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I have split this book and my story into two parts. The first part shares a small portion of my life and some of the challenges I experienced growing up. The second half shows how I have used my learning, trainings and experiences, together with different strategies and energy psychology techniques, to give me a greater understanding of myself, my behaviours and that of human nature in general. The combination of it all has given me the courage to review and deal with my past, crush my personal limitations, grow my confidence, develop a bulletproof self belief and learn to love myself, exactly as I am.

How you love yourself, is how you teach others to love you

Rupi Kaur

At the end of my writing I include a reference page for more information on the people, tools and the techniques that I found useful in helping me move through my fears and to stay strong during confrontations. I have also compiled a list of quotes that I found motivating in helping me to stay the course when I struggled with working through some of my tougher issues. This book is not meant to be flawless by any means, but in order to share with you my insights so you too may grow, after nearly a year of writing and editing, and realising that there is always more I can say, more that I can elaborate on and definitely more I can share, I have finally decided that done is better than perfect.

Disclaimer - The latter part of my book, while full of useful information and helpful strategies, is not meant in any way to be an instruction manual, nor a claim that the techniques contained herein are a cure all. I have simply written about the techniques I used, how I applied them, and shared the positive effects that each of them had for me. I would encourage anyone who wants to move through their own personal challenges to complete further research with respect to the energy psychology techniques I have mentioned, and for greater application, and a deeper understanding to work with a qualified therapist.

Also, in writing this book, I have not bound myself to writing within any kind of structure, nor have I written in compliance with any type of predetermined framework. I have simply wanted to express myself freely, as though we are sitting down with a great cup of coffee having a casual chat, while sharing with you my story, my ideas, my random thoughts on things and the various processes that I used to keep me focused and moving forward. I am not striving for excellence here, just the relaying of my learnings and experiences with a view to showing you that anything is possible when you are committed to your personal growth, and because of it, put your mind to it and take positive action.

I believe that we can keep ourselves stuck in a variety of ways, not least that we think we need to be perfect in order to be acceptable, but that's an absolute lie! That said, I had exactly the same thoughts before writing this book, and telling you my story, but I am now going ahead and doing it anyway. I want to reassure every single one of you, that your life is important, and that all of your stories are more than worthy of being heard and read, if you ever choose to tell them. You don't have to share or publish any of it, you can just write it for your family to read, and for them to learn more about you, or you can just write it for yourself. But if you do want to publish it, then do so and be proud of yourself for making the effort. I am publishing my story and this book, not just for myself, but to inspire others to believe in their uniqueness, and to have, want and be more for themselves too. Realise and understand that it's not selfish to want more either, it's actually very necessary, not least because wanting more actually requires you to dig really deep and give a lot more of yourself in return, anyway.

“Your greatest responsibility is to love yourself and

To know that you are enough.”

On a side note: My life could have worked out very differently for me than it has, had I not made the commitment to believe in myself and throw myself into large scale learning and understanding. I could, just as easily, have stayed where I was, blaming others, feeling hurt, being angry and resentful, and feeling completely inadequate in one way or another too, but then ‘they’, that is the people that hurt me, would have won. And there was no darn way, not under any circumstances, was I ever going to let that happen, and my passion for growth inspired by my hunger for knowledge absolutely ensured that I stayed on track with that.

My love of learning still keeps me super busy as I continue to absorb and understand all aspects of human conduct and behaviour. One of the best things I ever did was to learn about different behaviours, and contrasting attitudes displayed through the actions of various types of people, and then later to work out my own feelings and responses to other people's way of behaving.

In the following pages, I will share many of my learnings together with the wisdom I gained, the growth I experienced and my thoughts on the whole process of healing, from the inside out. I aim to show you how I have designed and shaped my life to be one where I am now at peace with myself, and living a life that despite my objectionable start, I love and enjoy completely, and it's also one I feel that I can be totally proud of.

I know to my very core that I am a good human being. I am fun loving, generous, extremely honest, decidedly kind and exceptionally forgiving. I also have a constant joyful and happy disposition, which I mostly attribute to an ever growing understanding of myself, of other people and the complexities of living life in general. Many people, I realise, are driven by questionable belief systems and do not have a limitless life because of it, and just as many go through life full of self doubt, totally reliant on others for approval. We are, each and everyone of us, significantly more than we often allow ourselves to believe, and one of my goals in writing this book is to show you, not just the truth of that statement, but a whole lot more with the intention of setting fire to that wonderful tool we all have called imagination.

In the following chapters of this book, you will find I may have repeated myself, sometimes more than once, but I do so simply because many of the concepts, strategies or things I want to share or explain cross over innumerable times into similar events. This is not meant to antagonise or frustrate you in any way, but purely to give a complete picture of whatever it is I am talking about, and a few times this has felt, to me anyway, to be quite necessary.

On the upside of that, and since repetition, according to Tony Robbins, is the mother of all skill, and we all know that doing things over and over is actually how we learn everything, I believe that my repetition will serve only to reinforce everything you read and learn more successfully anyway - which really makes it all an even bigger WIN WIN!