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Although most of us have experienced some crisis in our life or know someone who has, we do not like to think about the fact that one day we may be challenged to deal with a minor or major crisis. Many of us do not respond well to crises, either because we do not have the skills to effectively manage these crises or because we only think about what we should have done once the crisis is over. The bottom line is that preparation for meeting crises can make a crucial, if not life-saving, difference.

Typically we do not choose crisis events that occur in our lives, but we do have choices about how we respond and cope with crises. Bob draws on years of experience as a clinical psychologist, as well as his personal experiences and the life experiences of others, to provide you with basic knowledge and skills you can apply in dealing with the unexpected events of daily life. In this timely book, Take Control of Life’s Crises Today!, Bob invites you to apply each chapter to your own life to better understand how to manage your life’s crises. Many personal stories enrich this book and provide lessons we all can learn from. Bob’s goals are to assist you in learning more about your own style of crisis management, to help you develop a system for more effectively coping with crises, and to help you prepare to effectively handle any future crises that may come your way.

A number of features of this book make it unique and valuable both for laypeople and for mental health professionals. You will learn how to assess your current ability to cope with crises. Bob provides a self-assessment tool to help you refine your conclusions. How did you experience the crisis? How well did you resolve it? And most important, how can you become more effective in future crisis situations? Bob describes specific steps for preparing for a crisis cognitively, emotionally, and behaviorally. Although we often do not have control over the crises that come our way, our self-talk has a great deal to do with how these crises affect us. It may not be possible to change events, but we can change how we perceive these events and how we react to them. With Bob’s guidance and encouragement, you will learn how to respond positively to what is under your control.

In today’s world, crises are occurring with ever-increasing frequency, and you will find many recent examples in these pages. Do you think you are too busy to spend time preparing for something that may happen in the future? Do you think you will somehow magically know the right actions to take when you find yourself in the chaos of a personal crisis? Bob would strongly disagree. We do not get better at something if we never practice our skills. Even minimal preparation and reflection on what you might do when faced with a crisis can help you act more effectively in a crisis. Bob sets out step-by-step guidelines for handling both minor and major crises. The numerous case examples show both effective and ineffective ways people have coped with crises, and these illustrations offer excellent material for self-reflection. You can gain foresight by analyzing others’ hindsight.

The discussion of resilience is invaluable. Your ability to recover from a bleak situation, to learn from it, and to garner courage in moving forward is a skill just like any other. You will also learn that effective self-care is a buffer against the stress of a crisis.

Three chapters speak to specific audiences. Chapter 7, for parents, provides unique information to help parents understand how their children react to a crisis and the ways it might affect them. It also offers a blueprint for parents in helping their children become better prepared to handle crises throughout their lives as they become mature and resilient individuals. Chapter 8, for teachers, acknowledges the serious responsibility teachers have to keep our children safe and secure. It is loaded with practical tips for improving planning and teamwork in the school setting. Finally, Chapter 9, for first responders, takes a look at the unique stresses that affect those who are first on the scene to help all of us whenever a disaster occurs.

Although this book is easy to read and personal, it contains a serious message about concerns common to us all. You can improve the way you deal with life’s crises. Take Control of Life’s Crises Today! will get you thinking about how you can prepare for your next crisis.

Marianne Schneider Corey, MA

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Consultant

Gerald Corey, EdD, ABPP

Professor Emeritus, Human Services and Counseling

California State University, Fullerton