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Introduction

One of the most difficult struggles that a man will encounter in his life is to be able to please the woman of his dreams.

Rejection bounces left and right and the common phrase of “The good ones are already taken”, or “She’s already friend zoned me” is very common.

The question is, however, is if she has actually friend zoned you as you’ve said she has. True enough, good women are already taken, but that doesn’t mean that ALL good women are gone and that you’re left with the remaining women to choose from.

In fact, all women have their own special traits that will and can attract a man. In the end, it not only varies on taste and personal preference, but also compatibility.

Remember, the woman that you’ve just walked past by on the street can become another man’s newly found lover.

She might have been what you were looking for but you wouldn’t know because you’ve never talked to her before.

So the next time you state how the good women are gone, think about the women who you haven’t met yet.

The Friend Zone:

The friend zone is also another matter. The friend zone can be tricky and yes it can be painful, especially when you like the girl very much and have continued to like her for a long time.

However, the friend zone is often interpreted very inaccurately. Reality of the matter is that in order to be within the barriers of the friend zone you have to first become the friend.

That doesn’t mean that you exchange greetings here and there or that you talk to her on a daily basis or that you treat her to food.

Being her friend means that she trusts you with not only her issues but as someone who she can vent her feelings out when she’s needs to release stress.

If she hasn’t come crawling to you during her hard times then you’re unfortunately quite not there yet.

Secondly, to completely be in the friend zone you have to share the same mutual feelings as she does.

If the friend zone means that she’s leaving you as her friend and not her partner, then she would obviously know about your feelings and will have to feel the same way as you do.

However, due to circumstances, she can friend zone you because she feels that she is not ready or that something is missing. She cannot friend zone you if she only thought of you as a friend to begin with.

In reality, the friend zone is the place that you want to find yourself at if you cannot immediately gain the position of being her boyfriend.

Since the term “friend zone” has been overused too many times, it has also been inaccurately used by the wrong people.

Thus, the term is now reflected as a negative position for most men to be at. Fortunately, when you are friend zoned you have a better chance then someone who isn’t at the friend zone.

If you managed to fit the criteria mentioned before for being in the friend zone then you are in the right track. All you need is a little more push and a little more shove and you’re good to go.

If you’re reading this book then you’re most likely stuck in the friend zone, one way or another. There is one fact of being in the friend zone that is true and that is the nice guys.

Often times, many nice guys end up being stuck in the friend zone because their female partners cannot come to a conclusion that they are fully meant to be together.

Basically, there is an aspect that most nice guys lack that most females look for and if you don’t have that then she isn’t feeling it.

That doesn’t mean that every nice guy will be friend zoned and that doesn’t mean that every nice guy will make it to the friend zone.

It all depends on how you are and your level of attraction. Sure, if you’ve been rejected by a girl you like then you’re going to want to complain because you’ve been trying your best with her.

However, if you’re going to sit around and mope about how she didn’t chose the great guy that you believe yourself to be then why are you moping about her decision.

There are some guys who would go through the trouble of indirectly offending the girl that he has been rejected from.

Now, it seems fine to do because you aren’t at your best mood but why are you insulting her if you wanted to be with her?

That isn’t going to make her change her mind about you, especially in a more positive light.

Now that you know what the friend zone actually is, your goal is to get there and above.

When you’re in the friend zone, you will be much closer to winning the girl of your dreams than to someone who isn’t.

Often, most girls will either accept or straight out reject. Girls who are the type to friend zone you are the types that are willing to give you a little more time.

Now, they aren’t accepting to be your girlfriend. Being friend zoned is a sign that girls will give off to you in order to let you know that you still have a chance in the long run.

All you need to do next after getting that chance is to step up on your game and win her heart.

Attraction:

Physical attraction is easy. All you have to do is look your best and make sure that you’re able to please the eyes of your viewers.

Of course, that doesn’t mean that you have to look like a celebrity that many girls will drool over. Just be yourself and look the best you can be.

Chances are, if someone is going to be so shallow as to judge your looks then you obviously know who to not want in your life.

Before you can attract the girl that you want to the best of your abilities you have to know yourself first.

You have to pinpoint your strong points and your weak points. You have to know what type of person you are and who you most likely fit well with.

It’s good to be physically attractive but if you want a life long partner, your personality is going to get you into the long term relationship.

Note that attraction has nothing to do with your looks, your money, or image. If a woman was to base her relationship with you on that then your relationship with her will not last for a very long time.

Also, your image doesn’t explain the full story to your partner. She is going to eventually figure out the type of person that you are so don’t try to play it cool only for you to disappoint her later on.

Don’t try being an obnoxious, arrogant jerk either. There’s a popular saying that if you’re a jerk then girls will like you.

It doesn’t actually work that way. The statement is more like, “You’re lacking what most jerks have.” When a woman says that she wants a nice man, she literally means it.

However, what she wants and what she naturally wants are two different things. It’s like a woman expecting you to like her when you don’t. Likewise, a woman isn’t going to like you if she doesn’t feel attracted to you. It’s common sense.

Women are complex creatures. It’s been stated and accepted. If you haven’t noticed, women are usually around men who tend to be more outgoing then men who are shy and quiet.

That’s because women likes to have fun. That doesn’t necessarily mean that they are a party animal.

It just means that they want to relax and express themselves without having to act serious all the time.

Quiet and shy guys tend to stop a girl from acting free because it can ruin the mood between both parties.

This is why the quiet ones tend to be more of the friend than the boyfriend. This is probably the number one reason as to why “nice guys tend to finish last.”

There isn’t anything wrong with being the nice guy. Girls tend to feel more comfortable being around nice guys more often because they can be trusted compared to the outgoing types.

However, the reason why most nice guys are friend zoned is because they are lacking the fun aspect that most girls are easily attracted to.

Also, girls do enjoy being around a man who has some sense of dominance in the relationship. Note that dominance does not equal to dictatorship.

When a man dictates a relationship, he is completely controlling his partner. However, when a man shows dominance in a relationship, he is simply showing his partner that he knows what he is doing and how is he going to do it.

Women adore this side of men and will crave for those that can provide them with that sense of security.

If you’re a nice guy and you can incorporate that type of aspect into your personality then that is a very big bonus for you.

Of course, it will all be how you play it out in the end that’s going to let your partner see how you are as a person.

There is, of course, a type of aspect that you want to ignore at all cost. There are some men who are willing to go great extents to win the girl he wants but that’s all he’ll do.

These are the types of men that will only do something in hope of gaining something in return. If you want the girl of your dreams to notice you then stay away from that habit or else you’ll drive her away. It may sound unreasonable but no one wants an act of kindness if they are expected to return it.