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Marriages happen when two different people from two different worlds unite into one. That may sound a little cheesy but it’s true.

You and your partner are choosing to marry each other because you love each other. You choose to marry your partner because there is something about him that you can’t find in anyone else that you’ve been with.

The same applies for your partner. He chose to be with you because he is attracted to you. Both of your reasoning is the same, which is why the both of you are together even to this day.

Despite that, even marriages can run into an unexpected wall. It is no longer rare for divorces to occur and it is quite expected in society nowadays.

When you look at other couples in public, you would think that their relationship is nothing but bliss. However, underneath it all, is that what you truly see?

The same goes for you. When you walk out in public with your husband, you would obviously want to show society a good and happy side of your relationship. You don’t want to break out into arguments in public. Yet, at home, what truly goes around between you and your husband?

The answer is right in front of you. You don’t want to see yourself envying other couples for what they have. You want to see and experience the joy of what you have in your life, which is your marriage.

Just like the saying goes, “If life gives you lemons, make lemonade.” Now that might not have anything to do with marriage, but the same point is being made. Therefore, if your marriage isn’t working the way you want it to then do something about it.

Don’t keep your lemons stocked up in your fridge. Make some lemonade to satisfy yourself with. There’s a solution to every problem and taking action is already the first step of the solution.

Now, it is true that when you’re married you would have to sign your name into a legal document with your partner to validate that the both of you are married to each other in the later future.

Now, that also means that the document can be terminated by will, which is the term for divorces. Know that when you are signing your name under a marriage license with your partner it doesn’t mean that you are going to be together until the day you die. Even if that was part of the vow during your wedding ceremony, it isn’t as if words haven’t been broken before.

Even after you’re married it is possible to separate after awhile. It’s been done and if you’re not careful enough, it can happen to you. That’s why this book is written for your sake.

The most common reason as to why most married couples separate is the fact that they no longer hold that high amount of interest in each other as they did before.

They are done with each other. They no longer see each other as a partner that they hold a great amount of love for. They have returned back to friends from lovers.

There is no reason as to why they should continue a relationship that is meant to die. Thus, they split up. They leave behind all those years that they’ve spent together as a lingering piece of memory that will not follow them to the future. They’ve closed up their photo albums, and stuffed it into the back of their luggage.

Even if love is an emotion, it requires more than your feelings to maintain a relationship. You can’t expect to balance a successful relationship just by how you feel about the other party.

Marriage is balanced through action and communication.

No matter how strongly you may feel about your partner, he isn’t going to get the point if you don’t find some way to show it to him.

At the same time, you can’t expect yourself to feel his emotions if he isn’t going act upon it either. This is why communication and action is important. Of course, you can still do one without the other, but why bother when you can do both.

Think about a silent movie. None of the characters use dialect but rather actions and expressions and posture. For a character of a silent film, they can only express themselves through their movements and their facial expression.

Yet, they are still able to get their point across to the other party. Marriage is the same thing, only easier. In a marriage, you have two options of communication to your partner: show or tell.

After being married for so long, it’s expected that you are going to argue about something. Communication might be the key of improving relationships but that’s if you know how to do it properly.

If you and your partner are constantly at each other’s neck then it will only be expected that your marriage might not last for a very long time if you were to keep that up.

Nobody wants to deal with another person’s bad habits and they won’t want to deal with yours.

Eventually, you and your partner will grow tired of arguing with each other and, eventually, the both of you will stop talking to each other in order to avoid any further conflict. From that, your relationship will simply start to crumble.