me understand them.

I have had to recycle myself to give the best of myself, as I have always done in any project. But really in this one the difference is that not only I can explain it, but you can apply it, learn and get to use it.

Not just for yourselves but for other people. There are different ways to study and this is what is finally being seen and recognized. All are valid once the level is recognized and checked. The one who learns from the beginning a career; the one who starts working discovers a passion for it and starts studying through Masters, specializes in the subjects that he likes; the self-taught one who studies online because he works or because of a hobby, taking out the career of his dreams even if it is to have it for himself, etc. Everything is equally important.

Today it is proven that studying, reading, music, singing songs (things that before when doing them were not given importance although we are older), all that makes your life better and your brain is more active. If you have a dream you have to pursue it, no matter what age, the experience is something that adds up apart from what you learn by reading.

I will also show you different Coaching that you have not stopped to see or observe, that you have in front of you and that will have helped you at some point in your life. Or simply you will be it and it will be your strong point, why not improve it and take advantage of it? There is always talk of the four or five best known and they are all of equal value.

In order to speak well of some of them, I have studied the subject because it was totally profane in the matter. Thanks to that I liked them, but the best thing is that I found people who made me understand the concepts very well, to get to understand them; so I could work on it perfectly if I wanted to.

That's what a good coach is, that when he explains something to you, he transmits passion, gives you tools so that you can develop, and shows you in a clear way your qualities and your deficiencies in that matter.

I have to admit that there are some issues that I could explain, but I could not put them into practice. What you have to do there is to refer someone and share the work.

Remember that a coach is someone who takes you by the hand and accompanies you in your life for a short time, helping you to achieve goals, giving you the necessary tools to do so. One thing is that after a while the situation or your life changes, and you cross paths again, but for a totally different reason.

I have been working as a coach for many years because of my background, both for my profession that you all know, and for my love of studying and researching; a whole sector that was sensitive-intuitive like me had been excluded.

For this reason I decided to get to work, because when someone has an idea and a dream has to get to work on it. The first thing I did was to analyze the weaknesses, threats, opportunities and strengths of the new method, what it could bring to people. And what I had to do was finish preparing myself very well.

According to Abraham Maslow and his humanist theory, there is a series of needs that the individual has to satisfy, establishing a hierarchy and order for his satisfaction in the form of a pyramid. From them he deduces that all people need to feel integrated in a group.

The first needs such as basic or physiological were covered. These are the ones inherent in every person and basic for the survival of the individual such as breathing, dressing, feeding, etc.

Then I began to study, to make things right at home. I started to work because I wanted to be independent, also to understand myself spiritually with everything that had happened to me in a short space of my life. These needs were for security.

I investigated and inquired about what I liked. I began to meet professionals and started to get to know people; affection was created. These were the social needs.

The take-off was to create my books, to explain everything I liked by transforming it into words, being able to share everything I discovered. I was respected, I had recognition and esteem for people.

And finally my main need for self-realization is to create a method in which people can help themselves, grow and stand on their own feet: Inner Knowledge Coaching.

That is what I have been preparing and studying for all these years. It is where I wanted to get, that people accept themselves without prejudice, valuing themselves and not being afraid of themselves. Seeing that every quality is a virtue and what we have often been told is a defect, well worked can serve as a quality or distraction to achieve our goal. But above all, let's not harm ourselves or let others be harmed by it.

When I was researching there were many types of coaching, but only some were talked about and the others were overlooked; since they were not commercial or given the necessary importance.

But each one in its own style has to have the same value, even if it is really very difficult or almost impossible to explain or to get to value it, because of the time or the dedication it takes.

It is like a gemologist who cuts a diamond; its value is for a lifetime. Or someone who makes something to fit you and you love it, has known how to take your essence in a conversation and translate it into a few conversations. He has captured the essence of what you need, what he would be is a lifelong tailor, for example. He who makes you something and you don't get tired of wearing it, you would never take it off. This is the sector of true craftsmen, who have already lost their way and are almost gone.

So for me, there is no better or worse coaching but it depends on what you need in each moment or the value it will bring to your life.

Thanks to the information and communication technologies, the internet and great communicators that exist today, techniques that have always existed and that can help you are becoming known.

We all shine in something, what you have to find is that you shine, make yourself strong and enjoy it.

What I am going to explain to you are simple things that exist around you, so that you can use them, understand them better, to live the day to day with total comfort taking better advantage of the moments.

At no time do they have to be something rigid, you have to make them flexible, generating them and using them according to the intuition that you will be developing.

This is the basic concept that you will always perceive in the series of Inner Knowledge Coaching books.