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What do we mean by ‘flirting’ anyway?

Let’s begin by redefining the word ‘flirting’. Remember, if we didn’t redefine things as we went along we’d all still be hunting for our meat and living in caves. Flirting comes from the old French word fleurter, meaning ‘to flower’. Here are a few modern definitions from participants in my flirting classes:

1 Flirting is about fun, connecting with and getting to know people.

2 Flirting is a way of showing people you are interested in them.

3 Flirting is about giving compliments, smiling and making people happy.

4 Flirting is like a butterfly that flutters past in all its beauty, and when we try to catch it, it flies away leaving us wanting more …

5 Flirting is making yourself so attractive that people can’t resist you.

6 Flirting is being able to break down people’s barriers and make contact.

7 Flirting is a harmless entertaining diversion that you can choose to take further if you wish.

Here’s a mnemonic that sums up flirting for me:

Feeling good about yourself.

Liking other people.

Interest in others makes YOU interesting.

Rapport and resonance.

Talking their language.

Initiating conversation.

‘No’ means move on to the next. No, next, no, next! Bingo! Yes!

Giving great voice and loosening up your body.

Flirting isn’t just restricted to interaction with the opposite sex. It’s also useful in social and work situations. Your style of flirting can range from simply social to strongly sexual. Great flirting, when done appropriately and with a friendly go-for-it attitude, is the gateway to more romance, deeper friendships, enhanced professional relationships and a definite feel-good sensation for you and people you flirt with.