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AN UNEXPECTED DEATH

You hit one of those big 0’s – forty, fifty or sixty years of age. (My son was horrified when he reached thirty!) These days they are not big in terms of age – people speak of sixty as the new fifty, fifty as the new forty and so on. They are big years however in terms of their impact on your thinking. You knew you would eventually reach fifty and sixty of course but it is something of a shock when you actually get there. The person looking out at the world through your eyes has never changed in your mind. You look at yourself in the mirror and you only see a person who has matured. You still have your youthful looks – well…you think so anyway - and you are as mentally alert and physically active as you have been for years. Nothing’s changed. Or has it?

The truth is that it’s often what you can’t see that is starting to change. Changes in the way you are thinking, your emotions, your outlook on life, your sense of what seems important in life, even in the way people respond to you. You might suddenly cringe a little when you hear someone refer to ‘older people’ or people who are showing signs of ageing. Did they have you in mind? Surely not! Yet I remember the absolute shock when for the very first time a school pupil stood up for me in the bus and insisted I take her seat. I should have been thankful but my first reaction was one of horror. Do I look that old??! In fact we were both right – she saw signs of my physical ageing, but she couldn’t possibly know that in my heart I was continuing to feel mentally young and agile.

Suddenly somebody you know well dies unexpectedly. You have probably already experienced the death of somebody you know. This time however he or she is at an age uncomfortably close to yours. You feel what is often called a mortality jolt – a rude reminder that you are indeed mortal. You are staring in the face the fact that one day it will all come to an end. Worst of all you have no idea when it might happen. You certainly didn’t expect your friend to die so soon. You still think of yourself as being ‘immortal’, well at least for quite a few years yet. You don’t dwell on this, you just become a little more aware that the one day as in ‘one day I want to…” is getting closer.

Some years ago a client of mine was hit by a car while he was standing on the footpath. He was in hospital for weeks in a coma and his life was hanging in the balance. When I was finally able to speak with him his first words to me were “Peter whatever you planned to do, do it today”. It was a sobering reminder that life is always a delicate balance of, statistically, the modern person can expect to live increasingly longer, against the reality that it could all end today. Personally, it strengthened my resolve to continue making the most of my talents as much as possible for the benefit of as many people as possible and for as long as life would allow me to do so. Put more simply, I had a good look at my bucket list and realized that life is what you are doing right now; there is no guarantee of tomorrow. For me, this book forms part of my continuing resolve, part of which is to do what I can to help you get the most out of that ‘single-performance play - “Your Life”.

The good news is that this change-of-life going on around you and in your own life includes a new and very positive social shift in reviewing, assessing and resolving the issues affecting your decision about if and when to leave fulltime work. Essentially, we are retiring the word “retired”. It’s time to take a new, more modern approach to writing your script for your life’s Act Three in the play “Your Life”. This approach should reflect the realities of what people are in fact thinking and doing to re-energize their lives today.

There has already been a huge shift in the way life’s journey is being viewed. The younger generations are already seeing the traditional option of one long and distinguished career at work as just one of a variety of options to consider in deciding how best they can satisfy their hunger to grow and develop their potential. The idea of reaching a specific age at which society decrees that you should stop working for any reason at all is rapidly becoming an outdated way of thinking.

This is a matter of some public debate as governments globally look for ways of managing the increasingly major economic challenges of an ageing society. One option to minimize the impact of this on the economy is to increase the age at which a person is entitled to receive a government-funded age pension. This possibility appals those people who want to quit work as soon as possible and see it as changing the goal posts at a late stage of their life. They were looking to the pension as a key part of sustaining their preferred lifestyle during the dessert years.

Then there are those of us too who will decide if and when to cease formal employment irrespective of what governments decide in relation to the eligibility to receive an age pension. The most public reason is usually that they have made good financial plans well in advance of leaving fulltime work. The lesser understood reason – and I believe at least as important – is that they have seen life as being more than simply their job. They have also developed life-time interests over many years, based on following their passions and developing their natural talents. They have long recognized, whether they like their job or not, that what they do for sheer enjoyment provides emotional and health benefits far beyond simply enjoying a break from work. This book suggests this approach is never too late to adopt and build into your continuing life journey.

The Hunger to Grow

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